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Old 11-12-2008, 06:34 PM   #1
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What do you do when your DH or SO is gone?

I am really missing DBF who went on a roadtrip (without me ) to visit two of his brothers. I can't really be upset with him since a.) I can't take time off from work and school right now and b.) I take off and travel to see DD every few months while he holds down the "home fort." However the house is way too quiet without him here. So I have been keeping busy-doing laundry, cleaning out the garage, cleaning the kitchen, setting up my craft room, and of course studying. Needless to say, I can't wait until he gets back home.

So just wondering if you enjoy time to yourself when your spouse or significant other is gone? If so, what sorts of things do you do to keep busy?
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Well, it's rare that DH has to travel for work, so he's usually here. But, if I do get some time to myself, I try to read a book, and frankly, just enjoy the peace and quiet!!
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Since I am usually the traveler... I can't speak to what he does while I am gone.
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Well my husband is in the military and he has been gone for 11 months at a time.. So a few days is a vaction lol but I scrapbook more when he is gone. It makes the night go by faster. When we watch wife swap and see the people running to eachother after 2 weeks we laugh because for us 2 weeks is nothing..
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Please i think I wrote that wrong meaning the 2 weeks is nothing.. It is something for someone who isn't use to it.. I just didn't want u to think I was putting you down because that was not my intent..
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My DH travels frequently so it's no big deal when he's away. I just spend a lot of time on the computer. The first night alone is always the worst because I double, triple and quadruple check the doors to make sure they're locked and I usually can't get to sleep until past midnight. But otherwise, I actually enjoy the quiet time.
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DH is in the military so he's gone all the time (he's gone right now, in fact) . . . thankfully I have the kids to keep me busy, but when they are sleeping, sometimes it is nice to have that quiet time to myself.

When it gets too quiet, I turn on some music and try to catch up on things that need to get done and that I have put off for too long.
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Since DH travels for business and is gone several days a week, I have DD
and the fur babies to keep me busy. At times it can get quiet, but I LOVE
those times since that's when DD is asleep!!!

What helps is to keep something on in the background like a radio or the tv.
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I do housework, read with the kids, take walks, so pilates or yoga and write him a letter for each night he is gone so he can get caught up on all the fun things we did or crazy things the kids said...helps jog my memory. He does the same for me...since we work shift one of us is always on nights. Right now it is me.
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Please i think I wrote that wrong meaning the 2 weeks is nothing.. It is something for someone who isn't use to it.. I just didn't want u to think I was putting you down because that was not my intent..
No offense taken. I was a single parent for years, so now that DBF is in my life I really miss him when he is not here.

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My DH travels frequently so it's no big deal when he's away. I just spend a lot of time on the computer. The first night alone is always the worst because I double, triple and quadruple check the doors to make sure they're locked and I usually can't get to sleep until past midnight. But otherwise, I actually enjoy the quiet time.
That was me last night. I stayed up late working on my craft room, and then before I could actually go to bed I had to quadruple check the locks and make sure the garage door was actually closed.

Now I should get off the boards and take this quiet time to study for a test I have next week!
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It is very rare that dh is gone - actually in the last couple of years it has been me that has gone and dh stays at home holding down the fort!
But when it does happen, I clean, read, watch movies that he wouldn't want to, go the book store and spend hours, go out to eat with friends, sleep!
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Well, DH works nights, so I am frequently "alone" - at night (obviously), and during the day/afternoon when he's sleeping. Well, I'm at work during the day too so I guess I mean late afternoon/early evenings. I am running around doing what needs to be done at the house, with the kids, etc.

He went away one weekend with DSJosh (WWR w/Scouts) and I spent the weekend painting and reorganizing our LR. It was QUITE NICE! I wish he would go away a weekend or two a year actually!
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DH works in the oil industry (offshore in the Gulf of Mexico) and works a schedule of 8 weeks on/2 weeks off, then 8 weeks on/1 week off, so when he's gone, life must go on. Here in South Louisiana, it's pretty common for men to be gone like that due to the nature of their work, so women learn to be pretty self-sufficient. It was harder when we were first married, the missing each other, but now it's just the way of life. The good part is when he's home, he is completely and utterly OFF, no work responsibilites at all, so we can vacay or get house stuff done without interruption!
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It's very rare it happens to me, but I try to do jobs around the house or in the garden or go out shopping.
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