As of January 1, 2019, we have closed our forums. This is a decision we did not come to lightly, but it is necessary. The software our forums run on is just too out-of-date and it poses a significant security risk. The server software itself must be updated, and it cannot be without removing the forums.
So it is with a heavy heart that we say goodbye to our long-running forums. They came online in 2000 and brought together so many wonderful Disney fans. We had friendships form, careers launch, couples marry, children born ... all because of this amazing community.
Thank you to each of you who were a part of this community. You made it possible.
And a very special thank you to our Guides (moderators), past and present, who kept our forums a happy place to be. You are the glue that held everything together, and we are forever grateful to you. Thank you aliceinwdw, Caldercup, MrsM, WillCAD, Fortissimo, GingerJ, HiddenMickey, CRCrazy, Eeyoresmom, disneyknut, disneydani, Cam22, chezp, WDWfan, Luvsun, KMB733, rescuesk, OhToodles!, Colexis Mom, lfredsbo, HiddenMickey, DrDolphin, DopeyGirl, duck addict, Disneybine, PixieMichele, Sandra Bostwick, Eeyore Tattoo, DyanKJ130, Suzy Q'Disney, LilMarcieMouse, AllisonG, Belle*, Chrissi, Brant, DawnDenise, Crystalloubear, Disneymom9092, FanOfMickey, Goofy4Goofy, GoofyMom, Home4us123, iamgrumpy, ilovedisney247, Jennifer2003, Jenny Pooh, KrisLuvsDisney, Ladyt, Laughaholic88, LauraBelle Hime, Lilianna, LizardCop, Loobyoxlip, lukeandbrooksmom, marisag, michnash, MickeyMAC, OffKilter_Lynn, PamelaK, Poor_Eeyore, ripkensnana, RobDVC, SHEANA1226, Shell of the South, snoozin, Statelady01, Tara O'Hara, tigger22, Tink and Co., Tinkerbelz, WDWJAMBA, wdwlovers, Wendyismyname, whoSEZ, WildforWD, and WvuGrrrl. You made the magic.
We want to personally thank Sara Varney, who coordinated our community for many years (among so many other things she did for us), and Cheryl Pendry, our Message Board Manager who helped train our Guides, and Ginger Jabour, who helped us with the PassPorter-specific forums and Live! Guides. Thank you for your time, energy, and enthusiasm. You made it all happen.
There are other changes as well.
Why? Well, the world has changed. And change with it, we must. The lyrics to "We Go On" for IllumiNations say it best:
We go on to the joy and through the tears
We go on to discover new frontiers
Moving on with the current of the years.
We go on
Moving forward now as one
Moving on with a spirit born to run
Ever on with each rising sun.
To a new day, we go on.
It's time to move on and move forward.
PassPorter is a small business, and for many years it supported our family. But the world changed, print books took a backseat to the Internet, and for a long time now it has been unable to make ends meet. We've had to find new ways to support our family, which means new careers and less and less time available to devote to our first baby, PassPorter.
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If you miss us, you can still find some of us online. Sara started a new blog at DisneyParkPrincess.com -- I strongly urge you to visit and get on her mailing list. She IS the Disney park princess and knows Disney backward and forward. And I am blogging as well at JenniferMaker.com, which is a little craft blog I started a couple of years ago to make ends meet. You can see and hear me in my craft show at https://www.youtube.com/c/jennifermaker . Many PassPorter readers and fans are on Facebook, in groups they formed like the PassPorter Trip Reports and PassPorter Crafting Challenge (if you join, just let them know you read about it in the newsletter). And some of our most devoted community members started a forum of their own at Pixie Dust Lane and all are invited over.
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I really need to vent!
Life is so tough sometimes and making the right decisions is often an impossible task.
I am miserable in my present circumstance in life, but don't know how to remedy the situation.
My husband is a chronic liar, talks to( and other things I am fairly sure of) other women frequently ( and in a much to friendly/inappropriate way), and I just recently found out he hasn't paid the mortgage in since November! How in the world we haven't been locked out of the house is beyond me. He only pays 3 bills, the house, gas and electric. I pay EVERYTHING else! When I questioned him about why this man came to our house and told me to have my husband call the mortgage co., specifically I asked him how behind was he...he says, "I'm not behind, I don't know why he came". My response was "They don't come to your house just to shake your hand for paying on time"! He hasn't really spoken to me since, like I was the one being caught doing something wrong. He also stops talking to me each time I find a phone number, email address or message to/from a woman.....and no, I don't snoop, he just leaves stuff in stupid places and forgot to close the IM screen on MY computer.
A few days later I opened an envelope from the mortgage co. and found out that he was 6 mos. behind, which makes me wonder where the money is going. Mind you, our mortgage is Less than $500.00 per month....can't even rent that cheap. The papers said the bank is lowering the payments even farther!
I am not on the mortgage loan and not on the deed, as we bought the house just prior to getting married, so I cannot get any info. from the bank.
I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, care of the kids, house repairs, purchase of all needs for the house, EVERYTHING! He literally only mows the yard (once every 2 weeks), and takes out the trash on trash day....I am exhausted!
I am so disgusted right now, I can hardly stand it. My husband's father is very good friends with the local mayor and family court judge and I am afraid that, even though, I am a good mom, work full time, and have a good family, that things, esp, custody would be ruled on unfairly.
I feel so stuck...forced to stay in a marriage that is terrible. I can't imagine putting my kids through a divorce, but I also don't want them to see dysfunctional parents and repeat the cycle. We don't fight very often, but we also go days without speaking too.
I really feel like living on my own with the kids would be so much more pleasant and easy. I could easily afford it, even without child support....
I pray about my problems, and I hope I make choices I can live with, but I really needed someone unbiased to vent to. Our town is so small, and finding someone who doesn't know my husband and "like" him is nearly impossible.
Sigh.......WWYD?
And I really do appreciate you all letting me vent.
No problem "listening" to you vent. You need it and this is a safe place to do it.
Since you asked: WWYD? I'll tell you what I'd like to think I'd do:
First - do you have access to his BANK account? Is there a way you can find out how much he has, and where it's been going? If the money is there, pay the mortgage.
I'd like to think I'd leave the sorry guy. It sounds like you two are nothing more than roommates. You have separate money and no idea of if something's been paid. He doesn't even help out around the house! IS he a good father? Does he play with/listen to/talk to the kids?
Is there another county close to you? Can you maybe move there? Then you could file for divorce/child support in THAT county and avoid the local judge, etc that your FiL knows! Before any of that, though - I'd get all of the paper evidence I could about what he provides and what you do.
That's what I'd like to think I'd do.
What I'd probably do if I still loved the guy and thought we could work it out: Threaten to leave him. Let him know that there are terms to you staying and they include: he pays the mortgage, and he at least stops being so blatant about his possible other women.
I don't have much advice to offer, but in bouncing off the above poster I will say that even if you move to a different county, you are required to file in the county that you lived in (marital residence). There are a few exceptions to this, but they are very few. If your sure you want out of the marriage, you need to contact a lawyer that can MAKE SURE you get a fair hearing.
With that said, divorce is NO fun and I have witnessed testimonies of marriages that were horrible and with prayer and committment (from both parties) were saved and went on to lead very happy marriages.
Either way- Definately prayers for you and your family.
You can vent here anytime. You certainly seem unhappy. A wise person once asked me, "would your life be better with him or without him? if the answer is without him, then you know what to do" I have no advice beyond that. I just hope you find a place where you can be happy.
You must think of it this way......You have one life to live......no do-overs.....make it a happy one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck and you can vent anytime.......I truly hope things work out one way or another.
my sister was in a horrendous marriage and after 13 years decided to separate.
he was awful, lied and was abusive, emotionally and physically.
I feared for her life, I always though one day we would get the phone call that they found her "accidentally dead" that bad it was.
It has been two years, she is much better in every respect, it was not easy but it was the right thing to do. She is a lot happier and safe.
Like I have read;..... men "speak with actions" ...
I agree that collecting as much information before you decided to speak to a
lawyer would be a good idea. You might also start looking for another place to
live just in case the bank takes the house. Will he go to counciling and do you
want to do that? Vent here anytime.
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