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Old 03-08-2004, 09:46 PM   #1
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A difficult situation

Unfortunately, I have had to deal with a very unpleasant situation- tonight before my night class, I had it out with someone who I considered a friend but in the past few weeks, has behaved in such a manner that I made the decision I just was miserable and really wanted the friendhsip to end. The conversation, which I tried to keep on an even keel escolated into something you would expect from 6th graders. She completely refused to acknowledge the things she did that were hurtful and ridiculous so it only strengthened my resolve to end it. The friendship is certainly over now but it was a painful and difficult way to get there- I so wanted to end this in a mature way but she made that impossible. She did end up moving to another seat( making sure our other classmates were keenly aware of the problems between us) and ingnoring me which is exactly what I wished for.

Even though I know things will get smoother as time goes on, I haven't been through anything like this since junior high and it was a totally miserable situation. I am though, convinced I made the right decision- her handling of the whole thing made it even clearer this is someone who was bringing me down, and not lifting me up as a friend should.

I could use some pixie dust if you have it to spare. Tommorow is a new day and I am sure it will be better as I pack for our trip to the World.
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Old 03-08-2004, 09:50 PM   #2
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Gosh, it certainly does sound like a difficult situation Maureen! Unfortunately there are people in life that are "toxic" and tend to bring you down rather than lift you up. You made the right decision to end the relationship, even if it hurts right now. Always listen to your heart.

I'm sending you a ton of pixie dust to lift your spirits!
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Old 03-08-2004, 09:56 PM   #3
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Sorry to hear how things ended, though sounds like it is for the best. You don't need friends like that. I swear, some people never grow up. Lots of Pixie dust coming your way!!
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I promise I won't cause this type of scene at the Contemporary. Good riddance to immature people, and to make you feel better.
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<font color="blue">I hope you feel better. It will not be long before your in the land of the mouse. </font>
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Re: A difficult situation

Maureen
When it comes to relationships we have to listen to our hearts. It sounds like you did the correct thing--hold on tomorrow it will be easier. Even though I've never met you I know you do not deserve anyone hurting you or causing you harm--from the correspondence we've had I know you are a truly caring loving person. Now get packing--your trip is only a couple of days away. Get to Disney and let the magic take over. Here's lots of pixie dust--
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Sorry things went so badly but it does seem to confirm that you made the right decision to end the friendship.
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A tough situation, Maureen. That's one of those situations that prevent you from sleeping. Sending along and a smile.
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Maureen, I know what you are going through. In December, I had it out with a woman that I had considered a friend for almost 10 years. It was very painful and hard to deal with, especially right before the holiday. And, we live in a small town so everyone knows (her story/ side of it, I refuse to talk about it, I don't feel others need to know - it is info that could hurt her kids)
Anyway, my point is - it was getting harder and harder to deal with her, and after the pain and anger were gone, it did not take long to feel as if a huge burden were taken from me. I have figured out that she was the reason, or at least a contributing factoring to my being down for most of the fall (I love the fall and winter)
SO, hang in, don't let it depress you too much, cry, and laugh about the memories, and talk to someone else that knows the story (my DH was great at listening - I think he was just not hearing, but that did not matter, I felt he was listening)
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Sorry to hear that the problems escalated - it's not nice to have gone through that, but at least she's now got the message and hopefully it's all over. Sending your way to help you do all that packing for your wonderful trip to Disney!
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Oh Maureen, it's terrible you had so much trouble with a so called friend. Well done for listening to your heart and having the courage to end the friendship, you may feel miserable about it now but it is definately for the best in the long run.

Here's some , have a great holiday at WDW.

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Gosh Maureen, sending you lots of Sounds like you made the right decision!! There's no reason to be miserable, and it's only right to get rid of those things that are making you that!! Hang in there, you're going to Disney World
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Oh Maureen that is so sad that she chose to act in an immature fashion.. I'm sure you are better off not being her friend
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Maureen, for you.

I had a similar situation in October with someone I was once close to. It got too hard to keep the friendship going, and we went our seperate ways. It was not an easy decision, but as time went by, I knew in my heart it was the right decision.

You will feel much better in the World!
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Maureen, good for you for sticking up for yourself and not allowing toxic people to be a part of your life. Sending pixie dust that a trip to WDW will heal all hurts!
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