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Sorry for the rant.......but I want to scream! To sum it up. DH started to work a 2nd job. The hopes. Cut back my working so much and spend more times with the kids. Our oldest DD struggles in school terribly. Not to mention her behaviors (another story). So the deal was. I would handle the cooking cleaning, and for the time being work a full time job, while he works. (until my boss gets the ok to cut me back) So last night I came home from work, and he had the night off. Guess what, homework not done...........Of course DD attempted to do it herself, but he didn't check or follow threw. Well @ 8pm our DD can't even focus her meds are out of her system. grrrr. (not the 1st time he "forgot")
Then I start cleaning up, house is bad shape I have been busy with work and was in a wedding. He says "I'm up all night don't worry I will get a start on it go ahead go to bed"
I wake up, not one beeping thing is picked up. What is he doing, sitting in front of TV. then I say I thought you were going to clean up? He replies "sorry I forgot" really you can't see the piles and piles of laundry or the over flowing dishes? Oh, and why am I up early? to help DD with homework. He quickly comes upstairs and starts looking @ DD's homework. Then I look @ him, are you helping her? He doesn't answer.....So my smart mouth says "If you are not helping then give me the homework back so we can get it done!"
So I look @ him and say "I need you to help me" "I can't do this on my own" "I don't want to mad at you every time I go to work and you have a day off" Of course he gets upset, and says I'm being unreasonable.
I know my husband is working many hours. I understand he is tired, I am too. But I feel like he expects me to pick up the pieces........I am asking to much??????
I'm big on lists. If I were you I'd make a chart of all the stuff that needed to get done that day. Put times on it if you need to (a la Supernanny). If your stuff changes every day make your list on a chalkboard. Make it big and prominent so it can't be over looked. But working 2 jobs can be overwhelming just to have to switch your mind to do a different task. But a list clarifies it and gives you a sense of accomplishment when you can check stuff off.
As for you DD and the homework, I HIGHLY recommend John Rosemond's "Ending the Homework Hassle". It's a book I read when my kids were young and it really helped our family.
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I'm sorry.
It is frustrating that one spouse doesn't notice when things need to be done. Even when they've been asked to help.
I agree that you might need to have a chart/list of things to do each day and who will take care of them. Don't forget to add things that your DDs can do too. Everyone should have some responsibilities.
As far as homework, does you DD just need someone to sit with her and answer questions or prompt her to keep working? Any chance you could hire a HS student that lives nearby to come sit and help her out for an hour each day?
No. You are not asking too much. If both spouses are working full time outside the home, then I think both spouses should be responsible for housework. Not that it happens this way in my house, but in an ideal world it would.
It sounds like your DH has a higher mess threshhold than you do. Maybe your DD's could also help around the house with a few chores. I like the idea of a list, but that only works if your family pays attention to the list.
I don't have any answers for you, I'm still fighting the same battle.
I'm sorry you feel tired and unappreciated. I certainly know the feeling.
However my DH and I have our jobs sorted...NOW...wasn't always the case.
Whichever parent gets homework needs to stick at it. Uniformity is the key. Stick to a familiar routine for this task. The house will wait, the kids won't starve.
If your DH can't see what needs to be done or tells you he will do it "later" - just fix it yourself without getting bitter over it. It clearly doesn't bother him like it does you. (My family could live with mud on the floor and unwashed sheets as long as there was food in the fridge). Allow your DH an adjustment period to see how much free time he needs and then have another chat about the subject and let him know how it hurts you. Getting angry doesn't work!
Thanks everyone...I will try the list.. But that means he would have to read it. DD has enough things on her plate. The other 2 DD's need to pitch in to help with the house as well, but I can't enforce things while I'm at work. I guess I want everything to run a like an engine, with no problems. Life however is not like that............I think our next vacation can't come quick enough!
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Raising kids, working, and keeping up with household chores it not easy. It is frustrating at the very least when you feel like you are not getting any help. I think you and DH need to sit down and talk about it and decide who needs to do what. Hopefully you can come to a solution.
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You may not be able to enforce them while you're at work but things undone can carry consequences (at least for the kids) once you get home - even if it's the next day. That's how I work it here because both Lenny and I work 2 jobs. Abby knows that if she hasn't put away the clean dishes from the dishwasher or cleaned up or whatever task I give her, she'll "lose" something (time from the computer, earlier bed time, whatever). Lenny I will leave a list for and he knows how ticked I'll be if I come home and something on the list isn't done - but usually I put on it what I can reasonably expect him to get done (for instance at least get the laundry from the upstairs bedroom down to the basement, and the usual feed Abby, make sure the animals are fed, etc). When it comes to homework though, I'm the only one who can help Abby with that. Mom refuses to and Lenny would just give Abby the answers instead of helping her find them so luckily my second job is flexible. The people I work with all were willing to switch nights so I can have Monday through Thursday off for homework duty and I'll work every Friday because Abby has the entire weekend to get homework done. It has taken a little getting use to (both of us working 2 jobs) but I'm not coming home to the house in a shambles and having to do everything myself. Not much more I can ask for IMO.
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I'm not coming home to the house in a shambles and having to do everything myself. Not much more I can ask for IMO.
True: I need to get better about the girls helping as well. I'm just not adjusting well. We used to split the responsibilities in house. Now the routine has changed. Hard to do after 10+ years of marriage.
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. DD has enough things on her plate. The other 2 DD's need to pitch in to help with the house as well, but I can't enforce things while I'm at work. I guess I want everything to run a like an engine, with no problems. Life however is not like that............I think our next vacation can't come quick enough!
Raising kids, working, and keeping up with household chores it not easy. It is frustrating at the very least when you feel like you are not getting any help. I think you and DH need to sit down and talk about it and decide who needs to do what. Hopefully you can come to a solution.
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