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Old 02-21-2011, 02:26 PM   #1
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Unhappy Sometimes The Best Decision is Not to Go :(

Hi All,

I know we talk alot about taking our special needs kids to Disney and how to make the most of it whike keeping our sanity and theirs. But I thought I'd share a decision that we probably have to make more often than peopel know.\

We came back from a trip sans our autistic DD. We only took our Aspie DS. We were excited that the next trip would be with DD and started planning immediately after we came home in June 2010. Well, mid-November and puberty hit our household all at the same time. Our DD has been having a hard time controlling emotions, behaviors, etc. We have adjusted meds and modified her behavior plan at home and school and she is doing better but not great.

This weekend we made the tough decision to cancel our December 2011 trip and just postpone until we were sure that we could all have a fabulous time.

It's not an easy thing to say that you can't go to Disney because your child's behaviors prevent you from doing so. But it's OK. Disney World isn't going anywhere and I have faith that DD's issues will be resolved within the year (yes, hormones rage for that long or longer!).

We will rebook, eventually. But for now, this is the best decision.

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I know what you mean, and you seem at peace about your decision. We've only recently decided to go back and I'm fairly anxious about it. Thankfully we know WDW so it's our A-#1 go-to destination, we know what we're getting into, we know the layout of the land, we know the best places to stay and to eat, so we can cross "rookie tourist mistakes" off our list........but the crowds. The crowds! DS's schedule! The probability of Character Fear! I'm nervous, and personally could wait if I knew the $ would go towards home improvement or something. (But, OTOH, I'm also wicked excited. ) GL with these adolescent years!
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I know what you mean. We've had to cancel more than once. One time was for a child failing a grade. We had told him we wouldn't go if he didn't at least pass, and he had from December to June to do it, so it's not like we were expecting a Hail Mary. We cancelled due to HIS choice not to pass that grade. It was the hardest thing I think I've ever done as a parent. The other kids were devastated, and it was tough not to try to deflect some of the blame from him - but we needed him to know WHY we cancelled.
You are in a different boat, and yet the same. A child's behavior was the catalyst.

I hope you get to reschedule soon, and that puberty doesn't wreck havoc in your house for too long. I think you made a wise decision and you'll thank yourself later.
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sorry you had to postpone your trip, but I think you've made a wise decision. If you had gone and had to fight the entire trip to be happy than it wouldn't have been fun for anyone.
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Canceling is no fun but being miserable in WDW would be even less fun. I understand completely. It has been 4 years since we went to WDW or any other vacation. We have a hard time out in public anywhere with DD. She just doesn't do well. We are working hard on it with her teachers and therapists. As much as we love WDW we know that she is not ready for anything like that. We will just be patient and wait until she is ready.
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Sorry you had to cancel but sometimes waiting makes it sweeter right? Mickey will still be waiting for you once the time is right.
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It sounds like you really thought this through and made a wise choice.

Maybe you can plan some sort of magical "retreat" at home?
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Thanks everyone. We are definitely at peace with the decision and may take a DS only trip next fall. Since he's on the spectrum as well, it's hard for him to understand why we are cancelling so maybe a short trip is in order for him.

In the mean time, we have scheduled a trip to the shore which is close to home and a place she LOVES and does well with.

Thanks for all the support and I hope this thread helps make a decision for families affected by ASD to go or not a little easier.

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Thanks everyone. We are definitely at peace with the decision and may take a DS only trip next fall. Since he's on the spectrum as well, it's hard for him to understand why we are cancelling so maybe a short trip is in order for him.

Thanks for all the support and I hope this thread helps make a decision for families affected by ASD to go or not a little easier.

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You have support here. If the peanut gallery in your life have opinions on your decision to take a DS only trip, come here and we'll support you. I know of a few people who have made this difficult decision, and the judgments from people who did not have the whole story were more painful than the decision itself.
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I'm sorry to hear you had to cancel but sometimes, like you said, it's the right choice. Hopefully you can manage a short trip for your son and that you're planning a trip for everyone sooner rather than later.
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