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Old 08-23-2003, 10:13 AM   #1
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School vs. Wedding...your opinions please

Hi Everyone!

I am really in need of opinions on this one. My son will be entering the 1st grade this Wednesday. Right now our vacation is planned from October 30 - November 6. He would miss school 6 days (the 30th and the 31st as well as the 3,4,5,6). He would go back to school for 1 day (the 7th of November) and then have off a 4 day weekend because of Professional Development Day for the teachers and Columbus Day on the 10th and the 11th of November.

DH and I sat down and called Disney to inquire about changing our plans. All they had that would work into our schedule is November 9 - November 16th. If we did it this way we could plan to arrive late on the 8th and stay at one of the AS and get a full day on the 9th instead of only a couple of hours. This will also mean that Andrew only misses 3 days of school compared to 6 since we would be gone for over the 4 day weekend for Professional Development day and Columbus Day.

The problem is that a good friend JUST planned his wedding for November 15th. This vacation for us comes after a very long year with a chronically ill baby. This vacation is much needed for our boys as well as us. DH says he doesn't want to plan a family vacation around a wedding. Part of me agrees and part of me wants to be at the wedding.

What do you all think? Is it worth missing a wedding so Andrew only misses 3 days of school?
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How flexible is your school district &/or teachers about missing day from school? In our district they encourage educational trips & I've never had a problem taking the boys out of school for 2 trips to WDW per school year.( usually 4-5 days each time) We are getting a new Principal this year so she might try to give me a hard time but I doubt it. My kids don't miss many days due to illness ( fortunately) so usually their only absent days are WDW.
One other thing you might want to factor in is the crowds .. Would Columbus Day be exceptionally crowded at WDW due to everyone having off from school. We were at WDW during Presidents Day weekend & it was a zoo ( it was also Daytona weekend as well)
Is there no way to go & come home the 14th & still be able to attend your friends wedding?
Sorry I'm not much help.. I guess it's a gut feeling for you type decision... BUT ( & this is just me) WDW usually wins out over most anything [img]images/icons/wink.gif[/img]
Sorry I couldn't be more help but
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Hi!
I am a mom of four, and we take an annual trip to WDW the first week of December every year. I have been pulling my children for 5 days, sometimes 6, because that is the time my DH can shift his work schedule to have a vacation. We have NEVER run into any problems with school, my guys maintain an "A" average, and when they were little, we always bought a special scrapbook for each one. We gave each child an inexpensive one-time use camera, and each day, they would choose 2 or 3 favorite things, take a picture, and in the evening, we spent about 20 minutes having them "journal" it on 2 pages of their book. (DH and I also took pictures, so we could supplement if needed!) Epcot was wonderful for this. We would stop in every country, and their job was to learn one new thing about that land. The cast members loved it, and gave so many wonderful ideas, and free trinkets to add to our books.
When we returned, the guys would share these books with their classmates. I have never, in 15 years, had any teacher be anything but supportive.
I DO NOT take my children's education lightly, and we do not allow skipping school or less than your best effort, BUT I also CHERISH my family, and Disney allows us the chance to reconnect with each other in a way we simply cannot do with day to day stresses. I vote to take your little ones, and go! Unwind, let Disney embrace you with wonder, and know that the memories you are creating will last forever, and be passed down for generations!
Good luck, and whatever you choose, have an amazing time!
P.S. Enjoy Disney through your children's eyes! There is plenty of time to be an adult later!
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Hi there -

I would do whichever works out better for your family schedule - and not worry too much about missing school for 1st grade. Just be sure to give the teacher lots of notice, and take along some level appropriate books. If he takes a little time each day during down time to read for 5-10 minutes, and then to write a journal entry (Most first graders write a journal page each day at school, so he will be familiar with this - usually 1-2 sentences with a picture.), then he will not lose any ground.

We have taken our girls out of school for at least 4-5 days for a Disney vacation each year for the last couple of years. Take advantage of this now - it gets much more difficult when they are older!

We are actually going down Nov 9-16th this year ourselves, thanks to the 4 day weekend. My oldest is in high school now - Sept & the beginning of Oct are field hockey season, the end of October is Midterms, Dec is concert season, and on it goes! I'm very glad that we took our vacations when we did, as this may be our last opportunity to do a school year trip!

I say, if your family needs this vacation - take the earlier vacation, and don't worry about Andrew missing school. Then you can come home and relax, and enjoy your friend's wedding!
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I DO NOT take my children's education lightly, and we do not allow skipping school or less than your best effort, BUT I also CHERISH my family, and Disney allows us the chance to reconnect with each other in a way we simply cannot do with day to day stresses. I vote to take your little ones, and go!
<font size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Arial">Took the words straight out of my mouth! We've consistently taken our children out of school to go on trips - not just Disney. Education is exremely important and it doesn't always happen in a classroom setting.

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Thanks Everyone [img]images/icons/smile.gif[/img] We decided to change our vacation so Andrew wouldn't miss as much school. Because of all we went through with our twin daughters last winter he isn't up to where he should be so we don't want him to miss that much school.

We are going to miss the wedding but I'll live with it in exchange for Disney any day!

Thanks for your responses!
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Your son won't be off Columbus Day Weekend that's in Oct. It's Veterans Day in Nov.
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I am sure you won't regret your decision- have a nice time!
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Hi!

I just wanted to say that you are probably making a very wise decision. As a former teacher, I can honestly say that I believe in my heart that first grade is the MOST important grade of school. It is the "groundwork" of learning (specifically reading)...This is ONLY my opinion, but it is such a crucial year!!! I was trained in early childhood, but I mainly taught middle school, and I still believe 1st Grade is the most important of them all! You would be amazed at what they can cover in 8 days!

In fact, my hubby has been hinting at taking a vacation in August of next year, and my little guy will be in first grade. I have already said NO WAY! It is the "teacher" in me making this decision!

That being said, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Disney World! I never had a problem with parents pulling kiddos out for vacation, especially if the kids were good students. I can also say that as a parent, you know your child better than anyone. If you feel your little one could handle missing several days, then you are probably right.

I just wanted to give you "kudos". I would make the same decision if it were me (speaking from both the teacher and parent side)!

Have a GREAT trip!!!

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I am a teacher and have said in the past how much I prefer kids not to miss school. For some kids who are the "A" student and whose parents are responsible about school its fine, but so many of the kids who are pulled out at the high school level are the ones who aren't doing well and whose parents we never hear from. I understand it because of value season, etc., but I don't like it.
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I hope you have a great time!

When my daughter was in 3rd grade, we had to pull her out of school for 3 weeks( I cant drive and my husband deployed, so we had to go home to CA).

I let her teacher know as soon as I was sure my husband was leaving and she gave me 3 weeks worth of "real" work(the stuff that really mattered, vs the busy work and craft stuff that we would not have time for).

While home, we made sure that the basics were done every day(I had my grandma and mom to help w/that) and we did what someone else suggested and made scrapbooks to bring home w/pictures and facts about every place we went(Los Angeles Natural History Museum was a 3 day excursion w/an entire scrapbook and roll of film dedicated to it).

Found things at Disneyland that were educational and resulted in spin off discusions(Ca history. Railroad history in the US, slavery and the civil war because of great moments w/Mr. Lincoln, etc).

We also made sure to send postcards from everyplace we visited back to her class. Her teacher read them outloud and then they discussed where we had been as part of their daily lesson.

Her teacher also made a point to stay connected and called once a week and sent her a package w/pictures and drawings from classmates and a pack of gum or a piece of candy.

The only thing that I think we really "missed" out on was her speech therapy, but even that was supplemented by complete instructions from her speech therapist.

In the end, she was right up to par and maybe even more because she had done so much reading and math "life" skills (if you want this toy, YOU need to figure out if you have enough money and then count it out and pay yourself and if you want to go on this ride, then you must read all the signs on the way and if you want to go to the beach, then you must tell me about 1 animal that lives there, etc)

I think you will be just fine whatever you end up doing in the end!!

Enjoy your trip and send an extra special wedding gift!LOL!!
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We always take our trips to WDW off-season, both for lower crowds/heat and cost. My son has autism and really needs a rigid schedule, but he and his teacher use the upcoming trip to talk in class about what he is going to see, look at maps, write, etc. And of course, he gets to follow up when he gets back.

It's probably good not to take a very young child out too many days when they are in first or second grade when much of the basics are being taught. A few days for a small child seems like a very long time. Your friend will doubtless understand that your family has made plans. But you can also regard this as a chance to selflessly shop for a special wedding gift, maybe from one of the countries at Epcot.
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I think you've made a very wise decision. A guy as young as yours misses a great deal when he's out of school for as long as 5 or 6 days. What he learns at WDW in no way compares with what he would be learning in school, and especially if he's been having a tough time of it during the last year, you have made a most responsible and caring decision. Hope you and your family have the most wonderful time.
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