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trying not to be upset [son not able to go on trip]
So, I've been planning this trip for several years and it's finally going to happen next week!!! I don't know about any of you, but I have visualized this trip down to coming and going who will ride with who, what our evenings will be like, what meals we will have, when we get up in the morning, when we're packing to go home.... so much! Well, my 18 yr old son has a job now and says his boss won't give him the time off to go. What makes it worse is I told him not to do this when I bought the tickets 5 months ago! They are non-refundable. I don't know that I will ever be able to afford a trip like this again, plus he's 18 and will be off doing his own "life".. it's making me really sad/upset/angry but, I don't want to ruin my trip because of him.
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Hang in there. Try to work something out, if not still have fun and save his ticket for a future use (that would be a reason to go back-don't want that tix to go to waste )
what's upsetting too is we live in WA and don't get to go to FL very often to see my mom, sister and neices, my sis and neices haven't seen my kids in 5 years!
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Hang in there. Try to work something out, if not still have fun and save his ticket for a future use (that would be a reason to go back-don't want that tix to go to waste )
His plane ticket- it's non refundable (basically going to waste)
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Well I guess the good thing is that he has a job Did he pay for his own ticket? If not maybe see if he can at least pay you back for half. I know the bigger point is that he isn't going to Disney, but he must really want this job if he is willing to forgo a vacation.
I am sorry!! Your son has a job.....that is good! If it is a job he really wants and needs to keep then it is very good! It will be to bad that he won't be on your vacation and the airfare will be lost..........is there anyone else that could take his place?
I'm so sorry for that sad news. Since your son is 18 it is hard to tell him what to do with his job & jobs arn't easy to come by these days. I am crying for you becuse I can totally relate. I am already counting down the number of family Disney trips that I will be able to make with my boys & they are only 4 & 6. I obsess for years over our big, dream, expensive, Disney vacations. Because of the cost there will not be too many for us.
For our WDW & cruise trip last year my husband's parents decided to tag along at the last minute. ZAP!!! went my day dreams of the 4 of us riding all of the rides together for my boys first trip to Disney. I literally cried over it for days. How silly huh? It all turned out better than I expected, so I will send happy thoughts your way that your trip will turn out on the bright side too.
I hope that it helps you to feel that you are not alone with your sorrow. I will be dissappointed with you from here in Colorado. If I were in your shoes, my DH would have to restrain me from doing something embarrassing like talking personally to my son's boss & then telling him to shove the job. Don't do that though. You're poor 18 year old son would be mortified.
Maybe as mentioned earlier you could take someone else in his place. A friend or family member or maybe that would just interfere with your family time?
I try to remember that things could always be worse.
Planning a trip to WDW is like planning a wedding... If you expect things to be flawless, you will be sadly disappointed. If you know that there will be less than perfect times & decide to just laugh them off, then you will be excited when you find the magic all around you.
Is your son disappointed that he can not go with you all? When did he ask for the time off? I am guessing he asked late and someone else already has that time off slot. But maybe somnething can be worked out. so more pixies
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Did your DS request time off in advance? Was it granted and then cancelled? If it was cancelled I'd get him to ask his boss again because the cost is so great. Maybe if your DS has a great relationship with his boss he can make up the work when he returns (or some other favour).
As a boss myself. I've heard a million 'sob stories' and visiting relatives whilst on vacation always wins me over! I would never cancel an employees vacation leave unless someone had an accident/died.
Good luck!
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I'm sorry, that must be very disappointing
. As hard as it is, do try to not let it ruin your trip though. Hang in there!
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Did he pay for his own ticket? If not maybe see if he can at least pay you back for half. I know the bigger point is that he isn't going to Disney, but he must really want this job if he is willing to forgo a vacation.
I'm so sorry for that sad news. Since your son is 18 it is hard to tell him what to do with his job & jobs arn't easy to come by these days. I am crying for you becuse I can totally relate. I am already counting down the number of family Disney trips that I will be able to make with my boys & they are only 4 & 6. I obsess for years over our big, dream, expensive, Disney vacations. Because of the cost there will not be too many for us.
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