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There are other changes as well.
Why? Well, the world has changed. And change with it, we must. The lyrics to "We Go On" for IllumiNations say it best:
We go on to the joy and through the tears
We go on to discover new frontiers
Moving on with the current of the years.
We go on
Moving forward now as one
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Ever on with each rising sun.
To a new day, we go on.
It's time to move on and move forward.
PassPorter is a small business, and for many years it supported our family. But the world changed, print books took a backseat to the Internet, and for a long time now it has been unable to make ends meet. We've had to find new ways to support our family, which means new careers and less and less time available to devote to our first baby, PassPorter.
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So we are retiring this newsletter, as we simply cannot keep up with it. Many thanks to Mouse Fan Travel who supported it all these years, to All Ears and MousePlanet who helped us with news, to our many article contributors, and -- most importantly -- to Sara Varney who edited our newsletter so wonderfully for years and years.
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At some point your daughter will find that you can't be friends with everyone and that some girls/boys are just not ones you would want as friends. You can help her understand that this girl is one of those. Talk to her about why this girl isn't a good friend to anyone and maybe brainstorm with her on how she can handle it when the 'friend' is 'mean' to her. Your DD has to decide for herself whether the hurtfulness is enough to pull back from trying to keep the other girl as a friend.
In the meantime, if there are other girls that she likes, you can start having them over for playdates with the hope that your DD finds them a better fit for her friendship.
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Your best bet is to stay out of it and let your dd deal with it herself. She will eventually realize that this girl isn't really her "friend" and move on to other girls that treat her better. She will run into people like this all thru school unfortunately
Sounds like your daughter's "friend" has very low self esteem and is trying to steal friends to build herself up. It's probably best to let your daughter handle it herself although I know I would be struggling too if anyone was hurting my baby girl!
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I wish had a solution for you but the reality is that not all kids are likeable or friendly. These girls are developing their own personalities, skills and coping mechanisms right now. If manipulating and "one-uping" is this girl's skill and it works for her she isn't going to change now. As she ages we can hope she will find more positive ways to get what she wants. As for your daughter and how you handle it, I would recommend to keep talking to your daughter about how she can be a good friend, what to look for in friends and how to stay true to her self. Unfortunately, as they grow into teen years there are going to be a lot more situations for her that you can't fix, kids you can't "slap" and parents you can't confront. This is where she learns to be independent and handle her problems. It is the most difficult and frustrating part of parenting.
I would let your DD handle it herself. Take a step back and let her find her own way of handling it. I don't know why some girls are so mean, but eventually, your DD will find friends that know how to be real friends. Sadly, this is just part of life.
I have to agree with most every one else. It's going to be hard to watch but your daughter has got figure this out on her own. In the long run, her doing this, will help her find out who she is and what she wants - and whats going to make her stronger.
My five year old was in a similar situation. My husband and I told her to ignore the other girl. My daughter instead went out of her way to befriend her. Sometimes our kids know better then we do, even though getting through this is tough. It will be worth it to you and your daughter
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Unfortunately, this is all too common in girl groups. My DDs are 7 & almost13 and we've dealt with it since day 1 of Kindergarten. I have no hopes that it will end anytime soon. I would suggest a book called "Queen Bees And Wannabes" by Rosalind Wiseman. It's an EXCELLENT book about what roles different girls take on in their groups of friends and it really gets into how parents can help (or stay out of) the situation, what questions to ask, what advice to give, etc.
Thank you for the book recommendation. I will definitely check that out. I do want her to deal with this on her own, and I want her to know its ok to not like this behavior. What I struggle with most is the fact that this girl treats her like this and then my daughter still wants to be her friend. I don't want her to be one of those girls that others can walk all over. I want her to know its ok to stand up for herself and its even ok to not like someone. I guess that is what I struggle with most is that I don't want to tell her just to be nice... Is that wrong?
I think you and your DD can talk about how her friend's behavior makes her feel and how she would feel if she made someone else feel the way her friend makes her feel.
I think one of the preventatives for girl drama is to make sure your DD feels really good about herself and has some that she does well-it can be common (like dance or soccer) or something more unusual (my middle son was and is an ardent bird watcher). When they have something they know they do well, they can deal much better with the "mean kids."
I don't know if your DD will play with the boys, but because my Dd had two older brothers, she interacted with boys a lot which made her pretty immune to girl dramas. We also emphasized that while having friends is good, it's about quality, not quantity,
I think the quantity vs quality issue is a big issue. She seems to have lots of friends, but hasn't seemed to have found the one best friend. I think she would like to think that this girl could be her best friend, but sadly I just don't think that is the case. Today they seemed to be fine...
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