My family needs Pixies for Emotional healing, please (this is going to be a long one) - Page 2 - PassPorter - A Community of Walt Disney World, Disneyland, Disney Cruise Line, and General Travel Forums
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Reading your post I can understand you not wanting to break the ties tht you have with your daughter...being a mother myself I cannot fathom getting to a point where I could actually see myself pulling away...even in a bad situation yet I can also tell you from expereince that might be what you have to do...
My mother and I never had a gret realtionship...however when I got into a bad realtionship I knew that her fears were valid yet I was too stubborn, maybe too stupid and just did not want to hear them because deep down I knew that she was right...
When I got pregnant albit the bad realtionship I hid it from her knowing her what her reaction would be...
When I had no choice but to tell her I don't know what was worse...her reaction or me knowing that as much as I knew she was right I was going to stupidly not take her advice...
The hardest thing for me was giving birth and not having my mother there...it broke my heart. While she still was there for my oldest daughter I hated the fact that she did not even want to acknowledge my new child...
Now I understand that it was not that she did not want to know her grandchild...but that her fears for me and my oldest daughter made it impossible for her to be happy for me...maybe not the best way to show her concern but the point made never the less...
I can say now that when push came to shove...she became a wonderful grandparent to both my children and when I finally got the nerve to get myeslf out of the hell that I put myself into I could tell her thank you...
It was hard and I tell you I don't know if I could ever do it but her walking away truly made me stronger...it made me see what I had done to myself and my children...
The hardest thing to do is to admit that you messed up or more so that you put yourself into a situation that you should not be...I made every excuse as to why I stayed...I wanted to help, he did love me but just did not know how to show it, he needed help...I used them all but in the end it was all a lie...
What I can say is that I have a wonderful realtionship now with my parents and I thank them everyday for staying strong and making me stand up on my own two feet and fix my life...that is not to say that it did not hurt...a part of me never will forget the feeling I had in the hospital as I had my child knowing my mom was not there...
But when I see her with my kids...when I talk to her each day (as I do...even if it is to tell her a funny anadote that happened throughout the day)...I understand why she did what she did...my not fully love the fact tht at the worse time of my life she was not there...but also know that in her own way she was...
I got out and deep down I know that her love for me (while not there phyically) got me through the worst of it...and made me into the person I am now...
First let me say how sorry I am that you have to go throw this.
With that being said I can say this. Been there done that. Two words for you TOUGH LOVE!! I know that it will be hard on you and your DH, but that is what she needs. She is at a point that he has her believeing that he is the best she can do, he has tryed to make it work with you all, you all dont love her you are trying to controll her and on and on. What you need to do because this is what my family did to me twice is set the rules. My family told me both times that the guys were wrong and so on. If I wanted to see how people in my family were I had to call, they would not call me. They also told me that I was welcome at anytime but the guys were not. And that is what you need to do. Tell her she is more then welcome at home anytime and that you all will be there for her, but until she either dumps the (cant say the words, fill in the no's ) BF or he grows up and comes to you and your DH and says he is sorry for being a _________ (see above) then he is not allowed at your house and such. Just make sure that she knows you love her and this is the best. Just drop her a card each week to just say I LOVE YOU while this is going on. She will wake up and see that you and DH were right and the ABF was wrong. You do have to let her make the mistake but you dont have to be apart of it 100%.
I know that once my family did that it was only a matter of two to three months before I got a clue and looking back they were right. The one I see every so offten, he is the same trys to get me to do what he wants and so on, sad part is he will always be in my life (that is a long story for another day ). The other one has moved away and doing good for his self, he got back with his ex-wife and their child and every once in awhile I will get an email from him to say Hi and how sorry he was for the things that happened when we were together. So it will work out, just give it time. All the best of luck with you and your family.
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We all know how painful it is to be a mother.......................the pain begins in the delivery room, but so does love and the caring nature we have.......................so, be strong and pray. Hope it all works out for ALL of you. rella
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) BF or he grows up and comes to you and your DH and says he is sorry for being a _________ (see above) then he is not allowed at your house and such. Just make sure that she knows you love her and this is the best. Just drop her a card each week to just say I LOVE YOU while this is going on. She will wake up and see that you and DH were right and the ABF was wrong. You do have to let her make the mistake but you dont have to be apart of it 100%. 
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