As of January 1, 2019, we have closed our forums. This is a decision we did not come to lightly, but it is necessary. The software our forums run on is just too out-of-date and it poses a significant security risk. The server software itself must be updated, and it cannot be without removing the forums.
So it is with a heavy heart that we say goodbye to our long-running forums. They came online in 2000 and brought together so many wonderful Disney fans. We had friendships form, careers launch, couples marry, children born ... all because of this amazing community.
Thank you to each of you who were a part of this community. You made it possible.
And a very special thank you to our Guides (moderators), past and present, who kept our forums a happy place to be. You are the glue that held everything together, and we are forever grateful to you. Thank you aliceinwdw, Caldercup, MrsM, WillCAD, Fortissimo, GingerJ, HiddenMickey, CRCrazy, Eeyoresmom, disneyknut, disneydani, Cam22, chezp, WDWfan, Luvsun, KMB733, rescuesk, OhToodles!, Colexis Mom, lfredsbo, HiddenMickey, DrDolphin, DopeyGirl, duck addict, Disneybine, PixieMichele, Sandra Bostwick, Eeyore Tattoo, DyanKJ130, Suzy Q'Disney, LilMarcieMouse, AllisonG, Belle*, Chrissi, Brant, DawnDenise, Crystalloubear, Disneymom9092, FanOfMickey, Goofy4Goofy, GoofyMom, Home4us123, iamgrumpy, ilovedisney247, Jennifer2003, Jenny Pooh, KrisLuvsDisney, Ladyt, Laughaholic88, LauraBelle Hime, Lilianna, LizardCop, Loobyoxlip, lukeandbrooksmom, marisag, michnash, MickeyMAC, OffKilter_Lynn, PamelaK, Poor_Eeyore, ripkensnana, RobDVC, SHEANA1226, Shell of the South, snoozin, Statelady01, Tara O'Hara, tigger22, Tink and Co., Tinkerbelz, WDWJAMBA, wdwlovers, Wendyismyname, whoSEZ, WildforWD, and WvuGrrrl. You made the magic.
We want to personally thank Sara Varney, who coordinated our community for many years (among so many other things she did for us), and Cheryl Pendry, our Message Board Manager who helped train our Guides, and Ginger Jabour, who helped us with the PassPorter-specific forums and Live! Guides. Thank you for your time, energy, and enthusiasm. You made it all happen.
There are other changes as well.
Why? Well, the world has changed. And change with it, we must. The lyrics to "We Go On" for IllumiNations say it best:
We go on to the joy and through the tears
We go on to discover new frontiers
Moving on with the current of the years.
We go on
Moving forward now as one
Moving on with a spirit born to run
Ever on with each rising sun.
To a new day, we go on.
It's time to move on and move forward.
PassPorter is a small business, and for many years it supported our family. But the world changed, print books took a backseat to the Internet, and for a long time now it has been unable to make ends meet. We've had to find new ways to support our family, which means new careers and less and less time available to devote to our first baby, PassPorter.
But eventually, we must move on and move forward. It is the right thing to do.
So we are retiring this newsletter, as we simply cannot keep up with it. Many thanks to Mouse Fan Travel who supported it all these years, to All Ears and MousePlanet who helped us with news, to our many article contributors, and -- most importantly -- to Sara Varney who edited our newsletter so wonderfully for years and years.
And we are no longer charging for the Live Guides. If you have a subscription, it's yours to keep for the lifetime of the Live Guides at no additional cost. The Live Guides will stay online, barring server issues and technical problems, for all of 2019.
That said, PassPorter is not going away. Most of the resources will remain online for as long as we can support them, and after that we will find ways to make whatever we can available. PassPorter means a great deal to us, and to many of you, and we will do our best to keep it alive in whatever way we can. Our server costs are high, and they'll need to come out of our pockets, so in the future you can expect some changes so we can bring those costs down.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your amazing support over the years. Without you, there's no way us little guys could have made something like this happen and given the "big guys" a run for their money. PassPorter was consistently the #3 guidebook after the Unofficial and Official guides, which was really unheard of for such a small company to do. We ROCKED it thanks to you and your support and love!
If you miss us, you can still find some of us online. Sara started a new blog at DisneyParkPrincess.com -- I strongly urge you to visit and get on her mailing list. She IS the Disney park princess and knows Disney backward and forward. And I am blogging as well at JenniferMaker.com, which is a little craft blog I started a couple of years ago to make ends meet. You can see and hear me in my craft show at https://www.youtube.com/c/jennifermaker . Many PassPorter readers and fans are on Facebook, in groups they formed like the PassPorter Trip Reports and PassPorter Crafting Challenge (if you join, just let them know you read about it in the newsletter). And some of our most devoted community members started a forum of their own at Pixie Dust Lane and all are invited over.
So we encourage you to stay in touch with us and your fellow community members wherever works best for you!
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My DH and I had to support his mother for years before she died because of her financial choices and refusal to work so I understand your dilemma. You sound like you are willing to help and she has refused. She is an adult so let her move by her sister and just let her know that you are there for her. Sometimes that's all you can do. Getting frustrated over the situation, unfortunately, won't help much. You can't save people from themselves.
Good luck - hope everything turns out okay for your MIL.
Its only been 4 days since her mother died. Maybe she is just talking, convincing herself she has options. maybe she should visit her sisters. hopefully some time will help her.
There are a couple of things I'm getting here. The first and most important is that her mother just died, after what sounds like quite a while of needing at least supportive care daily. This means that her role as a person and caregiver has dramatically shifted. She may have been thinking for the last few years what she would do if her mother died. This may seem sudden to you, but not to her at all.
My best advice?
Leave it alone. Offer what emotional help you can, and let her know you're there for her - but only in an emotional way, NOT in a financial way. Or, do what my Dsis and her DH did: they told his mom that $XX was as much money they would send her a month, and she learned to live with that. She's learned to budget better, and Dsis doesn't feel guilty or angry any more. The money they give to her DMiL is budgeted.
To answer your question how you support someone whom you feel is financially irresponsibly? With a lot of finesse and care and the understanding that you may not be able to control how the money is spent. I love Danielle's idea of a financial management class, especially if one of you would go with her.
One of the things that was very hard when we helped support my MIL was that she did do things with her money (which included our contributions) that I felt were unnecessary. This included very generous contributions to her church and "causes" she supported and taking vacations that we could not afford. She would also buy gifts for others. It became an issue in our marriage because my ex was very concerned that we never wasted a penny, but would not say anything to his mother. I think what I learned if that if you can help support someone financially, you may have do think of it as a gift, over which you have no control. I think you cannot do that, it will eat away at you.
One other option might be to offer to buy her a gift card for gas or groceries once a month. That way you'll have some control over how it is spent.
Diane
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Thanks for all the advice and pixies. It gave me a lot to think about. I think for now we are just going to try and help her when she asks and make sure we are inviting her over and things.
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My dad was completely lost for a while after my mom died. He had to take care of her for the last 2 years of her life and he really had no idea what to do with himself or his time after she passed. Give your MIL some time to adjust. If she wants to move and "start over" in a sense, be supportive of her. She might have a difficult time, and she might not. It's going to be a tough transition for her to make from constant companion and caregiver to being by herself.
If she wants to move and "start over" in a sense, be supportive of her.
If that's really what she wants, dh and I are totally supportive. At the end of the day, we want her to be happy. I think we both feel a little bit guilty, though, that if she would move to Wisconsin that it would take some of the pressure off of us and we would be glad.
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