As of January 1, 2019, we have closed our forums. This is a decision we did not come to lightly, but it is necessary. The software our forums run on is just too out-of-date and it poses a significant security risk. The server software itself must be updated, and it cannot be without removing the forums.
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There are other changes as well.
Why? Well, the world has changed. And change with it, we must. The lyrics to "We Go On" for IllumiNations say it best:
We go on to the joy and through the tears
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Moving on with the current of the years.
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Ever on with each rising sun.
To a new day, we go on.
It's time to move on and move forward.
PassPorter is a small business, and for many years it supported our family. But the world changed, print books took a backseat to the Internet, and for a long time now it has been unable to make ends meet. We've had to find new ways to support our family, which means new careers and less and less time available to devote to our first baby, PassPorter.
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I would start with the "use your words" technique as well. All my kids have had this issue in some form and it worked for us. When the crying would start I would simply look at that child and with a firm voice tell them I can't understand crying, when you're ready to use your words come talk to me. I would then walk away and ignore the behavior completly. When my child would then find me with words, we'd talk it through and I would try very hard to resolve the situation. Sometimes though, the crying just stopped and they didn't need to talk it through. I think sometimes it was just an attention getting device. This has worked for us thus far. The crying spells get further and further apart and then disappear. I hope it resolves soon, I know how frustrating it can be.
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DD has had some similar problems in kindergarten this year as well. Here's how we handled it: when she was calm and rational, we talked about what a great problem solver she is (tried to find situations where this was the truth and said it as a compliment). Then, when something happened that upset her and brought her to tears, we would remind her that she is a great problem solver and that she could probably find a solution that would make everything better. This usually snapped her out of the tears and got her thinking (and using her words) to fix whatever was bothering her.
We also told her that while it was okay to feel sad and okay to cry, that crying is a private thing. If she needs to cry, she has to go to her room (or ask the teacher if she can be excused to a private place). That also curbed a lot of the tears -- turns out that some of it was a plea for attention.
And, of course, a quick hug certainly doesn't hurt!! (But we have to be a little careful here, because DD will do A LOT to get to be the center of attention...a quick hug and that's that.)
Good luck! I know it can be difficult! I hope you find something that works for you!
A lot of five year olds can't retrieve the words very quickly when they are upset.
One of the things we did with one of my sons, is give him time to get his words together (he was not a crier but would get frustrated that people would sometimes walk away while he was thinking). We asked his teachers to acknowledge him with his name to let him know that he would be addressed, add a quick question or comment (even saying they would give him a minute and get back to him) and then get back to him. He really needed a little time to get organized.
You might try this with your son. I suspect he knows what's wrong, can't get the words together, and then gets frustrated and cries. He does need to use his words, but he may also need help in finding the words.
I also wonder if he's not a little overfaced in kindergarten. Sometimes children are very bright but just not ready for the structure and socialising that Kindergarten requires. If he hasn't always been so sensitive, he may need to back off from school.
My younger DS was like this in Kindergarten. He had separation issues and fears of new things. He comes by this honestly as I was the same way! We found that talking with him to find out why he was upset helped alot. What really helped our DS was a first grade teacher who was understanding about his crying and helped him express his feelings with words and helped him to get involved in things in the classroom. It took his mind off Mom being home or whatever was troubling him. By second grade, he was doing much better. I would volunteer in the school library during his class time. He would walk in, ignore me while his friends all said hi, and sit down at the table. The teacher told me that by the end of day he was ready to see mom again and would be looking out the window for me but there was no crying. Now, he is 19, still on the quiet side, but extremely independent. It does pass and your DS will make alot of progress as he gets older.
The little girl that I watch from time to time also has this problem. After talking
to her parents (our BFF's) we tried a few methods but found that getting her
to use her words was the best choice. We tried to give her a hug but that just
gave her attention and she used that as time went on. I know it's hard but
walking away when they are crying does help and giving in to a hug can
set back any progress you may have made.
DD is also 5, and started school this year. She cries when she is frustrated as well. I have tried the "use your words approach", and that works some of the time. We have started using a chart at home on the fridge recently that is working really well at derailing an episode before it gets rolling. I have her school calender on the fridge & for every time she stops before she starts (I hope that makes sense??) she gets to put a check mark on the day. Some days there are multiple check marks, some days just one for smooth sailing. I also ask the Teacher when I pick her up if there were any problems that day, if not, another check mark. She loves showing anyone who comes over her "check marks", and that seems to be enough of a reward for her to be proud of the achievement. Hang in there, behaviour mod is hard at any age.
Thank you all so much for the advice and the pixies. I have an conference scheduled with the teacher Wednesday afternoon. I tried to give him "private time" this weekend when he had his moments and explained we would talk about it once he was calm however DH kept going into his room and asking him if he was ready to talk which would just start the crying all over again because he thought he was in trouble. DH thought he was being helpful so I couldn't get too mad at him. Hopefully, once we've met with the teacher, between the three of us we can come up with something more effective to deal with the crying.
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