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Old 04-17-2010, 05:39 PM   #1
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A little vent

It's probably petty, but I'm irritated anyway.
I've been trying for the last year to figure out how I can take my girls to Disney World, even if it's not for a full week. With the divorce and the fact that their dad just started paying support this month, it just hasn't been possible. I don't even know that it's going to be possible this year, no matter how badly I want to do it. My ex was kind enough to stop making my car payment several months ago, so they repo'd it last Sunday. He stopped paying the mortgage last February and the house is foreclosed as well. None of this is in my name so it didn't hurt my credit, but it's still a huge inconvenience.
Anyway...I found out that he took his girlfriend and her kids to Disney World for spring break a couple of weeks ago. My kids were on spring break that same week, but he never asked to take them with him. I would have been a mess the entire time if they had gone, but it's still not fair to them. They are so upset and it makes me so angry to know that he's not including our kids in fun stuff like this.
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Old 04-17-2010, 05:45 PM   #2
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I just will never understand how some people can willingly hurt their own kids like that!
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That's just so sad. You DH may not think that your kids will remember or find out, but he's wrong. And they will always remember. What a shame for them. Pixies for you.
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Not petty at all! Some people are just crappy! I'm divorced and if my x did that and I found out, I would be steaming mad! That's the kind of stuff that the kids will remember too.....
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I don't think you're being petty. I think he's being a great big jerk (to put it kindly). Were you living in the house when it was foreclosed? Was he supposed to be making the payments, and if so, how did he get away with that? It is good that it won't affect your credit, but I'd be majorly PO'd. And on top of all that, to not at least invite your kids to go to WDW, really shows his character - or rather, the lack thereof. So he can afford to take his GF to WDW, but not make the house payments?? Too bad "jerk" is the only word I can use to describe him that won't get me a serious reprimand from the moderators! I think I'd be hauling his butt back in to court real fast.

for you and your kids, and a wish that he gets a very nasty rash in a very inconvenient place.
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Thanks for the support and kind words.
My divorce isn't final yet and I just got a temporary support order at the end of January. I filed last February, but through a series of crappy events, nothing has really happened yet. He was living in the house until last August when the girls and I moved back in and he moved out. I was there for a week when I got the foreclosure notice. The sheriff sale has been approved, but hasn't happened yet so we could technically still be there. We just moved in with my parents last week because I need a way to get to work and for my girls to get to their sitter/school. Hopefully I can find a car soon and we'll move into an apartment after that. I'm having trouble getting financing for a car because I've only been back to work for 1 month and I have no credit in my name.
It will all work out in the end, but for now it sucks. The worst part is seeing what it's doing to my kids. They spend every other weekend with their dad and cry everytime they have to go. He's trying to get half custody of them and I pray it doesn't happen.
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for you and your kids.

I hope that he gets what he deserves...tenfold. Truly a JERK among men!
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I'm sorry that you are going through this. Pixies that you can celebrate a new and brighter future with your DDs in WDW sometime in the near future.
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He's trying to get half custody of them and I pray it doesn't happen.
Allow me to point out all the ammunition you already have to SINK that particular ship, double-quick.

  1. He failed to meet his financial obligations on teh family home, causing it to be repossessed while his children were living there.
  2. He has a girlfriend. (And if you're not legally Separated, that's still Adultery.)
  3. HE took said girlfriend, and HER children, to Disney World and never even discussed the possibility of taking his OWN children.
Also, although you say these things are not directly in your name - ask your divorce attorney whether or not you had any stake or claim in that house; I can't think of how or why it wouldn't have been on the "figure out who gets to keep what" list for the divorce proceedings. He may end up owing you a bundle of cash for your part-share of the house - and defaulting on the mortgage may have been nothing more than his way of trying to deprive you of that claim. In the least, since it was an asset he HAD when the divorce was filed, and (seeing as he could afford a week in Disney world for himself, another adult, and 1+ kids) COULD have still had, it may still count towards the total familial assets. Which means, it's value should be thrown away from HIS "half of everything".

And likewise for the car, actually.

Would serve the jerk right if he ended up owing you and the kids fifty grand, for that stunt. >_<
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