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I would not involve your DS until everything is decided. Then I would discuss it with him since he is an adult, but give him very limited information.
Good Luck with everything...
I have mixed feelings about telling-and my usual stance is never tell a child. My DH left after 30 years of marriage for a much younger woman(not even 30 years old). He also moved 1000 miles a way. My DD was 18 and going off to college, my sons were a senior in college and 23. I never said a negative thing to the kids about my ex and never will.
My DD was livid at her father and would not even let me give him her school email address. The following summer, I found out she knew a lot. In retropect, I think it may have been helpful to actually talk through things and let her I did know what was going on and she did not have to be angry for me.
The big question is can you present information without it being one sided? Maybe on a break both you and your DH could sit down with your DS and talk to him.
So sorry you are going through a difficult time. My advice is to seek counseling. If you husband refuses then go alone. My DH also suffers from anxiety and depression and speaking to a counselor helps me (and us) immensely.
As for DS, I wouldn't tell him anything yet. This is between you and your husband.
I agree, don't involve DS. You are entitled to some privacy and this does not concern him. If you decide to split, then tell him with minimal details.
Hope counseling works. Even if he won't go, you go.
I`m nearly 50, married 30 years and with a DD21. My DH has alot of interests seperate to mine and I don`t mind. We are still emotionally close and I still feels he cares for me. If that were to change, those issues would have to be tackled or I don`t think I could stay in the relationship, but I`d fight to keep the relationship alive.
My DD would like to know everything but the reality is she still needs that security and the rock that is home. I only tell her what she really needs to know. Things can change and I wouldn`t make her anxious.
Depression from my experience can make people unwittingly very selfish, it can be an emotionless state. That can change with the right help.
Many pixies for you.
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I have no advice at all for the marriage issue, being single and never married. But I am going to go against the grain here regarding your DS. When I was growing up, even into adulthood, my parents always kept things from me - usually regarding their health or my brother's messed-up life. I always knew when something was going on and the things I imagined were 10x's worse than the reality. I think I was in my mid-30's before I convinced them that I could handle anything they were going through. My DH2B's mother still keeps everything from him - even to the point that his father had advanced cancer before he heard the first bit of information. He really resents this.
Your DS is an adult (albeit, a young one) and while it may be none of his business, he will know something is wrong and it will be easier to hear the truth than imagine the worst. I do agree that you need to keep it from sounding too one-sided, and remember, he's not a buddy whose shoulder you're crying on - he's your son to whom you are relating the facts of the situation. If he has questions about what's going on with his father, he should ask him.
One other thing - if your DH has been diagnosed w/ anxiety & depression, has he been given medication for this? If not, he may need some, and if so, his MD should monitor it for side effects (like personality change). I hope he will go to counseling with you. But if he doesn't keep with it yourself - it will help.
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