As of January 1, 2019, we have closed our forums. This is a decision we did not come to lightly, but it is necessary. The software our forums run on is just too out-of-date and it poses a significant security risk. The server software itself must be updated, and it cannot be without removing the forums.
So it is with a heavy heart that we say goodbye to our long-running forums. They came online in 2000 and brought together so many wonderful Disney fans. We had friendships form, careers launch, couples marry, children born ... all because of this amazing community.
Thank you to each of you who were a part of this community. You made it possible.
And a very special thank you to our Guides (moderators), past and present, who kept our forums a happy place to be. You are the glue that held everything together, and we are forever grateful to you. Thank you aliceinwdw, Caldercup, MrsM, WillCAD, Fortissimo, GingerJ, HiddenMickey, CRCrazy, Eeyoresmom, disneyknut, disneydani, Cam22, chezp, WDWfan, Luvsun, KMB733, rescuesk, OhToodles!, Colexis Mom, lfredsbo, HiddenMickey, DrDolphin, DopeyGirl, duck addict, Disneybine, PixieMichele, Sandra Bostwick, Eeyore Tattoo, DyanKJ130, Suzy Q'Disney, LilMarcieMouse, AllisonG, Belle*, Chrissi, Brant, DawnDenise, Crystalloubear, Disneymom9092, FanOfMickey, Goofy4Goofy, GoofyMom, Home4us123, iamgrumpy, ilovedisney247, Jennifer2003, Jenny Pooh, KrisLuvsDisney, Ladyt, Laughaholic88, LauraBelle Hime, Lilianna, LizardCop, Loobyoxlip, lukeandbrooksmom, marisag, michnash, MickeyMAC, OffKilter_Lynn, PamelaK, Poor_Eeyore, ripkensnana, RobDVC, SHEANA1226, Shell of the South, snoozin, Statelady01, Tara O'Hara, tigger22, Tink and Co., Tinkerbelz, WDWJAMBA, wdwlovers, Wendyismyname, whoSEZ, WildforWD, and WvuGrrrl. You made the magic.
We want to personally thank Sara Varney, who coordinated our community for many years (among so many other things she did for us), and Cheryl Pendry, our Message Board Manager who helped train our Guides, and Ginger Jabour, who helped us with the PassPorter-specific forums and Live! Guides. Thank you for your time, energy, and enthusiasm. You made it all happen.
There are other changes as well.
Why? Well, the world has changed. And change with it, we must. The lyrics to "We Go On" for IllumiNations say it best:
We go on to the joy and through the tears
We go on to discover new frontiers
Moving on with the current of the years.
We go on
Moving forward now as one
Moving on with a spirit born to run
Ever on with each rising sun.
To a new day, we go on.
It's time to move on and move forward.
PassPorter is a small business, and for many years it supported our family. But the world changed, print books took a backseat to the Internet, and for a long time now it has been unable to make ends meet. We've had to find new ways to support our family, which means new careers and less and less time available to devote to our first baby, PassPorter.
But eventually, we must move on and move forward. It is the right thing to do.
So we are retiring this newsletter, as we simply cannot keep up with it. Many thanks to Mouse Fan Travel who supported it all these years, to All Ears and MousePlanet who helped us with news, to our many article contributors, and -- most importantly -- to Sara Varney who edited our newsletter so wonderfully for years and years.
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Absolutely go! I have been so thankful that although my mom and dad are FAR from friends, they have always put their problems aside when it came to me. Both sets of parents are always there at parties, graduations and anything else I ask them to be there for. My stepmom has tried to create problems in the past, but I told her very quickly that it just wasn't going to happen...she was going to suck it up and deal with it because that is what good parents do.
The day is about your nephew...not your sister and her ex husband. If she can't put her feelings aside for a few hours then I feel really bad for her and your nephew. You need to at least show him that you are a big enough person to do it for him!
If you acknowledge your sisters feelings, she will probably calm down and decide to go. It sounds to me like she just wants someone to validate her and say "Yes, you have every right to feel the way you do." It's difficult not to add "but try to put those feelings aside for your family" but probably to her, those words sound contradictory and (unintentionally) hurtful. Keep an open mind and heart and be willing to compromise, too. I'm certain that there are reasons for her behavior... no one is "just juvenile" - that kind of behavior is driven by pain, not out of malice. There may be things she hasn't told you before that contribute to her sour feelings other than just the divorce. If she is stuffing those hidden secrets, they will have a ripple effect and she will have hidden resentments and withdraw from the family. She must feel pretty badly to not want to go to the party... try to be understanding and ask her what the real issue is; listen and acknowledge without judging her. Remind her that you will be there at the party to support her and that she can leave if her feelings get too much for her, but you would like her to attend the party. I'm sure together you can work it out and both have a good time and in the long run, a better relationship.
At a later time, I think it will be very important for you to sit down and talk with her privately about her expectations of how you interact with her ex. She is having a very difficult time, and it sounds like she could use someone to really listen to her and talk to her without judging her. Go in the conversation with the attitude that you want the talk (or talks since there will probably be more than one as her relationship and feelings about her ex change over time) to strengthen your relationship. This way you can have a peaceful understanding that you can both live with.
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Been here, done this and just a couple of weeks ago. Go to the party for your nephew. Let your sister know that you will be at her party also. She should go also but only if she can be pleasant as well as her ex. Its hard but do-able.
Here an Update on the situation. SHe seemed to calm down after a couple days. and says now she will be an adult and go. Not sure what made her change her tune. Perhaps one of her friends talked to her. TOnight at the Graduation went very well... she cried when she saw her EX start to cry as their son came down the aisle during Graduation. Picture taking just happened and went well. With everyone getting pictures.
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I'm certain that there are reasons for her behavior... no one is "just juvenile" - that kind of behavior is driven by pain, not out of malice. There may be things she hasn't told you before that contribute to her sour feelings other than just the divorce. If she is stuffing those hidden secrets, they will have a ripple effect and she will have hidden resentments and withdraw from the family. She must feel pretty badly to not want to go to the party... try to be understanding and ask her what the real issue is; listen and acknowledge without judging her.
akleos.... you are probably right and this was well put..... I think it would be difficult for her to admit what the problem is...she has always been that way. I think what set this last thing off was something nice my nephews S- mom did for him and she may have wished she had thought of it. ANyway hopefull for continues good vibes to get us thru the Party and that everyone behaves. Thanks to everyone for their support.
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I get so angry when I hear/read things about people like your Dsis who can't do it for the kids' sake. Mom, Dad and Step-mama have always been able to set any of that aside and not even let us see any of it. And, it does NOT stop when the kids grow up - now they have to get along when we get married, have kids, have b-day parties, graduation parties, etc for the kids, and all that stuff.
Pixies that your Dsis sees she's only making herself look like an a## in her son's eyes!
Go - have fun, and don't let it get to you if she's mad - oh well, her loss.
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