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I am so upset. I had put together this FANTASTIC birthday for my babygirl..
It was supposed to be at the childrens museum in Hartford..
I ordered the coolest Tinkerbell cake and a few months ago, I came across the best tink party supplies... I guess I am taking this harder than she is...LOL
I sent the invites the last day of school. Both DD's and I made 25 invitations. Out of 25, we got 3 RSVP's-2 NO's and 1 YES. I dont understand this. I always RSVP whether we can attend or not. It only takes a second!
I had to cancel the party last night.. I waited until as late as possible with hopes that we would get a few more calls.
We called the 1 girl who said yes, and explained the situation.. I rescheduled her "party" until Friday night. I am going to take my DD & her friend to go see Harry Potter and then to DQ for ice cream!
Caitlin is a little dissapointed, but is taking it ok.
Next year, if we do a party with friends from school, we will celebrate it a month early- while school is still in for the year and just do something small at my house.
So sorry. I can relate though. DD's birthday is December 23rd. Neverwas I ever able to have her birthday even close to that time. Kids were on Christmas break or all going to Christmas parties. Plus, because we are in Maine it HAD to be indoors. It stunk. I'm sure it will be great anyway. Our theater here lets you bring your own cake & decorations so hopefully she will still have the Tink cake!
I'm with you in always RSVPing but I will say that I am the only one I know that still does it. In fact, for all of Josh and Chloe's parties I have never had a single parent RSVP. And I have thrown at least 4 baby showers that I can think of and have only ever had two people RSVP for those. I think it's incredibly rude not to, but it's just not something people think about now. I know how frustrated you must be....I put together a HUGE bash for Chloe's first birthday and only DH's mom, dad and sisters came. My entire family and extended family no-showed and REALLY hurt my feelings. Ahh well...hopefully next year something a little closer to school will help out like you said! HP and icecream sounds like a lot of fun and I'm sure they will have a blast!
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RSVPing is certainly a lost skill. As a teacher, I always have parents who are planning parties coming up to me and asking if I have heard of families who are coming to their child's party because no one got back to them. It is very rude to the person who is planning the party. I am glad that you daughter at least gets to have a get together with one friend. I hope your DD has a great birthday.
I know how that feels! Similar happened to us for DD's birthday last year. We invited about 30 people (kids & adults) and only got about 5 replies to our RSVPs. Thankfully about 20 people showed up.
Surely EVERYONE who organises parties for their children would KNOW how difficult it can be to plan for a party and ensure you have enough food etc but don't order too much because of cost etc? So why oh why do they not bother to respond to an invitation? They don't like it when it happens to them!
I know how that feels! Similar happened to us for DD's birthday last year. We invited about 30 people (kids & adults) and only got about 5 replies to our RSVPs. Thankfully about 20 people showed up.
Surely EVERYONE who organises parties for their children would KNOW how difficult it can be to plan for a party and ensure you have enough food etc but don't order too much because of cost etc? So why oh why do they not bother to respond to an invitation? They don't like it when it happens to them!
I'm glad you had a good turnout for your DD's party..
My DH told me not to cancel because people would probably just show up today.. I thought, even more reason to cancel. Maybe they will learn a valuable lesson about RSVP'ING!!! I couldnt have this party with hopes that people would show up. It was going to be very expensive, I think the total was $375ish..A lot of money just for 2 girls! LOL!!
I thought I was going to lose my $100 deposit, but they said they would hold on to it, and see if I wanted to reschedule next month, or once the kids go back to school...
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RSVPing is certainly a lost skill. As a teacher, I always have parents who are planning parties coming up to me and asking if I have heard of families who are coming to their child's party because no one got back to them. It is very rude to the person who is planning the party. I am glad that you daughter at least gets to have a get together with one friend. I hope your DD has a great birthday.
Thank you!
I have taught all my kids that an RSVP is a MUST!! also sending thank you cards for gifts/cards is also a must-do-
I guess I am really old fashioned.
I just don't understand why some people have a hard time responding to an invitation. I usually respond as soon as I get the invite,that way I don't forget. I am sorry that your DD's party is canceled, I hope she is not to upset and has a great day.
So sorry. We would have responded and attended I just love some of the fun opportunities that the kids have attending birthday parties and yours sounds like it would have been too cool!
I am so upset. I had put together this FANTASTIC birthday for my babygirl..
It was supposed to be at the childrens museum in Hartford..
I ordered the coolest Tinkerbell cake and a few months ago, I came across the best tink party supplies... I guess I am taking this harder than she is...LOL
I sent the invites the last day of school. Both DD's and I made 25 invitations. Out of 25, we got 3 RSVP's-2 NO's and 1 YES. I dont understand this. I always RSVP whether we can attend or not. It only takes a second!
I had to cancel the party last night.. I waited until as late as possible with hopes that we would get a few more calls.
We called the 1 girl who said yes, and explained the situation.. I rescheduled her "party" until Friday night. I am going to take my DD & her friend to go see Harry Potter and then to DQ for ice cream!
Caitlin is a little dissapointed, but is taking it ok.
Next year, if we do a party with friends from school, we will celebrate it a month early- while school is still in for the year and just do something small at my house.
I am glad you canceled the party. I would hate for Caitlin to go through what Autumn did last week. This seems to be epidemic...bad manners virus...would that there was an inoculation against it. Oh...wait a minute...there is...people doing the right thing and teaching their kids to do the same.
We had that problem last year with Aidan's birthday. Over the years, I have become very close with many of his friends' moms. So, I was lucky that they all called-- because we talk all the time anyway. But, there were so many that didn't call. I was ok, because I knew for sure that we'd at least have a small group. Some came (who didn't RSVP), some didn't. But, I didn't know how many goody bags to make, how big to order the cake, how many pizzas-- -don't people get that?? So I made way too many goody bags (actually enough to give out to all of the younger siblings who came with mom and dad to pick up kids). I'm done with birthday parties. Now, we all have our moments. I always rsvp, but last year I was in nursing school and it was a really stressful week, I have clinicals on the weekends, and my husband's weekends are crazy becuase of my sons' sports schedules. I RSVPd that we were going, and on the day of the party--- TOTALLY FORGOT! My son forgot too. Oh my gosh, I felt so bad, it hit me the next week when I was talking to the mom on the schoolyard. So, I try to give the benefit of the doubt-- everyone forgets things from time to time--- but, I think for most people, they just don't bother RSVPing, and that's sad. I told my kids-- pick what special thing you want to do, because the parties are really tough. Aidan picked going to Baltimore to the National Aquarium (since we've never been), and we'll get them more presents. We still always do a small family party.
I don't know what has become of manners. We were always taught to respond to invitations and be sure to send thank you cards for gifts received. You would think that these parents, who I am sure have had birthday parties for their children, would know how important it is to reply.
I hope Catilin has a wonderful birthday.
Sorry you have to go through this. I haven't attempted a 'party' for Peanut yet, except a trip to Chuck E Cheese, where most of the kids were children of our friends and therefore I see them all the time.
Last year, she was new in school (just started kindergarten) so we sent cupcakes to school and took her and her best friend (my best friend's daughter) to a movie rather than a party. This year, she thinks she'll be at grandma and grandpa's but she'll be having her birthday with Cinderella. =)
At the end of the school year we got two 'invitations' from classmates - one for a little boy whose birthday was right after the end of the school year, and didn't even include a phone number to rsvp, and a note from one girl's mom asking parents to contact her if they wanted an invite in August. I did wind up emailing her because Peanut became close with her daughter, and she just got back to me this morning thanking me for contacting her and that invites would go out in the mail shortly. When it arrives we'll rsvp.
Then again, I've spent the last six months applying and interviewing for jobs and haven't gotten a single 'thank you' or 'sorry, you weren't hired' letter, email or call...
I would have done the same thing in your shoes. I hope Caitlin has a wonderful day.
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I have taught all my kids that an RSVP is a MUST!! also sending thank you cards for gifts/cards is also a must-do-
I guess I am really old fashioned.
You are not old fashioned - you simply have manners and expect the same for your children I've had the same issues with parties and now I just plan something big for our family and one or two friends (day trip someplace fun!).
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