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Old 05-21-2014, 09:32 AM   #16
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No offense to any of the guys on this board but...

Men are oblivious and they need to be outright told if something is bothering you or you need them to do something. They just don't pick up on these things the majority of the time.

My fiancee and I have literally had huge discussions about this and his bottom line has always been, if you would just tell me these things (that are upsetting me) we could avoid the fights that come later.
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I would have a long, serious conversation with DH and spell out what I expected and wanted and then together we would talk to the girls. These girls are adults - while I agree that they still need maturity, they are not teenagers! If they are not living with you, then why are they showering at your house? It is weird that someone hangs out then takes a shower. I have 3 stepchildren so I have some experience with this (3 step, 2 of mine ages 21-36). I agree with locking your private stuff up. If the girls don't have a computer of their own - let their father buy them one or better yet buy their own. Do either of these girls have a job? If DH is out of work and money is an issue at your house, then I would let them know that and explain how the special food you buy is off limits. It is not selfish to have personal belongings nor to expect other people to pick up after themselves.
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No offense to any of the guys on this board but...

Men are oblivious and they need to be outright told if something is bothering you or you need them to do something. They just don't pick up on these things the majority of the time.


Wow hard not to take offense to that
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I think you've got some great advice here. I also think a family meeting is in order-- you and DH and the stepgirls all sit down together, tell them you love them and want them to visit, but these are the house rules and you expect them to be followed. I would stick to just a few rules and not overwhelm them. But most importantly, your DH needs to agree to support you and the rules and enforce them, since it's all for nothing if he won't do that.

I hoe everything works out for you!
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As a Father of two young adult children, I know what your going through. Coop and I have the same situation, and believe me, I didn't do a lot to protect her from the kids, and their "ways". I love my kids, and they basically are GREAT kids, BUT anytime kids can push button, especially a step parent, they will. I finally saw Coop's point and I/We put a stop to it. We sat them down, explained how we felt, and listened to them about why.
We set boundaries, limits, and expectations. That is a MUST!
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