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I'm a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding which will be in September. Only the bridal party is going...did I mention it's in Gatlinburg, Tennessee. Anyway, then in October she is having a reception in Indiana. She called last week to tell me she made everyone a to-do list of things they need for the wedding...shoes, alter dress, and then she told me that each person in the bridal party is going to have to make a breakfast, lunch, or dinner for 20 PEOPLE or more. She said it cost a lot of money for the chalet and that this would help out on the cost. She put me in charge of one breakfast. I have talked to other people about this and they are shocked she is making the bridal party feed her entire wedding party. I already have to take time off and all of the bridal party lives in Michigan, Ohio, Indiana, and Illinois. I'm curious as to what you guys think.
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Well, some brides can be very demanding. It sounds like a lot. I once politely stepped down from my "position" as maid of honor because I was not willing to meet the demands.......
Well, some brides can be very demanding. It sounds like a lot. I once politely stepped down from my "position" as maid of honor because I was not willing to meet the demands.......
There is no way in this economy I would be able to travel and then find a place to cook and pay for 20 plus people to eat. If she is any kind of friend she will realize this a bit out there. Why does hse need to feed everyone? She should send letters to everyone coming explaining they will need to provide their own meals for those 3 meals. IMO
Uh - NO. Actually, what I want to respond is a resounding "Heck No", but in other language not looked upon well on this board! (for good reason).
Okay - let me get this straight:
1. You live in Indy.
2. The bride/bridegroom/both live somewhere in Indiana
3. The wedding is a "Destination" wedding - Tenn.
4. The bride not only wants you to buy your own dress, shoes, etc. (which is standard - and don't buy that "you can use it again later" stuff, you can't), but she wants you to feed HER guests so she can afford the destination wedding??????
5. She will then have a reception later so that people who she didn't care enough about to invite to her wedding may come and show their adoration with gifts?
Here's your options:
1. say no thank you. I signed on to be a participant, not a provider. The wedding couple usually feeds the wedding party.
2. Do it, suck it up, and plan a nice breakfast casserole and fruit, etc.
3. Do it, but be mean about it and buy some granola bars and a gallon of milk. Maybe some donuts?
Personally, I don't get the whole "I have to travel away somewhere to get married and then everyone has to show me how much they love me by caving to my demands, crazy though they may be."
Unless Grandma is elderly and lives where the wedding is going to be, I just don't understand the whole thing.
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First impressions tells me she's a Bridezilla. Weddings are expensive and if the bride to be is just realizing this, then maybe she needs to cut down on some expenses instead of expecting to bridal party in essence foot the bill for quite a bit of it. Cooking for 20 PLUS people?? I personally wouldn't do it - it's her wedding number one and number 2, if you (or anyone else) makes something she doesn't approve of, it sounds like she's the type that would accuse you of ruining her day. Then of course, there's Teresa's thinking and if I went with that thinking, I would buy 20 $5 gift cards to the nearest Dunkin Donuts for breakfast - "here, go get a coffe and a muffin for breakfast" - then you wouldn't have to make anything and there wouldn't be any leftovers because someone's not hungry or they don't want what you made, etc. But that's my two cents. Good luck with your decision.
This is not good. It's basically the equivalent of having a reception for 100 people and expecting your 5 bridesmaids to pay for and cook the dinner. Who would do that?? As I would assume that all of the bridal party has similar feelings, perhaps you should unite and confront the bride as a group that you feel her request is too much. That way she hopefully won't target one person as the ringleader and turn it into a big fight. I know this is your friend's day, but the actual wedding is the part for the couple. The reception/other activities are for the guests to thank them for joining for the wedding, FROM the couple. Not for the guests, from the guests.
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That seems excessive. Can you talk to her about it, or will she take offense at that? I think everyone should be on their own for meals and the bride/groom should pay for the rehearsal dinner and the reception. Good luck!
Totally ridiculous and quite a bit selfish and self-centered!
I couldn't have said it better, Cam. I think that I would tell the bride that I was sorry, but I would have to bow out gracefully as the responsiblilities of being in the wedding party were a bit more than I was able to commit to.
I think she probably wasn't thinking very straight. If this were a good friend, I would try and let her see my perspective on the matter. I would tell her what's traditionally done and what society expects as a norm. Then, I would try and help her find a way to cut costs so that she doesn't have to place this burden on her wedding party who may not be in a position to accept such a burden.
We need to think that perhaps she was trying to find a way to include everyone and this was her way of doing it. I just would like to think that someone isn't normally this irrational and has just let the moment get the better of her.
Sometimes brides go stupid and they need good friends to ground them back down to Earth. That being said, I wouldn't do it. They aren't your guests and I wouldn't pay for them.
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