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[Fantasmic! kid]

Ok... I feel very weird posting this here.... but I just feel like I should...

Ok, There is this girl in my Choir that I am CRAZY about. It's gotten to the point were she is the only thing I think about all day (even new 50th info doesn't get me side tracked, and that is saying something ). During my time on Rollercoaster Tycoon, instead of creating DL, I've been creating firework shows about her, and created coasters that give the riders the flip-flop feeling in there stomach like when I see her. The way I act around her is almost like how Aladdin acts when he first sees Jasmine, but I don't think I make it as obvious as he dose.
Normally, I am perfectly fine with girls, I actually get along with them better then guys, because all my friends growing up were girls. The thing is though, is that all of my friends are all Home Schooled (like me), and the way the "system" works seems to be completely different at Public Schools... so I am (mostly) back on square 1. I actually have helped in the past some of my guy friends hook up with some girls, so I find it so weird to be in this position (it's almost like the movie Hitch). I really have no idea how to start, partly because it's hard to get her alone in a huge Choir (70 teens and tweens)... so I would like to know if anyone has any suggestions...

[graygables]

DO YOUR SCHOOLWORK!!! JK, I'm a homeschooling mom, so that's what I *have* to say! Is the girl in PS? Does she already have a "boyfriend"? Do you talk at all? Most importantly, do you know how she feels about Disney??? OK, maybe that's not so important at this point.

I have a teen daughter and I would suggest that a young man begin with a simple hello and a smile. If that goes over well, a flower (my DD would say *NOT* a rose...that's too forward) the next time would be a nice touch. Ask her permission to call her or to e-mail her and her response will give you some information on what she's thinking. It's important to take time getting to know one another (and meet the parents, ahem) before jumping into the whole "dating" thing.

If she isn't homeschooled, she may have some wrong impressions about homeschooled kids. I realize that the group Hanson might not have the impact they used to, but they are pretty cool and they were homeschooled! You may have to change some pre-conceived notions, if she has them.

Most of all, breathe and relax! Here's a dose of for you!

[loobyoxlip]

FantasmicKid! Be sure to tell us if anything transpires!!

[disneymom9092]

Keep us posted!

[BritDisFan]

Have you tried smiling at this girl and catching her eye? A nice genuine smile works wonders for some girls, (a boy at school used to smile at me, he had the most gorgeous smile and I really started liking him after that) after smiling a few times maybe you will feel comfortable about approaching her and striking up a conversation.

Let us know how it goes .

Karen

[Cheeser]

I would start with a smile too! It's been a while, about 15 years...but my DH and I met in swimming class...we didn't really get to interact much because we were busy doing swimming activities all the time, but I will always remember his first smile at me. He also made a point to catch me after class and ask if he could get my number. He took a big risk...but many years later..I like to think it was worth it. Some girls really need the boy to make the first step...he smiled at me..and I smiled back...then he asked me for my number and I was 2 years younger but still gave it to him. So start with a smile...I even like the flower gift idea...or even candy or something Disney. Then move on...in this day and age...my DD deals with it by giving out her email or IM name...she's currently dumping her boyfriend for her IM buddy. She says the IM guy talks to her more and has more of the same interests...than her Boyfriend. She also says that a lot has to do with respect. If she feels that a guy treats her with respect every day all day that she likes him more than those guys who still try to tease/make fun of her. So keep that in mind. She likes the guy to make the first move to approach her by talking to her too. Might be a little old fashioned for some...but it tends to work. Hope this helps. Keep in mind my daughter is only 12 but very mature. She likes slightly older boys of about 13 or 14...which might be younger than you...but I think it still holds the same weight opinion wise.

[joyjoy]

I'm going to agree with the smiling. Find a way to get to walk past her or sit by her or somehow be in her line of sight and smile and say hi. Do this a lot. I have to disagree with Dawn, I wouldn't give her a flower - that's a little much, imo. Pretty soon, she'll be smiling first when she sees you. Then you can strike up a conversation. It's easy because you have choir in common. Ask her how long she's been singing. Ask her if she takes private lessons. ASK HER ANYTHING! Let her talk about herself - girls love that. Then, she will start asking you about you, and before you know it, y'all will be going to the prom. Oh, and don't tell her about the roller coasters and fireworks shows. I know how you feel, but that might be a little overwhelming at first. Tell her in a few months when she's your gf.

[Jillybean]

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Have you tried smiling at this girl and catching her eye? A nice genuine smile works wonders for some girls, (a boy at school used to smile at me, he had the most gorgeous smile and I really started liking him after that) after smiling a few times maybe you will feel comfortable about approaching her and striking up a conversation.

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Perfect answer! A smile is the perfect intro!

Let us know what happens!

Jill

[GATechGal]

I like the smiling and conversation advice. Be her friend. All the really great relationships that I had began as just friendships. So buddy around with her. See if you can get a group up for the movies and ask her along. That way to begin with it's not like "A DATE" but then later it progresses into more. Good luck. Dating can be hard, but we've all gone through it. But you have to make the first step.

[KrisLuvsDisney]

I would do the smiling and getting to know each other first. Ask for her phone number or email address...go easy if she give you this info. Take it slow and become good friends first, that is very important. Keep us posted!

[Fantasmic! kid]

Hey guys, thanks for the replies! Tonight was Choir rehearsal, and even though our eyes met ALOT, I didn't actually get to speak to her until right before I left. We were in the walk way to the parking-lot , and all of a sudden some group of girls started chasing one of my friends, leaving me and her alone. As the group rounded the corner and headed out of sight, we heard something bang and then crash. We looked at each other, and she said "Crazy, huh?" and I replied "Ya, kind of weird really" and then right as I was about to get to something "constructive", Mom conveniently appears . But, on a good note, it seems we now can safely talk together.

[ilovelilo]

I'm glad you can talk to her! Maybe you two will become friends first, then maybe more. Good luck!

[DreaminDizney1002]

Great start! At least now you have opened up the lines of communication and you can look forward to the next choir rehearsal! Keep us posted and Good Luck!