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I need advice from those of you that have been divorced or gone thru it as a child. This is new territory for me. My ex and I have to this point been able to be civil, friendly and work together to help the kids thru this. We have even done visitation together. We are trying to create a new kind of stable family.
Well, he has someone and has moved in and I think is possibly getting married. But it has only been a few very short months since we moved and althought the girls seem to be fine with everything and are stable and happy, I don't think they are emotionally ready for either of us to introduce our new partners. My exes girlfriend has been pushing for this since they started the relationship. The other issue is she is significantly older than him and I think would be like a grandma to them.
I have no idea how to get this across to my ex and his meddling family etc. I have someone but have been waiting until I knew that the girls could handle this. Any ideas?
We are headed for a visit soon and I don't want it to be a disaster. Thanks!
When our parents separated, they both got new partners, and handled it differently, and we think badly. My mother got a boyfriend, who we were told about, but who we never met because she didn't think we were ready. My father got a girlfriend who was around all the time, but when they discussed moving in together & possibly marriage, she discussed it with us one day when Dad was out. Both situations were very awkward.
I think the best thing is to talk to your ex one-on-one about this, keeping the children the focus of the conversation & that you need to decide together how you'll both handle bringing new people into your lives. Asking kids what they are comfortable with can backfire because we were asked but felt obligated to tell our folks what they wanted to hear, because we wanted them to be happy. So, we probably weren't as honest as we needed to be, and we were afraid to be, I suppose.
I hope things go as smoothly as possible for all of you
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No advice other than to be honest with the girls and keep communication open. It's amazing how much they will adjust if they are kept informed. Support them in the event they are not happy with the situation.
I agree with everything stated so far. My father left my mother for another woman and she was just thrust at me. We never really got along and he ended up divorcing her a few years later because we could not click and i was more important to him than she was. Take things slow with your kids but be very honest. They will be okay but it will be a bumpy ride in some places. Good luck with everything!!
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Ok a couple of things. First my mom cheated on my dad with another married man. She married him in 1976 and they are still married. He is 23 years older than her and in poor health. I hated her for it and I still hate my step father. My dad met someone and married her 6 weeks later. She was seven years older than my dad. Until her passing in 2004 they were happily married and I loved her more than anything. Both in a way had been thrust upon me. I loved one hate the other. My dad and mom were the perfect divorced couple. They didn't argue over anything. Always flexible in visitation and didn't dog the other.
I myself have been divorced twice and married three times. My first husband is my sons father and has spent a total of 8 hours in almost 17 years. Be glad yours is still wanting to be involved. My now husband has given my son all the love and commitment I could ever hope for.
Children are flexible. Children adjust. Don't ask them to decide one way or the other right now. Let them feel what they want and help them along. Don't push one way or the other. Don't make your feelings or confusion known to the children. They are sponges and may feel they are dishonoring you if they like her. I would talk to both your ex and his new lady in a neutral place that everyone is comfortable in. Discuss with them any misgivings you have without being judgemental. In the end everyone will win.
Ok sorry I am rambling on but this is years and years of practical experience.
My parents are divorced, my dad remarried a few years after the second divorce (they were married, divorced, married, divorced - all to each other)
My step mom was basically just there one day. BUT - she understood that she is not my mom, and never would be. She became not friend, but a kind older person who was happy to be with us and reveled in our love for her. She is my kids' "grandma" but not my mom.
I would suggest you talk to your ex and his gf. Make sure that you understand what is and is not acceptable. - i.e. - will they call her by her first name? You and your ex should make sure the kids know this is not a "new mommy", but that she is to be respected while in Daddy's house. And, understand that if she's around for a while, they will come to either love or hate her, partially based on your reaction.
I agree with not introducing them to someone right off the bat - most men I dated never even knew I had a daughter, but as soon as it started getting more than just casual, I told them about her, and her about them. Then, I had a few times that they could meet my daughter, but I made sure she did not become attached to anyone until I was REALLY ready to say that this was probably really going somewhere.
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for you and your children. This kind of situation is never easy. My ex and I separated when DD was a baby, so she never remembered us living together. So in that respect DD grew up thinking two separate households was perfectly normal. That said, my ex married the "evil stepmother." (Think Cinderella! ) We frequently fought because I knew she was bad news, but of course he didn't see it. My first and foremost thought was always for DD's safety, and I fought tooth and nail to make sure that she was always safe. He ended up divorcing "the evil one" after she cheated on him. (Ha, I was right! ) He then went on to a long term relationship with someone who was very good to DD and whom DD likes very much. Before either you or your ex introduce anyone to your children, make sure that this is going to be a serious relationship. It is hard for kids to have people bouncing in and out of their lives. They need some sort of stability especially if they are living between two different households. I chose not to pursue any serious relationships while DD was little just for this reason. My primary goal was to raise her and provide for her a stable environment to grow up in. Now that she has gone off to college, I have chosen to live my own life. It still has not been without a few bumps along the way~DD is 20 but as an only child she didn't necessarily want to share me. But all in all, we made it through. Good luck!
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) We frequently fought because I knew she was bad news, but of course he didn't see it. My first and foremost thought was always for DD's safety, and I fought tooth and nail to make sure that she was always safe. He ended up divorcing "the evil one" after she cheated on him. (Ha, I was right! 
) He then went on to a long term relationship with someone who was very good to DD and whom DD likes very much. Before either you or your ex introduce anyone to your children, make sure that this is going to be a serious relationship. It is hard for kids to have people bouncing in and out of their lives. They need some sort of stability especially if they are living between two different households. I chose not to pursue any serious relationships while DD was little just for this reason. My primary goal was to raise her and provide for her a stable environment to grow up in. Now that she has gone off to college, I have chosen to live my own life. It still has not been without a few bumps along the way~DD is 20 but as an only child she didn't necessarily want to share me. But all in all, we made it through. Good luck!
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