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It's going to be hard for you but I say enjoy the trip without your son. It sounds like he's not interested in going and I wouldn't force the issue.
I'd also call the airline and explain that your son couldn't get off work and see if they'd give you a refund or a credit for future use. It never hurts to ask.
As a 19 year old, I can see this from your DS's POV...kind of. I know guys who at this age want to work and get money, be independent and all that. Disney is just not "cool" and they would rather stay home with friends than go to Disney. (Luckily, my group of friends do not think like that! Thank goodness, because if they didn't support my Disney addiction like they do, we'd all go nuts! ) I'm sorry if this is where your DS stands and that things are shaky between you two. It is hard to deal with the changes that growing up brings, and everyone is different. Know you are not the only one in this situation though!
Now I'm the complete opposite from what I just described, so I do see your side more much clearly. I am probably the most Disney obsessed person in my house, and I am the one who, aside from order tix and adrs and stuff, does most of the planning and "vision" making. Disney for me is family time, with EVERYONE. I'm in college but I still live at home when I come home, and I am working two part time jobs this summer. We were not able to go to Disney this year as we (well my parents, as it is their call) thought it more wise to spend the money on my college and save it for my sister's college in a few years. I was very disappointed that my "vision" was put on hold, but I now understand that we will get to go back...not soon enough! But soon.
Sorry for the little novel, got off on a tangent. I hope that you are able to put this all aside and enjoy your vacation! As tough as it is, maybe you don't need DS's unwillingness with you, so you can be fully emersed in the magic of the Disney Bubble! (I'd give him time, I have a feeling he'll come around sooner or later, even if right now, he is feeling the need to detach himself from his family.) I hope that whatever happens, you have a truly magical trip, even if your vision gets tweaked a little.
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As a 19 year old, I can see this from your DS's POV...kind of. I know guys who at this age want to work and get money, be independent and all that. Disney is just not "cool" and they would rather stay home with friends than go to Disney. (Luckily, my group of friends do not think like that! Thank goodness, because if they didn't support my Disney addiction like they do, we'd all go nuts! ) I'm sorry if this is where your DS stands and that things are shaky between you two. It is hard to deal with the changes that growing up brings, and everyone is different. Know you are not the only one in this situation though!
Now I'm the complete opposite from what I just described, so I do see your side more much clearly. I am probably the most Disney obsessed person in my house, and I am the one who, aside from order tix and adrs and stuff, does most of the planning and "vision" making. Disney for me is family time, with EVERYONE. I'm in college but I still live at home when I come home, and I am working two part time jobs this summer. We were not able to go to Disney this year as we (well my parents, as it is their call) thought it more wise to spend the money on my college and save it for my sister's college in a few years. I was very disappointed that my "vision" was put on hold, but I now understand that we will get to go back...not soon enough! But soon.
Sorry for the little novel, got off on a tangent. I hope that you are able to put this all aside and enjoy your vacation! As tough as it is, maybe you don't need DS's unwillingness with you, so you can be fully emersed in the magic of the Disney Bubble! (I'd give him time, I have a feeling he'll come around sooner or later, even if right now, he is feeling the need to detach himself from his family.) I hope that whatever happens, you have a truly magical trip, even if your vision gets tweaked a little.
Mandy, it is very sweet of you to take the time to write about your point of view. I really appreaciate your input. I am getting used to the idea of him not going and trying to think that will actually be better off without his complaining
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Call your son. Tell him you love him. Tell him if things change and he is able to come on the trip you would LOVE to have him come with you still, but you understand that HIS circumstances at THIS POINT in time will not allow him to come. Then LET GO! Either something will change and he will be able to to come, or nothing will change and he won't. It is a very painful position to be in (for YOU) right now. But as a parent, the most important thing we can give our children is unconditional love...
Have a magical time in Disney with the rest of your family!
It sounds like you two need a dinner out together with guilt and resentment checked at the door. Maybe if you had a nice visit together "away from it all" you would feel a little better going on vacation without him.
It sounds like you two need a dinner out together with guilt and resentment checked at the door. Maybe if you had a nice visit together "away from it all" you would feel a little better going on vacation without him.
That sounds like a wonderful idea. Going on vacation without him doesn't isn't kicking him out of the family or anything! : Make Disney a magical time with the rest of your family, and do something else, like dinner, a sporting event, etc. with DS to spend time with him, and show him you're still there. I think it will make the both of you feel better.
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Living out a childhood dream during my summer 2015 trip to WDW. Is it time to go back yet?
“All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them." –Walt Disney
His plane ticket- it's non refundable (basically going to waste)
Plane tickets are non refundable but...if you call they will likely take out the $150 change fee and give you a credit to use another time for the rest. I know because I just had that happen with my daughter too. Our fare was only $204 so I will get a $54 credit. Not much, probably not worth it. But if yours is more.....
OH, I'm so sorry about your son not being able to go! But, what a responsible boy! During my son's freshman year of college, we went during our regular April vacation (I am a teacher), and my husband, daughter and I went. We missed him terribly, but it turned out it was worse for me than for him. He really could have cared less! To make matters worse, it was his birthday one of the days and I was freaking out! But, he's a regular guy, and thought nothing of it. He just hung out with college friends and that is what he only wanted to do anyway. It was only my problem and me freaking out! I'm sure he is OK with it, and all of you can have fun together another time! Keep us posted. Maybe, he'll get some time of anyway, or at another time.
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) I'm sorry if this is where your DS stands and that things are shaky between you two. It is hard to deal with the changes that growing up brings, and everyone is different. Know you are not the only one in this situation though! 
Disney for me is family time, with EVERYONE. I'm in college but I still live at home when I come home, and I am working two part time jobs this summer. We were not able to go to Disney this year as we (well my parents, as it is their call) thought it more wise to spend the money on my college and save it for my sister's college in a few years. I was very disappointed that my "vision" was put on hold, but I now understand that we will get to go back...not soon enough! But soon. 
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: Make Disney a magical time with the rest of your family, and do something else, like dinner, a sporting event, etc. with DS to spend time with him, and show him you're still there. I think it will make the both of you feel better. 
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