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[Wendyismyname]

I sure have! I'm having what I call a very DARK day. Thank God I don't have them often! Sometimes you wonder, is life really worth it?

Lately, my DS who is 9, has been yelling at me and stomping his feet around the house. Making a donkey out of himself. Hope it's just a phase. I feel like I've failed in parenting. Maybe instead of grounding him, he needs a good backhanding or whipping! There's some times you just need to smack them, but I find it harder and harder to do it.
I'm not weak. But this morning, while crying (something I don't do very often), I thought I would walk out in front of a car, or if I'd had a gun, I probably would have ended it right then and there. Then I thought, HELL NO! Suicide is not the answer! My family is too important to behave so selfishly! I've got too much worth fighting for!

my problems are just trivial, but I'm sure everyone has these days! Surely I'm not the only one out there who has these thoughts?

I'm just so tired of being yelled at! I just hope it's a phase. There's nothing medically wrong with him. I think he's spoiled rotten!! He certainly doesn't act like this around any one else!

Well, thanks for letting me vent and share my dark day.

wendy

[LilMarcieMouse]

<font color="blue">I hope things start looking up for you. </font>

[DisneyEveryJanuary]

Hope you are feling better Wendy!

[Dumbo]

I've had those days too. Our youngest is 23 and there are days I want to strangle him.
Sometimes a good spanking wakes them up. A 9 year old should not talk back to his mother. You need to find out what the real reason is. Good luck.

[Wendyismyname]

When I think about him yelling, it's in the morning. i'm thinking he's not a morning person. but it doesn't excuse him from his actions.

I'm feeling better now after getting it off my chest. I just always hate when I start feeling sorry for myself. I don't like pity, even if it is from myself! LOL!!

Thanks you guys for caring!!

Wendy

[MegglesMom]

{{{HUGS}}} and Wendy! I hope you feel better soon!

[Irene]

<font color="blue"> Hope you feel better </font>

[stretch2864]

I hope it helps to know that you not alone. Believe me--I've been there and done that. DD is 16 now but as a single parent for the last 15 years, I've had my share of meltdown moments. One of my friends would always say to me, "This too shall pass." More than likely this is a phase that will pass eventually. Hang in there! You have a lot of friends here at Passporter to support you through.

[Colexis Mom]

Sending you lots of and {{{{hugs}}}} Wendy!! Hang in there!

[goofy4goofy]

Hang in there! I totally know what you are going through..I think every parent does.

Kelly

[chezp]

Wendy, hope you have a better day today. Sending some your way.

[Wendyismyname]

This morning was so much better! Thanks for all the hugs and Pixie dust!! DH talked to him last night and I think DS got the message. I was thinking that Santa needs to put alot of coal in DS stocking!!

I shudder to think how much my DD will change when she becomes a teenager(5 more years) and I certainly don't want to think how DS will be when he's a teenager either!! To bad we can't skip straight to when they get married and have their own kids! LOL!!

Thanks again everyone!!

Wendy

[GoofyMom]

<font color="0066cc">I'm sorry you had a day filled with such despair yesterday. I'm very glad to hear that things are looking much brighter for you today. And as the Mom of 2 teens, I'll tell you that, eventually they start to think a little more like a grown up. Yep, they'll still give you that teenage attitude and angst stuff, but they can also act more maturely which is very nice. Hang in there for a few more up and down years and before you know it they will be grown up, married and have kids of their own to drive them crazy. Hey, it's called payback. </font>

[TINKN]

Sorry you were feeling so down, but I'm glad today is going better.

[mrsmaup]

Im glad you are feeling better today. I too have a 9 year old boy who has recently started w/a major disrespecting attitude towards me. I think part of it really is a phase. A boy of 9-12 is just starting puberty and has lots of testosterone and no place to put it!LOL!! Trapped between little boy and adolescent and not happy about either title.

A good friend of mine who raised 4 boys successfully told me that one of the best things she did with her boys at about that age is that she kept them physically busy. That it burned off that extra testestorone and energy and made them human again. If your dh has yard work outside; snow shoveling, cleaning out basements, etc, have 9 year old help him. It will give them that "man to man" time to talk and will make him feel important that dad "needed" his help. The more important and needed a child feels(in a more adult way as helper or second man of family) then the more he feels he needs to be "responsible in all ways". Does that make sense? My husband has been dragging my son all over the place after supper and on weekends to "help" him. Get the oil changed, shovel the driveway, fix the 4 wheeler and snowmobile, etc. He has lost alot of time he used to spend giving me a major attitude.

I dont know how much your dh is away from home, but my husband is gone about 3-5 months out of every year(spaced out over the year). Before he leaves, he sits my son down and reminds him that he is the "man" of the house while he is gone and he EXPECTS him to take care of things; to help mom and sister. My son thrives on expectations from his father especially, so he usually steps up to the plate big time and dosent revert back unless I coddle him and try and treat him like a little boy.

I dont mean to imply at all that you are not doing this well, just trying to tell you what I have found that has begun to work w/my 9 year old attitude monster, I MEAN son!LOL!!

Hang in there!!!! Im so glad you feel better today! It is so rough to be the object of nastiness by our own children isnt it?