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[JKnott17]

I love the Minnie shoes!! They are going to look adorable on Brianna. It was so very nice of your Aunt and Uncle to get them for her. I agree with the others, I'd let your Aunt purchase the photopass CD for you. She offered, you didn't ask her for it, so I don't think it's taking advantage. She obviously cares a great deal about you and your family, and I'm sure it will make her happy to help you out so you can have all of the beautiful pictures and memories of Bri's first trip when you come home

[mushu22]

[Coop]

I agree with everyone here. David's family needs to be brought into the loop. It's only fair. Because 1 - he's their kid and 2 - they may be able to help. As far as your Aunt goes - take her up on it. She wants to do something nice. Sometimes you have to give the gift of receiving. It's what a giver wants. (if that makes sense?) More and

[OneLittleSpark]

Another agreement with all the above posters. Look at it as a gift to Bri, for a souvie for her first trip. That is how I would look at it.

I am glad you worked out your travel book, and actual decided to do exactly what I was thinking and posted to you. Sounds like a great idea!

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[KMB733]

I don't think I can add much more that hasn't already been said by the others. I think it is very important that David's parents know what is going on. Hopefully he can get to see his doctor soon and add/change meds that might help with the anxiety.

Bri's new shoes are so cute! I love those Minnie Mouse ones. Your aunt sounds wonderful and I wouldn't hesitate to take her up on the offer. I'm sure she just wants you to have those memories of Bri's first trip!

[Cam22]

David's parent need to know and as soon as possible. I also feel that David needs to see his doctor and it may be necessary for you to go with him, so the doctor truly understands what is going on with the medications.

Brianna's new shoes are so adorable! I don't think your Aunt would offer to buy the PP CD if she didn't want to already, so why not take her up on the offer.

[MayraLR]

Bri's shoes are adorable! I agree with the others on your aunt's offer. I think she'll be so happy to help.

[Jessie092408]

Originally Posted by chezp

I'd definitely encourage David to get back to the doctor's, especially as it sounds like the tablets could be making some of the symptoms worse.

At some stage, his parents are going to need to know. Maybe you could have a conversation with him and say that he needs to tell them and broach the subject of you doing it and see what he says? He might be grateful if you were to do... just a thought.

As to your aunt's kind offer, she's making the offer and it sounds to me like she's doing it for a really great reason - and maybe she'd also enjoy seeing the photos of Bri's first trip. I'd take her up on it and one day you can pay her back for her kindess - just my view.

David is being very stubborn about telling his family, and it's getting frustrating. Whenever I ask him about it, he just says he's "not ready" for them to know.

Originally Posted by kingfamily1129

I agree with Chez. David definitely needs to talk to his parents ASAP. This is something they really need to know. I would def. talk to his doctor soon too and see if there is a new medication he can try.
As far as your Aunt, I think the offer in genuine and she really wants to do this for you all. I would take her up on it. You can always pay her back later but you can't get pictures of Bri's first time at WDW back. She seems to really want to do it, so let her. And, you can pay it forward later. When our house caught fire and we practically lost everything, people bought us new clothes, new toys for Aiden, the whole nine yards. I felt horrible for taking it all. I was too independent for that. But then someone told me that the best way to pay back a kindness is to someday pay it forward to someone else you know or see who needs it. And i've been doing just that ever since. Everything will be okay. Just keep swimming

Finding Nemo is one of my favorites, and I tell David to "just keep swimming" all the time, so your comment made me smile. Thanks for your advice!

Originally Posted by mfirst

I agree that David's family needs to be alerted. I think you need to let him know that if by "x" day you haven't told them, I'm going to need to clue them in in a gentle way. As a parent, I don't think I'd want to be blindsided. It's a tough situation because you aren't their daughter, but you are the mother of their grandchild and their son's wife. Maybe you could just give them a few bare hints and prod them into talking with David?

The travel changer sounds perfect by they way Good luck getting the ground floor room request. You may want to call the resort directly and inquire about the pack n play - I know I put it on the "special" request portion for our original reservations but there isn't a way to indicate it for on line check-in (weird, right?). The hotel does supply a crib sheet of sorts. I think it was a flat sheet wrapped tightly around the mattress. When Cullen wet through a diaper, I was able to call and get a new sheet for him (even in the middle of the night)

As for the photo CD? If your Aunt sincerely wants to purchase it, maybe you should let her. As another PP'r mentioned - maybe she wants to see Bri's first trip. You can always pay her back or provide some really great pictures for her (Christmas gift?).

Way to go on the Magic+ test - can't wait to hear your thoughts about it!

Thanks for the info, I will definitely call the resort tomorrow or Monday.

Originally Posted by lauriep

Briana's new shoes are adorable! Your aunt and uncle are so sweet to buy them for her. I agree with others that you should accept the offer of the photopass CD. Once you have the photo CD you'll be able to share Briana's first visit and this will be a wonderful thank-you to the people who are helping you through this hard time. It's difficult to accept these gifts, but if you put yourself in their position I know you can see that it's a pleasure to them to help you in this way.

My aunt and uncle are wonderful people.

Originally Posted by dutchdisneyfamily

David's family needs to be alerted, even if you have to do it yourself. He needs help, poor guy. Good idea getting him back to the Dr. Love the shoes! I'd take the Aunt up on the offer. She obviously wants to do this for you. It's sweet.

Thanks for the advice!

Originally Posted by JKnott17

I love the Minnie shoes!! They are going to look adorable on Briana. It was so very nice of your Aunt and Uncle to get them for her. I agree with the others, I'd let your Aunt purchase the photopass CD for you. She offered, you didn't ask her for it, so I don't think it's taking advantage. She obviously cares a great deal about you and your family, and I'm sure it will make her happy to help you out so you can have all of the beautiful pictures and memories of Bri's first trip when you come home

My scrapbook/photo album would look pretty sad without the photopass pics...have to admit!

Originally Posted by mushu22

Originally Posted by Coop

I agree with everyone here. David's family needs to be brought into the loop. It's only fair. Because 1 - he's their kid and 2 - they may be able to help. As far as your Aunt goes - take her up on it. She wants to do something nice. Sometimes you have to give the gift of receiving. It's what a giver wants. (if that makes sense?) More and

I am so terrible at accepting gifts. I always feel guilty because I never feel like I do enough in return.

Originally Posted by OneLittleSpark

Another agreement with all the above posters. Look at it as a gift to Bri, for a souvie for her first trip. That is how I would look at it.

I am glad you worked out your travel book, and actual decided to do exactly what I was thinking and posted to you. Sounds like a great idea!

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Lol, I've been so scatterbrained lately, I didn't remember you posting that! Sorry!

Originally Posted by KMB733

I don't think I can add much more that hasn't already been said by the others. I think it is very important that David's parents know what is going on. Hopefully he can get to see his doctor soon and add/change meds that might help with the anxiety.

Bri's new shoes are so cute! I love those Minnie Mouse ones. Your aunt sounds wonderful and I wouldn't hesitate to take her up on the offer. I'm sure she just wants you to have those memories of Bri's first trip!

Thank you!

Originally Posted by Cam22

David's parent need to know and as soon as possible. I also feel that David needs to see his doctor and it may be necessary for you to go with him, so the doctor truly understands what is going on with the medications.

Brianna's new shoes are so adorable! I don't think your Aunt would offer to buy the PP CD if she didn't want to already, so why not take her up on the offer.

Thanks, Cam!

Originally Posted by MayraLR

Bri's shoes are adorable! I agree with the others on your aunt's offer. I think she'll be so happy to help.

My aunt spoils us!

[Jessie092408]

First, David updates, so we can end on happy notes with Disney updates.

Good update:

David got e-mailed back about a receptionist/check-in clerk position at a clinic that he had applied at. How awesome that the very first application he gets turned in he gets a response?! He was so excited when he told me. It's a Saturday/Sunday only position, but it's 12 hour shifts, so he'd get 24 hours a week, and the pay would be better than what he is making now. He was talking about doing that and stepping down from his supervisor position and cutting his hours at Walmart, then continuing to look for a different job.

I think two part-time jobs might actually be better for David at this point, because he won't get too bored with one or the other. He'd have to stay part-time at this clinic for a year before he could switch positions within the company, but as he said, it's a foot in the door - and a step away from doing retail, which he despises. (I'm actually starting to look for a non-retail job, too. I want to raise Briana in a house with a regular schedule, rather than one that varies day to day and week to week.)

Anyway...my SIL works at Target and David has also applied for a "Team Lead" (supervisor) position there, which is not his ideal job, but he said ANY change from Walmart at this point is a good one and I agree. My sister in law told her boss about David, and he said he was going to pull up his application and take a look at it. So, the first two applications David turned in BOTH got a response of one kind or another, which is so happy and exciting!

The Bad Update:

David is still refusing to tell his parents, and has now told me that he'll be upset if I tell them behind his back. Or at all. I'm trying so hard to adhere to his wishes, but I think he's flat out wrong to not tell them what is happening. God forbid something bad happens or David gets hospitalized or whatever, it'll be the most brutal way for them to find out. I believe in my heart that they deserve to know what's happening, but I am also afraid of David's reaction at this point if I clue them in myself. I'm at a loss. I think I'm going to have to call his therapist and talk to her about talking to him about it. (David signed a release so that they can speak with me about his treatment and offer suggestions if I notice something they're missing.) At this point, that's all I can think of doing without causing a huge fight with my husband on top of everything else.

Fun Disney Stuff:

I caved and allowed Julie to purchase the PP C.D. for us. I told her to stop spoiling me, and she ignored me...and went on to start sending me pictures of cute baby body suits that looked like Disney Princess costumes. She asked which three were my favorite, and I told her. And then she bought them. She's sneaky. I didn't know what was happening until it was too late to stop her, because the way she was asking it didn't seem like she intended to purchase them. She knows me too well...she knew I would say no if she asked if I wanted them.

When I said "Thank you, Julie. No more gifts, lol! You're spoiling her! And me...and David..." via text message, she sent back "Her, yes, you kind of, David not at all. :-) They don't make onesies in his size!" Oh my goodness she had me laughing so hard!

I nearly had a heart attack today! I had asked my manager as soon as I got (re)hired at my job (after quitting to stay home longer with Briana) about taking the first week in September off. She said she would put it in the computer right away and not to worry about it, it was approved.

Well, that manager went to nights and the nights manager came to days (they switch every three months), and I wrote my new manager what I thought was a courtesy reminder note today about the time the other manager had already approved...and he said that there was nothing about my vacation time in the computer!!! Assistant Manager Sarah must have forgotten to put it in...even though I asked her about it a couple weeks after I initially broached the subject and she said it was no problem again.

The thing is, the first week of September is blocked off as a no vacation week because of labor day...busy week at the grocery store for us WinCo workers. Which is why I had approached Sarah back in MAY about it! So I heard Chris (my other assistant manager) talking to the store manager about it, and I heard her tell him that if Sarah said it was in the computer, they'd have to talk to Sarah about it.

I am hoping and praying that she remembers, because I really don't want to have to fight with my store manager for this time off. I was told three months ago that I didn't have to worry about it, and I'm not happy that now I am having to worry about it!

In addition to writing him the note, once I found out there was an issue, I also put it on the weekly time-off request forms, and I plan on trying to call tomorrow morning before Sarah leaves work to ask about it. I'm actually really upset. I don't need this stress on top of everything else I'm dealing with right now. (Oh, woe is me...forgive me for acting all dramatic. It's been a rough time for us lately and it's making me grouchy.)

Anyway, those are pretty much all the updates I have for you guys right now. Oh, except that I managed to squirrel away twenty dollars this week, so now we only need to save another fifty for tips. Woo hoo.

I'll keep you guys updated. Two weeks until Disney World! Woot!

[chezp]

I hope it all works out with your time off. That's the last thing you need to worry about on top of everything else.

I think speaking to the therapist about David's family sounds like the right way to go right now. I hope she can help.

Great news about the response about the other job - I really hope it works out, as that may be exactly what David needs. Lots of coming your way for that.

[lauriep]

Wow, the job news for David is so good! It's just amazing to get two positive responses so early. I'm no expert, but they say that one of the signs of depression is lethargy and the inability to get motivated to do anything. The fact that David is forging ahead with these job applications seems to me a very promising sign. I think your decision to talk to his therapist about telling his parents is a very good idea. What a blessing it is to have people like your Grandma, Dad, and Aunt on your side! I love the way your Aunt is helping-- keeping it light and making it fun!

[mushu22]

with the time off and more and being sent your way for your family

[Jessie092408]

Originally Posted by chezp

I hope it all works out with your time off. That's the last thing you need to worry about on top of everything else.

I think speaking to the therapist about David's family sounds like the right way to go right now. I hope she can help.

Great news about the response about the other job - I really hope it works out, as that may be exactly what David needs. Lots of coming your way for that.

Thank you for the hugs and pixies. And I am hoping to find out by tomorrow about my time off.

Originally Posted by lauriep

Wow, the job news for David is so good! It's just amazing to get two positive responses so early. I'm no expert, but they say that one of the signs of depression is lethargy and the inability to get motivated to do anything. The fact that David is forging ahead with these job applications seems to me a very promising sign. I think your decision to talk to his therapist about telling his parents is a very good idea. What a blessing it is to have people like your Grandma, Dad, and Aunt on your side! I love the way your Aunt is helping-- keeping it light and making it fun!

I'm so proud of David. He is trying so hard to keep being productive, despite his depression. I know it's harder on some days than others, but he is generally doing a pretty great job.

Originally Posted by mushu22

with the time off and more and being sent your way for your family

Thank you!

[OneLittleSpark]

Yay for new job prospects! for your time off. I can see why that would be stressful and upsetting.

I want to see the onesies!!!! I am glad you let Julie pay for the Photopass.

I agree with the other posters in talking to David's therapist. Maybe they can help David be ready for it.

[Colexis Mom]

Good luck with the jobs for David! I do hope he reconsiders telling his family! And sorry about your time off, I hope you're able to get it worked out! Congrats on the shoes and the CD!