Can I get a new FIL? (Very long) updated About This Page:

[Teresa]

My FIL has made me sooooo mad, I'm not sure I'll ever be able to be nice to him again. There are 2 things that he has done recently that make me say that.

1. On grandparent's day at my DDs' school, he and his wife went, as did my mom and grandma. Mom (who lives near the school, but about 25 miles from us) asked Cart - FIL - (who live near us, but 25 miles from school) if he was going to take the girls home, something I had told him repeatedly that he could do. (they were allowed to leave if grandparents were there) He said NO! He had no plans, and did not WANT them!



2. on Saturday, he walked into the shop that our older daughter owns. He was there to tell us that his Step-daughter had just broken the family curse. The curse is having daughters! He has had 10 grand-daughters through his children, and DH adopted a boy with his first wife.

Well, L. had had a boy. FIL had spent the WHOLE day at the hospital with the new baby and FIL's wife and family. He had also baby-sat their older daughter the night before. I do not begrudge L and her husband a child, no matter what it is, but there are a few things about his announcement that really ticked me.



a. FIL did not see the 1st child that DH and I had together for 2 weeks (he lived with-in 10 minutes of us) I explained that away witht the fact that MIL had died 3 weeks before DD's birth



b. FIL and his new wife spent all of 3 minutes at the hospital when our youngest was born. The hospital is half a mile down the road from them! DH came out of the operating room, and proudly told his father we had a baby girl, FIL said something to the affect of "Oh, another girl" and left!



c. when he came in to tell us L. had had the boy, he announced "the curse has been ended" IN FRONT OF ALL 3 OF MY DAUGHTERS! (as if they are curses that we have had to bear!



d. He and his wife have watched my youngest 2 once. They had them for a weekend, and called us halfway through, and told us to come get them. They have never watched them since. (they watch HER grandkids for weeks at a time)



e. MY grandparents had 5 granddaughters, no boys. They never made us feel bad, or to my knowledge ever felt that we were a curse or wished we were any different than what we were.



I go between thinking I am being petty, to thinking I never want my children exposed to them again.



Part of what is making this so hard is that right after they were married, she announced that they did not want ANY pictures larger than a wallet of any of the kids. All of the 5x7s and 8x10s of DH's kids, and all of our nieces were taken down. FIL's wife has TONS of 8x10s and 10x13s of her grandkids all over the house, and my kids have a wallet (one ony) of each of them on the fridge.



FIL's older granddaughters are getting him a large photo, framed, of all the granddaughters together. We had just gotten back from the sitting when he came to tell us of the birth.



Thanks for "listening". and, feel free to tell me if I am over-reacting.