Vent re Work Issue - Peer Sabotage About This Page:

[Carrousel Lover]

I just need to vent re corporate/peer sabotage. I thought who could I ask this question to and I thought of all of you.

Here's my query. I am working on a significant project and I just found out that one of my collegues has been playing divide and conquer within our work group. I found this out by accident when another collegue made a comment that sounded like this individual. I then hinted to my collegue that person x told me what he said and you should have heard the rat scurrying. This guy evidently wants to be the head of a new global group and has been going to everyone individually to make his case.

My issue: We have been co-working on a project where much of my research and content is being utilized to further his case as well. Recently he was supposed to complete a portion of a meeting presentation which I was participating in. It was not done and I was left holding the bag and he did not speak up to say he dropped the ball. That was my wake up call. [img]images/icons/mad.gif[/img] Duhh! Now it galls me that I trusted him and part of me wants to confront him and the other says what does it matter it won't change him and now I know. The "used" part of me wishes I could expose him. The thing is now I'm second guessing myself on trusting any data provided in our work group by this person. And before you ask, no I could care less about the leadership of this global group. I don't want it and am not a threat to him in that way.
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[ 07-15-2002, 12:51 AM: Message edited by: Carrousel Lover ]

[Kruggie]

Well, I was going to file complaint about a time clock issue I have at my job here,,,but you have made my highly annoying problem seem well,....not so annoying!

It sounds to me like this guy is attempting to make you look bad and I would not hesitate to confront him and his neglegance and I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him. I tend to think if you don't call him on his blunder and take the rap for his lack of input you will be saying to him that he can get away with it and be fine...I dont think you should let yourself be walked on like that. The jerk did it once, let him know that it wont happen again! I would also check up on his work....go over his data and make sure everything jives too....if that is possible.

My spiteful side would insist that I became the leader of the global thingy too....even though i didn't reallly want it....hee hee!

[Carrousel Lover]

Originally posted by Kruggie:
My spiteful side would insist that I became the leader of the global thingy too....even though i didn't reallly want it....hee hee!

<font size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Arial">Oh Kruggie - that little spiteful devil is seriously whispering in my ear but I really am not interested in the role. Don't think it didn't cross my mind. He and I need to work together tomorrow on the finished product and don't think I won't be imagining ringing his neck.

[Carrousel Lover]

Forgot to ask - I'm direct so if I do confront do I just come right out and state point 1,2,3 or beat around the bush. Also how to do it "smiling" sp to speak

[Bert & Sully]

No be direct and honest!! Beating around the bush suggests fear. If you do confront him do it directly and hopefully this will allow you to let go of it and not "stoop to his level"; but move forward in a positive manner.

[Tara O'Hara]

Recently he was supposed to complete a portion of a meeting presentation which I was participating in. It was not done and I was left holding the bag and he did not speak up to say he dropped the ball. That was my wake up call

<font size="2" face="Comic Sans MS, Arial">That is terrible! Did you confront him about this? Perhaps something else is going on with this guy that you are not aware of. I am not trying to be Mary Poppinslike but often things are not as they seem. I speak from personal experience. I don't think you should accuse and convict without at least listening to the other side of the story. Just my opinion. Good luck and I hope things work out well for you. It isn't pleasant to work with anyone under the circumstances you describe.

Tara
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[figment1]

If that happend to me, I would have to ask him why he did not complete his part of the presentation, and why he did not speak up. It would make him realize you are not going to ignore what he did. If you let him get away with it, he will do it again. I am really sorry you have to work with someone you can't trust. Good luck on your finished project. I hope everything goes well.

[AKLRULZ]

After I was done punching out the guy, I'd confront him. I can't stand junk like that. Here's my take on situations like this - we can be doormats and allow people to walk over us or we can be direct and get it out - you don't necessarily have to be confrontational in approach, but don't let it go on any more.

Good luck to you.

[Carrousel Lover]

Thank you everyone for the feedback. Yes, direct is the approach I planned to take. I'm not as angry as I was yesterday where I wanted to beat his lights out. I can say it won't be an easy thing for him to get my trust back anytime soon.