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[Chrissi]

I know I haven't posted for quite some time, and I don't want to impose, but I could really use some pixie dust. A very dear friend and coworker of mine died the week before Christmas. She was just 20 years old and had just recently learned that she had been chosen to do an internship for the feminist majority in D.C. We had lunch together the day before the car accident and she was so excited.
Her family held strictly private memorials and a Mass for her and while I understand that it was a very private time for the family - I'm having a hard time getting past this. I'm not sure how to mourn her and my husband is at a loss. I've been doing a lot of reading - mostly books that she recommended - and praying, but still haven't found any closure. She and I were planning a short trip together to WDW during spring break. DH and my parents think that a no-holds-barred, every-man-for-himself, have-fun-til-we-puke, trip to WDW would be a great way to honor her memory and her very fun-loving spirit. I'm beginning to agree.
So, anyone who has a little pixie dust to spare, or a prayer, send it my way.

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- Chrissi
Illiteracy is the night of the mind - a night without moon or stars... (adapted from Confucius writings)

[debe]

No matter how we loose a loved one or close friend, it isn't easy... especially if sudden. The only advise I can give, is for you to remember the good times you had together & to take one day at a time..

As time passes, your feelings of loss & sorrow will fall into the shadows of everyday life... Your memories of her wiil be with you forever leaving you a feeling of warmth in your heart.


Loads of Pixie Dust your way!

Besides taking a trip to WDW in memory of your friend, why not plant a tree in her memory too! (we have done this many times... everytime I look at our fruit trees I think of my father-in-law )



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"Remember the Magic!"
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Take Care, debe-nj

[tinkerose]

Sending ***Pixie Dust*** and prayers out to you. Also my sympathies during this time of loss. Celebrate your friend's life and remember her "very fun-loving spirit" now and forever. It will help you get through this difficult situation.

Rose

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tinkerose

[WildForWD]

Chrissi,
My heart, prayers, & Pixie Dust go out to you and your friend's family.

It is never easy to loose someone you love, but so much harder when they are so young.

I like Skychey's idea of writing a letter to say goodbye. It's a great way to express your feelings. Your friend is there with you, tell her how much you miss her & love her, it will help.

And GO to Disney! I can think of no better way to honor her memory.

It will take time but the pain will lessen, and you will be left with wonderful memories of a true friend.

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WildForWD
...you must face the age of not believing
...until at last you start believing there's something wonderful in you!!

WildForWD

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[Skychey]

My heart feels for you. So I'm sending lots of pixie dust and prayers! It is very hard to deal with the sudden loss of a friend. I lost one of my best friends 10 years ago. I had gone to visit my sister's for 2 months and my friend was killed in a car wreck, and I could not come home for the funeral. My way of "mourning" her was writing her a goodbye letter after I returned and left it at her grave. I still think of her often, we just had our 10 yr high school reunion. She always said that if there was a contest for the best senior pictures, mine would win hands down. (This was coming from the one voted most popular).

Every day will be a little better than the last, and you will see her again one day! So go to WDW, have fun, and do it in her memory! Maybe WDW is a little piece of heaven on earth.

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Skychey
"To infinity and beyond!"

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[LauraBelle V. Hime]

Chrissi-
Sending you lots of pixie dust. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy in the loss of your friend. Maybe if you keep a journal with you at all times and jot down your feelings when they seem to overwhelm you might help.

God bless and keep in touch.

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Take care-
Laura
"When you wish..........


laura

Sending you lots of pixie dust and a little, hopefully helpful, suggestion. No one can tell you how to grieve or what is the right thing to do. But I agree with your family that the trip to WDW could be good way to honor your friends memory. Think about taking some time in a beautiful spot at WDW to hold your own private memorial service. Even if it's just you thinking and remembering. It will be sad at times but at least you will be thinking good thoughts. Good Luck no matter what.

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Celebrate the future...


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[Chrissi]

Thank you all so much. My husband and I are going to try to put a brick in the "Walk around the World" @ WDW and plant an herb garden @ home in her memory. She was as big a fan of all things Disney as I am.

The letter is a great idea, too, Skychey. I've been writing to her in my journal - instead of writing "Dear Diary" I guess. It helps to think she's reading over my shoulder, like my guardian angel. I didn't believe in angels until I started writing to her. Now, someone would have to convince me otherwise.

I wish I had posted sooner. I can't tell you how much better I felt after reading your replies. I'll send along the prayers & pixie dust to her mom and siblings. Thank you again.

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- Chrissi
Illiteracy is the night of the mind - a night without moon or stars... (adapted from Confucius writings)

[Luvsun]

Please know that my prayers and thoughts are with you now - and that Pixie Dust ***** is being sent your way for dear sweet memories of your friendship. I do believe that a trip to the world of magic would be a true tribute to your friend! We just came back from a trip from Disney - just 3 days ago! This trip was a family trip in honor of my father - who so wanted to take us all there during his lifetime. We had a trip planned - and then God decided to take our Dad home - so our plans changed and it took us 3 years to get there - but we did and we had a wonderful time - and all the time - thinking how much Dad (or Grandpa) would have loved doing all of the things we were doing and seeing all of the neat things! It was such a great and special time - and one that none of us will ever forget! I highly recommend doing the trip!
I also understand your sorrow and grief! The day after we returned home ( yesterday) my dear friend gave me the news that she was to have a lung biopsy this week - the pneumonia she had - was not pneumonia - her x-rays are no better and her CAT scan was bad! They are quite worried about her diagnosis - as am I - so believe me when I tell you - friends are dear and whatever you need to do for yourself at this time - DO IT! Take care - Ann

[All Ears]

Our thoughts & prayers are with you. It is never easy to lose someone you love, & it can be very hard to find closure without the memorial/funeral to say "goodbye."
I think the letter writing & journal writing are both excellent ways to help you cope. I also agree with Debe, the tree planting is a nice tribute.
As for the trip, do what feels right for YOU. You may not feel up to going on a trip -- but then again, a trip away may be the perfect getaway. Only you can know what you will feel best in doing, and when the time is right, you will know it.
Take care of yourself, and we will all be thinking of you.
All Ears

[whoSEZ]

Chrissi, I don't have any magic words, but I wanted you to know I'm thinking of you.

Sandy