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[graygables]

My mom saved all my wedding photos from the first time around, just in case anyone was interested (no one has been...although DH does have a picture of me in the wedding dress in his "Dawn" album [img]/ubb/images/graemlins/ukid.gif[/img]) I did the whole cut-the-creep-out-of-the-pictures thing, but when I was moving, I dumped a whole box including photos of my trip to WDW when I was PG w/ DD1. Those were some of the rare photos taken of me when I was PG and at WDW to boot. [img]/ubb/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img] Now that I'm older and wiser, I really regret pitching them. REALLY regret it. I still can't stay in a Red Roof Inn b/c of that trip, so I wonder if having the photos would just upset me, but I do wish I had saved even a few of them.

So, how do you handle unhappy photos?

[maggieworkman]

I don't know. I don't really have a situation like yours so can't really say. But I am all for saving the pictures. That is who/what you were at the time. You can't hide it and its part of you and your past. I also don't agree with the cutting out of people. I think you might as well throw away the pictures unless maybe you can crop them out without it being obvious. I mean, I wouldn't display them on my living room wall or anything, but maybe keep them in a box.

I guess I don't understand the mentality that some people have (I am not talking about you, Dawn.) For example, my sister in law was mad because in my wedding album there were pictures of my brother in law with his girlfriend at the time. SIL wanted me to take them out of my album. Um Hello. This was before BIL even knew you. Why would you get mad that he was dancing with his girlfriend at the time?? I don't get it.

Now pictures where my hair is funky or I look fat! I am all for throwing those out. So go figure.

Maggie

[heather2148]

I can understand where you are coming from. I also have "disposed" of pictures from the past. Actually they were pics from my first marriage. We only eloped so there were just a few. Aside from those if I don't like a picture I just hide it away. Have to say I have no regrets about getting rid of the few. If they are something my kids would like to see, exMIL has copies.

[RobinKay6573]

As you guys all know I am a shutterbug and take photos of EVERYTHING! My photo albums from college in Boston are full of gaps. Why? that is where I pulled out all the photos of my (now) ex-husband. They are just too painful to look at but I did save a few and put them in a sealed envelope in put them on the bottom of a box holding other memory stuff. My college yearbook has two photos of John and I...one takes up half a page. [img]/ubb/images/graemlins/smirk.gif[/img] I didn't do anything to the photos. Sometimes I do look at them and think, "What did I see in that guy!" [img]/ubb/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img]

[ladyt]

Well, I still have lots of pics of my ex, but that's because he is still my dd's dad, so that's unavoidable. I guess if I had that situation I would be tempted to just put them in a box somewhere and avoid looking at them. But I definately don't throw any away. I, like Dawn, would end up regretting it I'm sure.

[BelleoftheBallLV]

<font color="red"> i was engaged when i was 15, i know young. we were together for 18 months, and i wish i still had a camera that he threw out the window on a vacation we took. he may not have been my prince charming, but those memories are still important. I have at least one picture of all of my serious boyfriends, even the abusive one, because i think it is important to remember my past. My little sister just broke up with her bf of 3 years, and she wanted to throw all the pix away, and i told her not to, that i would keep them, so that after she heals, she will still have the memories. I even have pictures of my mom, who i never speak to, and dont like very much. i scrapbook so that future generations will know my family's past, even the not so good parts of my past. well thats what i do with my pix at least, but i understand the urge to cut the bad people out of them, i almost did that with my mom's pix, but i thought about it first, and decided to wait until i calmed down to decide, and once i was calm, i knew i would want to keep them. My kids will want to know who there grandmother was and what she looks like.

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