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Old 08-25-2007, 12:41 PM   #1
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A lady that I'll call J works for me. Her son was just diagnosed with bipolar about six months ago, and he refuses to take the medicine. He is 17 now, but quit school when he turned 16. He hangs around at her house all day, and has friends over. He is taking and selling drugs. He was selling to a guy a few weeks ago and that guy pulled a gun on him. So, Wednesday night she walks in the door, and her son and a friend are walking out. He borrows her car and says he'll be home later. Fast forward to Thursday morning, and no son or car. She tries his cell phone several times to see where he is at, and there is no answer. She finally finds out where he is at about 7:00 at night, he was in jail.

She called me almost in tears Thursday night, telling me that she is going to have to miss work again on Friday. She was going to have to take a taxi to get her car out of the tow yard. I ended up taking her to pick up her car and had to lend her $100, because it was $283 to get the car out.

She has tried to get her son counseling, medicine, and all kinds of help; but he just keeps dumping on her. She works two jobs, and has money problems now. Her ex-husband's house is paid for, his car is paid for, and has a ton of money in savings. He also sells pot, that is why she divorced him. He acts like he isn't\doesn't want to help. He was on a fishing trip with some buddies, and acts as if this is cutting into his time.

Would you bail the son out risking your house or car, even your credit to the extent you may have to file bankruptcy? I'm not sure what else I can do for her. I've tried to tell her that she can't ruin her life for his. She says she agrees, but she still hangs on to something in the back of her mind.

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How sad Tons of pixies for her

I think the time has come that she's got to cut the cord, no matter how hard it hurts (easy for me to say, I'm not in her position)! Will the son go live with his DDad? Since he's still under 18, does the DDad have any financial obligation to him so that he has to help her out, or because he's no longer in school, none of that applies?

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Oh jeez, what a horrible situation. I would tell her to see a counselor, maybe that would help her to do what is best. A ton of
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It's a tough call to make and I don't envy this woman's position. I think i'd leave my kid in jail, but then again, it hasn't happened to me. I think it may be time for some real tough love for this kid.
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That's a tough decision to make, especially when it's happening to someone you love. Without trying to sound like a Monday morning quarterback, if she leaves him in jail and let the courts have at him the courts might decide to place him where he can get the medical help he needs for his bipolar disorder. I'm just saying maybe. I don't really know.
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It's a tough call to make and I don't envy this woman's position. I think i'd leave my kid in jail, but then again, it hasn't happened to me. I think it may be time for some real tough love for this kid.

I totally agree! My parents went through something simular with my older sister (alcohol though) and left her in jail until they HAD to come and get her. After that they told us both that if we ever were in jail again....plan on staying there since they weren't bailing us out. Then they decided that if we weren't going to school (which we were at that time) that we would have to work, pay rent or get out. I know that they were practicing tough love and that it was hard at the time, but we both turned out great because of it. I also think that since they had already raised 3 boys, they were tired by the time they got to us.
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As a product of tough love, and a practicer of it, I have to say - leave him there.

She didn't put him there, he did. She did nothing illegal, he did.
HIS choices.
BiPolar does not mean stupid or retarded. He's a reasonably intelligent enough person to be able to understand: "The drugs will help with your disease. If you choose not to take them, they won't work. You will not get any better."

I've seen quite a few families destroyed from spending all of their time/energy/money on people who are biPolar and not sticking to the protocol.

Personally, I would insist the son get his GED (which can then be taken to the local High School, and he can be given a diploma and listed on the graduating roster), and that he is required to get and KEEP a job, and pay rent. Medication is mandatory.
If he didn't do those things, and he were my child, I'd have him declared emancipated, and give him 4 weeks to leave. Then, change the locks and the codes to any alarms or garage door openers.
I know it sounds harsh, but my Dad and Step-mama did it to one of her kids, and he is now one of the most successful of the bunch of us. And thanks Dad all the time for "Making me grow up".

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I agree with all the good advice given already. My nephew is bipolar and was involved with drugs. His parents were going through a divorce and were to wrapped up in their problems, so it got dumped onto my parents. Being grandparents it was a lot harder for them to be tough with him. Finally after he began stealing from them and giving them a hard time, they told him that he had to leave and get help. He lived in a homeless shelter for a few months before he went for help. He is now living in a group home and doing a lot better. It is never easy to see someone you love in a bad situation but sometimes it is the best thing for them.
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No advice, just for all involved. What a sad situation.
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What a sad situation. I can't even begin to comprehend if I were in her shoes what I'd do with my kids. My head says tough-love time but my heart says "that's YOUR child". I hope she gets some professionals involved no matter what....she needs that assistance.

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Lots of for her - but I agree the tough love route may be the only way at this point. And I would find out if Dad is responsible LEGALLY and force his involvement.
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Update

The dad gave up the money for a bail bondsman. He was released sometime on Saturday.

J said she wasn't sure she picked up the right kid. She said that he was yes sir and no sir to the bond guy. She also said that when she got him home, he asked for some money to go get his hair cut, and asked if he could have some new clothes. He said that he wasn't going to be able to get a job with his current wardrobe.

She walked into my office this morning and handed me the money I lent her and a card. I opened the card after she left and it was from her son. He was thanking my wife and I for helping out his mother with getting her car.

I hope he has seen the light. She said he came out and said he never wanted to go back in. They put him in the maximum security part of the prison. The closest person to his age was about 10 years older, and there was four all together. They all yelled at him and told him he needed to get his act together. They all held hands and prayed for him.

So, thanks for everyone's pixies. I think they helped him come around.

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