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Like others have said, ask you DH to deal with her in those situations. It sounds like she's jealous and taking it out on you...not fair, and probably won't change from the sounds of it.
Good luck with future interactions and keep your head held high!
Had similar experience with a friend of mine when his ex would call (usually late, always at unreasonable times, and often on the wrong day) to pick up their three young children.
He asked me to "hide" in his house one day when she was due to call, she was her usual abusive, foul mouthed self, and decided to call the police on my friend alleging HE had been verbally abusing and threatening HER. Imagine her surprise when I "appeared" when the police arrived and was able to relate everything SHE had said! I work in law enforcement and was considered "independent" so her ranting and unreasonable behaviour really back-fired on her. Not long afterwards my friend was awarded sole custody (which believe me was really in the children's best interests).
Just consider this, in the years to come, as YOUR son gets older, he will soon realise that you, the LADY who is being a true MOTHER to him is in the right, and the foul mouthed, unreasonable woman who is such a monster just gave birth to him.
Keep up the good fight, you are in the right, and don't ever feel the need, or allow yourself, to lower your self to her level.
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Lots of good advice, hard though it will be to follow.
I have the same type of problem with my sister...somehow everything is my fault and she's verbally abusive as well. She doesn't believe she is and *I* am ruinning *HER* life. (how has never been explained to me)
To this day I don't know her issue, but I just let her go. Her latest is that I don't contact her, and I am abiding by her wishes.
You don't have that option, I know, but try to keep the high road, DS will remember that you tried...and his mom didn't.
Wow, she sounds like a real prize. It has to be incredibly stressful to have to deal with someone so poisonous on an ongoing basis. And your poor DS. I think you did a good job not blowing up at her or arguing with her or getting down on her level.
I agree that having your husband deal with her is probably going to be the best choice for everyone. That way there's less opportunity for friction between the two of you. I'm sure she's dying to get under your skin and provoke a reaction out of you. I'm glad you're not giving her that satisfaction.
If you DS asks again for you to be friends with him mom, I'd just tell him that you would like that too and that maybe he should talk to her.
I think that's great advice. He probably knows that the fault lies with his mom and that you're trying, but -- because you're so reasonable -- he sees you as the one to go to. Tell him that you've tried, but she'll need to meet you halfway.
Well, DH sent her an email telling her she needed to be respectful when picking up DS or should would no longer be welcome at our house. This would mean she'd have to pay to have a "transfer person". She did not respond, nor did I expect her to. She has a real problem with admitting fault. In fact I'm sure she's convinced herself and DS that the whole episode was my fault. You can see it in his attitude towards me since he's been back home. Hopefully she can't brainwash him forever and sooner or later he'll figure it out. I don't know.
As far as letting DH deal with her, I wish it was that easy. Her court ordered pick up time is 5pm and DH is at work until 6pm. Normally I don't say anything to her because there's no need. This was just a situation where I felt the information I was passing along was important. DH had even mentioned to me that day that he was going to try and get a hold of her before she came to pick up DS so I wouldn't have to talk to her, but he got busy at work and never got back to me. Hopefully it won't happen again.
I just wish I knew how to help DS through this. He's so brainwashed by his mother. In fact, he makes sure he gives me a hug goodbye before the door opens. Once he told me, I have to hug you quick before my mom sees and gets mad. It seems to me, that if he can put that together he'd realize she's in the wrong, but he doesn't. Yes well. All I can do is be the better person and hope for the best.
Thanks for all the pixies and support. It's nice to have you guys in my corner. You all rock!!
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All you can do is continue to love your son and be coldly polite to his biological birth parent...you are his Mom...
Eventually, he will realize what the score is...too bad she won't because the ONLY person she is hurting is him.
My brother went through this with his ex-wife. Eventually, because of her behavior and that of her family members that were always with her, they had to meet at the town police barracks to exchange my niece. Thankfully, his ex-wife has grown up a lot and they can now be cordial to each other for Maddie's sake.
You are in my prayers and I hope you know how special you are!
I'm sorry. I had the same problem with DH's ex. I finally told him that I'd had it, and made him do all communication with her from then on - even if she and I were in the same room, I'd look at him and say "Can you please let her know that the kids did their homework, but ____ has a school project that she needs to work on."
And - hate to tell you - unless you think your DS will have nothing to do with his mother after he's of age - you will NEVER be rid of her. There will be birthdays, weddings, funerals, and grandchildren and all of their things where you'll have to see her. ON the up side, if she's a bad as my DH's ex, her kids will decide to never have anything to do with her again, and then you'll be free of her.
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