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I understand your frustration and agree w/your idea to not buy anything that may be used as a gift. But in his defense, I know, sorry....you did say that 'his only addiction is video games' so you have to look at it from his point of view he probably was not thinking of it as much for DS (even if he used that for a reason to buy) as he was for himself, so the gift idea never popped into his head at the moment of purchase. It was more or less picking up something he wanted, that he uses to calm his nerves after a 'hard day at work' and in his view is not any different than if he stopped at the gas station to pick up a soda (and you probably would not have been upset at that). His reaction to DS was not cool, but happens when people get defensive. Hope I did not offend you, but if after 19 yrs together it is still happening, then it is most likely that he is making his choices from a man's point of view, in the moment, and he likely cannot change his instinct...so the only way to resolve it is how we (women) choose to react. Just something to think about.
I understand your frustration and agree w/your idea to not buy anything that may be used as a gift. But in his defense, I know, sorry....you did say that 'his only addiction is video games' so you have to look at it from his point of view he probably was not thinking of it as much for DS (even if he used that for a reason to buy) as he was for himself, so the gift idea never popped into his head at the moment of purchase. It was more or less picking up something he wanted, that he uses to calm his nerves after a 'hard day at work' and in his view is not any different than if he stopped at the gas station to pick up a soda (and you probably would not have been upset at that). His reaction to DS was not cool, but happens when people get defensive. Hope I did not offend you, but if after 19 yrs together it is still happening, then it is most likely that he is making his choices from a man's point of view, in the moment, and he likely cannot change his instinct...so the only way to resolve it is how we (women) choose to react. Just something to think about.
Nothing you wrote offended me - mostly I just need to get it all out of my system. After all these years, I don't really expect some huge dramatic change in his behavior patterns. He isn't a violent man by any stretch. Just once in a while he "pops a cork," like any of us do. I will continue to tell him "NO BUYING STUFF (except necessities like gasoline and milk ) AFTER HALLOWEEN!!" And hopefully at least part of the time he will remember this. I don't know whether it was DH or DS who found the Nerf Wii game so I don't know if it was DH buying for himself (using DS as an excuse) or DS finding it and begging Dad for it. I do need to remind DH that blowing up at DS (who was just trying to goof around) is not the right way to deal with this kind of situation. We had a friend who always expected perfection from his son (who is now 22, I think) and they have a TERRIBLE relationship. I don't want that for my DH and DS.
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You are so right! It would be terrible to have a bad relationship w/DS when he is older, like your friends situation. Hopefully, venting helped and you guys enjoy a better evening together tonight. Good luck! And yes, we all do 'pop a cork' from time to time.
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That's got to be frustrating. I just had a thought could you do a compromise of sorts? I'm thinking that instead of telling him no purchases other than necessities after Halloween you change it to something along the lines of before buying something that's not a necessity please talk to me about it. I know if anyone told me to not buy anything other than necessities after Halloween my immediate reaction would be along the lines of "EXCUSE ME!!!! Who the *&%$ do you think you are? And where the &$%# do you get off telling me how, when, and on what to spend my money?" I would have that reaction regardless of who it was telling me. You could be a spouse, friend, my mother, the president, the pope wouldn't matter that would still be my reaction. Oh I might not say it but I sure would be thinking it.
On the blowing up at DS I agree totally wrong and not good for their relationship. I grew up being scared my biological father because you never knew what would set him off. There were/are other things but at 36 (37 Dec 20) I have what I classify as an interesting and not trusting (on my part) relationship with him. On the other hand I absolutely adore my stepdad and am incredibly grateful that I grew up living with him and my mom.
I don't really TELL him not to buy stuff, it has been an agreement for several years - we actually came up with the idea together and when it was first started he thought it was a great idea too! Then he turns around and buys stuff anyway. What's with that??? ANYWAY - I will just cross my fingers and hope that he leaves me something to get him and DS for Christmas otherwise they may just get socks and underwear!
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I don't really TELL him not to buy stuff, it has been an agreement for several years - we actually came up with the idea together and when it was first started he thought it was a great idea too! Then he turns around and buys stuff anyway. What's with that??? ANYWAY - I will just cross my fingers and hope that he leaves me something to get him and DS for Christmas otherwise they may just get socks and underwear!
Oh well there goes that idea. Maybe it's time discuss it again and come up with a different plan/idea. Maybe he's forgotten what a great idea he thought it was. As for socks and underwear let DH give the socks and underwear and you find something else to give. Maybe a gift certificate for a couple of games.
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At my house my DH plays the "I work nights, my sleep schedule gets all messed up, that's why I'm a total grump" card! Yeah, only 6 months more grumpiness!
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) AFTER HALLOWEEN!!" And hopefully at least part of the time he will remember this. I don't know whether it was DH or DS who found the Nerf Wii game so I don't know if it was DH buying for himself (using DS as an excuse) or DS finding it and begging Dad for it. I do need to remind DH that blowing up at DS (who was just trying to goof around) is not the right way to deal with this kind of situation. We had a friend who always expected perfection from his son (who is now 22, I think) and they have a TERRIBLE relationship. I don't want that for my DH and DS.
Venting is good! That's what we're here for!
What's with that??? ANYWAY - I will just cross my fingers and hope that he leaves me something to get him and DS for Christmas otherwise they may just get socks and underwear!
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