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This is why my DD is into Girl Scouts. NO Big image problem there. And when I was in dance many, many years ago, my mom had to make my tap costume which had to have feathers added to a white body suit and then my gymnastics costume was a darn clown outfit and my jazz was a 1 pc body suit that had black from the waist down but black and blue stripes horizontally going across and we were supposed to be pickpockets. MY GOD what are they teaching our kids these days???? I don't think I could do this to my DD. She has enough self-esteem issues. That's why GS is definitely the way to go.
Wow, we just went thru the same thing, BUT had GREAT results...
My dd, also measured in December, told the instructor her shorts were fine, ummmm...no they look like they are gonna split...when she tried them on 2 weeks ago, I was like, ummm...no way...
The instructor told the owner and we received proper fitting shorts last night, 2 days before rehearsal..
This is HELL week here...
Class last night, rehearsal Wednesday 5-7...actual recital...Thursday, Friday and Saturday, yikes...
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This is such an interesting thread. We enrolled our 5 year old in dance this year because several people we spoke to said that it built confidence and their self esteem. After reading these posts it sounds like the opposite may be true. My dd didn't enjoy the recital and seemed to have some stage fright issues. I have been torn between encouraging her to continue with dance to try to overcome those issues or letting her try another activity. Sounds like trying something else may be a better way to go...
Dawn, I feel for you. My DD danced from age 2-12 at two different studios. We left the first one because I felt like you needed a second mortgage to go to the recital. I paid over $75. seventeen years ago for a costume for a 3 year old that was poorly made and while her first year costume was OK, her second year one was ugly. We also had expensive tickets to sell (10 each family) and pictures and videos to buy. No one was allowed to do their own.
We changed to a studio where the costumes were made for each recital, but often re-used. Each costume was "rented" for $15-20. DD, who is and always has been very petite, left when she felt uncomfortable with some body issues that were arising as the girls hit puberty and were told to make sure they didn't have a tummy and their breasts didn't jiggle. DD had neither, but didn't like the emphasis. I was concerned that 12 year old were dieting and worrying about being fat.
I think is is very hard to find a good dance studio. But I also think it was hard to find a good piano teacher and a good riding instructor. What I learned was to do lots of homework and don't be afraid to leave. I have sat through too many piano, riding, karate, etc. lessons to count. When my DD started riding, I had to buy a ten lesson package. I asked what would happen if she hated it. The answer was simple-they would refund the lessons she didn't take. I now realize how I lucked out with her first barn. I knew nothing about riding and a good friend gave me the name of someone who was excellent, but had I tried finding it on my own, DD may have ended up with someone who was less competent or downright dangerous.
If you DD loves dance, there is probably someone out there who will meet her needs. But she may also be better with a different type of movement class-one with less emphasis on the end of the year recital as well as on body image.
The other thing I have found is that in most activities there are "pets" and "favorites." It is very hard to avoid. We always encouraged our kids to only compare themselves to themselves-how had they improved? What were their personal goals? We also tried to reward hard work and tenacity. My older DS was an extremely talented pianist. My DD was 5 years younger and did not have his gift. What she did have was an enormous ability to concerntrate and work hard. I emphasized that and by the time she finshed high school, she played very difficult pieces, very well.
I know you are in a small town. I hope you can find some activity to meet your DD's needs. I would, however, leave the studio she is at. The owner seems pretty insensitive.
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