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Does anyone else have in-law issues? It really isn’t too bad but, the last 9 months have been rough.
It all started last Easter. My grandma has dementia/kidney failure and a heart that only works at 17%. She is in a nursing home and fading. So I asked MIL if I could host Easter so my Gram could be there too. She said, sure. Well fast forward a week before Easter she says, “We have traditions and, sorry but I am hosting Easter” Okay lady, I have been at Easter at your home. The only tradition I saw was the Easter baskets you gave ever child but, my daughter. (She excludes her often) Thinking she may say, invite your Gram here. Nope, needless to say my DH went to his mother’s and I had Easter at my house with my Gram, DD and myself. Our first married Easter. Yeah me!
This really made me angry and hurt but, I am trying to forget and move on.
Then fast forward, to July 4th celebrations. My DH and his niece have the same birthday. They like to do the July 4th at our home because we can legally shoot fireworks. Okay fine, I put together a great menu and appetizers. Talk to my SIL and she suggest we just do the family birthdays this date. Okay sounds good; I go buy balloons, party streamers, and plates for her daughter and my DH birthday. She then brings in all this princess stuff and just takes over my house. DN wanted a firework/princess celebration???!!! SIL’s oldest daughter is 10 and she pinched my DD (14) so hard she bled and left bruises on her. I did not know this until the next day. So I send SIL a text letting her know what had happened, she calls DH and goes off. Calls me the B****and I have nerve tattling on a 10yo. Well 10yo is old enough to know better.
We are now excluded from everything fun they do. Never a invite unless one of DN is getting present from us. That’s a whole other post. So finally last weekend they ask; do you guys want to meet at the pumpkin patch? Sure, we go and pictures are taken by SIL and MIL. Then once they were home they posted on Facebook. Not one of DH, DD or myself. Every other member of the family, except us. Now this past Sunday, DH Mom knows I love going to the wineries. Everyone except DH, DD and I get an invite. They start posting pictures again; we live 20 minutes from this winery. They have to drive past our home to get there. When Dh asks his Mom why we didn’t get the invite. She said it was a spur of the moment idea. It’s hard to get everyone together. Well maybe when we called to ask if anything was going on this Sunday that would have been a good time to mention it.
I am sure it is because of me and DD. She is not DH bio and she is treated very differently from the other Grandchildren. DH sister even mentioned all the things MIL and FIL do for her kids. I said, that is good they do all of that. She relplied, it must be hard my DD that she doesnt have grandparents(they have past away and so has her bio dad). I replied, I dont care if your parents love my DD like they do yours. They do not have too, your are correct she is not their Grandaughter. But, they do have to be kind to her and fair. She didn't take that well.
Any advice? I do not know how much longer I can keep my lip tight.
Does you DH botherered by not being invited? If his feelings are hurt, then he should confront his family. If not, let them do whatever they want and ignore them. I wouldn't make a big scene about it.
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How does DH feel about what is going on? Not just being excluded but also how you and DD are treated? If he feels the same as you, HE should speak up. To me, he should let his family know that you and DD are HIS FAMILY now and you should be treated as members of the family. If he does not want to say anything, then it may be best to avoid seeing them. Pixies for good outcome.
We're a blended family. It was on me to set the tone with my parents about how they would treat SS. I think your DH needs to have a talk with his family. But just make sure you two agree on things and go from there. And start making plans with just the three of you and enjoy what you do have.
Does you DH botherered by not being invited? If his feelings are hurt, then he should confront his family. If not, let them do whatever they want and ignore them. I wouldn't make a big scene about it.
DH just lets things roll of his back. He is the only son and has three sisters. My MIL and 2 of SIL work together. They call theirselves the triod. Whatever they say goes. He said, its awlays been this way. DH says he has said things but, will never goes into detail and I do not push it. He knows it bothers me and, asks whats wrong. When I tell him, I feel like a broken record, latley. I guess this is just the way it is and I need to learn to adjust.
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I really think it's up to your husband to fight for you and his daughter. I'd talk to him first. What a horrible bunch of people.
I agree, it is his place. I stuck up for him with my family. You know they are one of those families that look perfect from the outside but, not from the inside. They are kind of mean. But, nobody ever calls them on it.
I won't bore you with stories about my bat (blank) crazy MIL. SIL and BIL. What I can say is: why do you still want to be invited to family outings with these people? It is up to your DH to say something to his family. It is up to YOU to protect your DD from their treatment of her. Don't think she doesn't notice how left out she is.
I have completely pulled away from DH's family since my FiL passed in January. He was the only stable one and the only one to show my kids some love. I've talked with DH and he knows where I stand and I have his support. I do not want to put myself in a toxic situation and expose my kids to the drama. He goes to visit MiL and the kids stay home with me. We are all much happier. Good luck
I won't bore you with stories about my bat (blank) crazy MIL. SIL and BIL. What I can say is: why do you still want to be invited to family outings with these people? It is up to your DH to say something to his family. It is up to YOU to protect your DD from their treatment of her. Don't think she doesn't notice how left out she is.
I have completely pulled away from DH's family since my FiL passed in January. He was the only stable one and the only one to show my kids some love. I've talked with DH and he knows where I stand and I have his support. I do not want to put myself in a toxic situation and expose my kids to the drama. He goes to visit MiL and the kids stay home with me. We are all much happier. Good luck
I really do not know why this bothers me so much and I still want to be part of their family. Maybe this is what is will come down to, he can go and DD and I will stay home.
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I definitely agree this is something your hubby needs to take care of. What bothers me is that he went to his mom's for Easter and left you at home. He should have stayed at home with you. You are his wife and his place is with you.
I really do not know why this bothers me so much and I still want to be part of their family.
Do you really want to be part of HIS family or part of A family? From what you have written, there is no way I would want my child to be part of THAT family!
I wish you all the very best for your DH to stand up to these people and then get on with your own family life without them!
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What bothers me is that he went to his mom's for Easter and left you at home. He should have stayed at home with you. You are his wife and his place is with you.
Sorry but I agree with this. If he has tried to talk to them and they haven't
changed then he should've stayed with you. Your grandmother is important to
you and sounds like maybe your only family left. Also I'm sure your DD see's that
she is treated differently then the other kids. That alone should be reason enough
to stay away from them until things change. Good luck!
I definitely agree this is something your hubby needs to take care of. What bothers me is that he went to his mom's for Easter and left you at home. He should have stayed at home with you. You are his wife and his place is with you.
I can relate in a way. I have a child who was 5 when DH and I were married. His mom was always very good about treating my DD wonderfully, as well as DBiL's step-daughter (both girls were eventually adopted by their step-dads, making them, at least legally, the in-law's grandkids). As I said, DMiL was wonderful. Then she died, FiL got remarried, and the family kind of fell apart. Now, my kids by DH even say they feel like 2nd class or even 3rd class grandkids/nieces to DH's family. DH's siblings get mad when I can't go to something they're having for their children (adults) because they schedule it the ONE day I ask them not to (even though I send DH and the DDs) - even though 2 of DH's 4 siblings didn't come to DD's wedding, they never acknowledge DDs' birthdays, don't come to their parties (graduations, etc). The worst? DD Samantha is a quadriplegic, as is her DH. They both use very large electric wheelchairs. They can't get into anyone else's home but ours. Our home is way too small for the whole fam-damily. DD asked everyone to come to their home for Christmas, as it would be nice for her to have everyone over. Her house is more than large enough for DH's family, mine, her bio-father's, and her DH's. They've refused to come for two years.
DH finally told his dad last year that we won't be doing things with them if they can't compromise. We spent Christmas with our kids, at DD's house - with my family.
Your DH needs to realize his wife IS more important than his family. He will need to stand up to his mother, and that includes NOT going to her house when you've asked for something else, and the reason is so obvious.
And, I'd tell SiL that since she/niece got to decide on the decorations for the party this year, NEXT year is YOUR time.
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