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As of January 1, 2019, we have closed our forums. This is a decision we did not come to lightly, but it is necessary. The software our forums run on is just too out-of-date and it poses a significant security risk. The server software itself must be updated, and it cannot be without removing the forums.
So it is with a heavy heart that we say goodbye to our long-running forums. They came online in 2000 and brought together so many wonderful Disney fans. We had friendships form, careers launch, couples marry, children born ... all because of this amazing community.
Thank you to each of you who were a part of this community. You made it possible.
And a very special thank you to our Guides (moderators), past and present, who kept our forums a happy place to be. You are the glue that held everything together, and we are forever grateful to you. Thank you aliceinwdw, Caldercup, MrsM, WillCAD, Fortissimo, GingerJ, HiddenMickey, CRCrazy, Eeyoresmom, disneyknut, disneydani, Cam22, chezp, WDWfan, Luvsun, KMB733, rescuesk, OhToodles!, Colexis Mom, lfredsbo, HiddenMickey, DrDolphin, DopeyGirl, duck addict, Disneybine, PixieMichele, Sandra Bostwick, Eeyore Tattoo, DyanKJ130, Suzy Q'Disney, LilMarcieMouse, AllisonG, Belle*, Chrissi, Brant, DawnDenise, Crystalloubear, Disneymom9092, FanOfMickey, Goofy4Goofy, GoofyMom, Home4us123, iamgrumpy, ilovedisney247, Jennifer2003, Jenny Pooh, KrisLuvsDisney, Ladyt, Laughaholic88, LauraBelle Hime, Lilianna, LizardCop, Loobyoxlip, lukeandbrooksmom, marisag, michnash, MickeyMAC, OffKilter_Lynn, PamelaK, Poor_Eeyore, ripkensnana, RobDVC, SHEANA1226, Shell of the South, snoozin, Statelady01, Tara O'Hara, tigger22, Tink and Co., Tinkerbelz, WDWJAMBA, wdwlovers, Wendyismyname, whoSEZ, WildforWD, and WvuGrrrl. You made the magic.
We want to personally thank Sara Varney, who coordinated our community for many years (among so many other things she did for us), and Cheryl Pendry, our Message Board Manager who helped train our Guides, and Ginger Jabour, who helped us with the PassPorter-specific forums and Live! Guides. Thank you for your time, energy, and enthusiasm. You made it all happen.
There are other changes as well.
Why? Well, the world has changed. And change with it, we must. The lyrics to "We Go On" for IllumiNations say it best:
We go on to the joy and through the tears
We go on to discover new frontiers
Moving on with the current of the years.
We go on
Moving forward now as one
Moving on with a spirit born to run
Ever on with each rising sun.
To a new day, we go on.
It's time to move on and move forward.
PassPorter is a small business, and for many years it supported our family. But the world changed, print books took a backseat to the Internet, and for a long time now it has been unable to make ends meet. We've had to find new ways to support our family, which means new careers and less and less time available to devote to our first baby, PassPorter.
But eventually, we must move on and move forward. It is the right thing to do.
So we are retiring this newsletter, as we simply cannot keep up with it. Many thanks to Mouse Fan Travel who supported it all these years, to All Ears and MousePlanet who helped us with news, to our many article contributors, and -- most importantly -- to Sara Varney who edited our newsletter so wonderfully for years and years.
And we are no longer charging for the Live Guides. If you have a subscription, it's yours to keep for the lifetime of the Live Guides at no additional cost. The Live Guides will stay online, barring server issues and technical problems, for all of 2019.
That said, PassPorter is not going away. Most of the resources will remain online for as long as we can support them, and after that we will find ways to make whatever we can available. PassPorter means a great deal to us, and to many of you, and we will do our best to keep it alive in whatever way we can. Our server costs are high, and they'll need to come out of our pockets, so in the future you can expect some changes so we can bring those costs down.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your amazing support over the years. Without you, there's no way us little guys could have made something like this happen and given the "big guys" a run for their money. PassPorter was consistently the #3 guidebook after the Unofficial and Official guides, which was really unheard of for such a small company to do. We ROCKED it thanks to you and your support and love!
If you miss us, you can still find some of us online. Sara started a new blog at DisneyParkPrincess.com -- I strongly urge you to visit and get on her mailing list. She IS the Disney park princess and knows Disney backward and forward. And I am blogging as well at JenniferMaker.com, which is a little craft blog I started a couple of years ago to make ends meet. You can see and hear me in my craft show at https://www.youtube.com/c/jennifermaker . Many PassPorter readers and fans are on Facebook, in groups they formed like the PassPorter Trip Reports and PassPorter Crafting Challenge (if you join, just let them know you read about it in the newsletter). And some of our most devoted community members started a forum of their own at Pixie Dust Lane and all are invited over.
So we encourage you to stay in touch with us and your fellow community members wherever works best for you!
Best wishes for a wonderful and magical new year!
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12-30-2001, 07:29 PM
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Community Rank: Traveler 
Join Date: Sep 2001
Location: plainfield,in
Posts: 202
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Need help!
Been home for 2 weeks. Lots has happened. Need advice.
1. My best friend started dating this guy, problem is I don't like him, and she keeps asking me what i think I tell her i don't know him well enough yet soon it'll wear out then what do i say? the reasons i dont like him are as follows
a.HE'S ALMOST 20 she's 17 all his friends are under 18
b. first time i met him he made fun of her for 2 hrs.
c. the 2nd time he told dirty jokes
d. my dad caught him flirting w/ three girls at work on a day he told her he wasn't working
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12-30-2001, 07:37 PM
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Community Rank: Legend 
Join Date: Mar 2000
Location: WI
Posts: 17,126
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Re: Need help!
Tough situation! On one hand you don't want to cause your friend anguish, but yet want to protect her from this guy. Has she said anything about his treatment of her? Or does she act like it doesnt bother her? We unfortuneatly have been kinda going thru the same thing w/ BIL. He is with this lady who most of the family doesn't like. They have been together for 5 years and have a 2yo son, so we are all nice to her for that reason alone. But they have been having major probs this year. She called off their wedding and moved out. BIL still loves her and want to try to work things out. What I tell him is that it is ultimately his choice and I will support him and his decision, but that I will not go out of my way to be nice to her. My advice is to let her know that you care about her as a friend and don't like to see her being treated poorly, but if she wants to continue a relationship with this guy you will support her. Hope this helps! [img]images/icons/grin.gif[/img]
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12-30-2001, 07:52 PM
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Community Rank: Trekker 
Join Date: May 2001
Location: CT.
Posts: 1,381
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Re: Need help!
That's a toughie kiddo! If you tell her that the guy is a jerk you risk alienating and loosing her as a friend. If you don't tell her you risk the chance of her getting hurt and her being mad at you for not telling her.
IMHO, (this is a been there done that as the other girl many, many, many moons ago)if she thinks that she's in love with him, nothing you say will matter and she will have to find out on her own.
Just start out slowly and feel her out as far as where her emotions are with this guy. If she isn't that emotionally involved tell her the truth. If she is, then take a step back and a deep breath because it's going to be a bumpy ride for awhile.
Hang in there sweetie.
[ 12-30-2001: Message edited by: Beth L. ]
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12-30-2001, 09:36 PM
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Mrs. Jack Sparrow
Join Date: Aug 2001
Location: Aboard the Black Pearl
Concierge Level: 7
Posts: 21,228
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Re: Need help!
I wish i had advice to give you.I'm no good in this area.If you haven't ask your mom you might want to see what she has to say.I know my mom always has good advice.Heres some pixie dust and my prayers that all works out for the best.
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12-31-2001, 09:38 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2001
Location: Connecticut
Concierge Level: 6
Posts: 16,825
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Re: Need help!
Oh Sam I Am! I have been right where you are. When my friend asked me her opinion of her boyfriend (This is my senior year in high school, gulp, 10 years ago!), I told her. [img]images/icons/frown.gif[/img] As kindly as I could but very honestly. This was a huge mistake!! She got mad at me, she told the boyfriend what I had said and he got mad at me and told me off in front of everyone, it just got ugly.
I agree with Beth L., your friend probably really won't hear what you have to say. But it's up to you whether you need to say it anyway. If you really think this guy could be dangerous for her (i.e. he does drugs, etc.) then I would say something and just try to be there for her even if she does get mad. But if it's just that you think he's not good for her, I might wait. Don't lie and say you like him when you don't but maybe just say something like wdwlovers said to her brother - you wouldn't have chosen him for her but you want her to be happy.
Most of all - Good LUCK! [img]images/icons/grin.gif[/img]
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12-31-2001, 10:49 AM
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Community Rank: Jetsetter 
Join Date: Apr 2001
Location: Omaha, NE, USA
Posts: 2,025
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Re: Need help!
That is a tough situation, Sam. When I have a strong opinion about something (which is most of the time), but know it won't be received well, I ask questions. For example, the next time she asks you what you think about him you could answer just as you have in the past, saying "I don't know him well enough yet". But then continue on with some questions such as . . . What qualities in him do YOU like? Does he have any qualities you DON'T like? Why do you think he likes being around you? Etc., etc., etc. If SHE brings up one of the negative things, then it will be much easier for you to comment on it. For example, if she says "Well I like how funny he is, but I wish he wouldn't always use me as the object of his jokes", then you could say "Yeah, I've noticed he does that a lot too."
Speaking the truth in love is a hard thing to do.
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12-31-2001, 03:25 PM
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Community Rank: Navigator 
Join Date: Aug 2001
Location: Peoria IL
Concierge Level: 1
Posts: 6,423
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Re: Need help!
Sam, this is a tough place to be in. I was there a few years ago with one of my best friends (I am soooooooo much older than you, old enough to be your mother). She asked me my opinion of him and I offer that I thought he was ok (on the first meeting). She was overjoyed that I liked him, as no one else who had been around him with her did. By the second meeting I realized I was wrong! This guy was a first class jerk among other things. He hit on me and insulted her left & right in front of a group of close friends thinking he was quite funny. I distanced myself from her, knowing disaster was sure to happen, and knowing she wouldn't listen to my advise. This is something my friend had to(and yours will probably have to) learn on her own. Just keep your opinions to yourself for now & be prepared to help pick up the pieces when they fall, as they probably will. In the end, the support of your friendship will be what is most important.
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01-04-2002, 11:43 AM
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Community Rank: Traveler
Join Date: Sep 2001
Location: plainfield,in
Posts: 202
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Re: Need help!
Thanks for the advice. I'm going to try asking Sarah,my best friend, what she likes about this boy,etc. We (my friends) will keep an eye on them.
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