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It's okay to feel hurt, since she kept saying she'd be there up until yesterday.
I'd scratch her from my invitee list, though, since there's a history of her no-showing.
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You are not wrong to feel hurt. I have a friend who does the same thing. I'm always calling her and making plans and she is the one who never calls back or changes plans. It sucks. Sometimes I don't think people understand what they are doing and consider it no big deal. Hopefully you were able to enjoy your day regardless.
We have friends like that too. I learned to only invite them when it is a group thing. Then if they don't show up we still have fun with other friends. If they do then great!
shooooot Deb if i had known it was your birthdy Barry and i would have found our way there I have friends like that too.....say one thing and do another.... i eventually just stop dealing with them all together.....
I have a friend like that and used to get hurt that she typically was a no-show. So I decided on my 50th birthday back in July to just forgo the hurt feelings and didn't invite her. The whole party was so much more pleasant for me as a result.
Well Deb I'm sorry for that I feel bad. I had a friend a very good friend and something happened 7yrs ago and I'm not really sure what it was but out of the blue the other night she called me after 7 years I almost fell over. So sometimes friends can be funny maybe you could meet her for lunch or coffee and ask her if theres something wrong. I hope this works out for you and I hope your feeling well..
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We did have a wonderful day, Thanks!
Also I talked to her & everything in her world is fine..
Did she give any kind of explanation for not showing up? Its too bad and I really understand feeling hurt. I would too.
Did you tell her that you were looking forward to seeing her?
I have had it happen to me. Worse though is when your Family does it. I do the Family gatherings now ( though i don't know why ) ok I do them because I was the boys to have some sort of idea of Family gathering and If I did not then they would miss out. But I have a sister who either shows up late or not at all you never know. Her reasons are always made up becasue the real reason why is she is trying to avoid something. My fathers wife is the same. though now her excuse will be that something came up with my Father that kept them from coming on time.
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I think I am going to put my thoughts together & call her in a few days. I want to tell her I value her friendship & that it did hurt my feelings again for her to say she will be over then bowing out 20 minutes before the event. I would understand if someone was sick, If we lived hours away or some emergency came up. But this is her MO & has been for years.I need to stop inviting her. Maybe her DH doesn't like me, We have met for lunch many times without the DH's..
Hummmmmmmm wonder if that's it?
I am a bit wacky, silly, & Disneyfied
I just want to tell you all it has really helped reading all your responses & that a lot of us have similar friends & family..
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My first thought was that her and her husband are having problems. They have a fight before your party and she doesn't want you to see the puffy eyes or hear it in her voice. Good luck and belated Happy Birthday!
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But this is her MO & has been for years. I need to stop inviting her. Maybe her DH doesn't like me, We have met for lunch many times without the DH's..
Hummmmmmmm wonder if that's it?
I was thinking it might be something like that, but I wasn't sure how to say it... she may plan on coming and then not tell DH soon enough and he says no, or something like that.
Happy Birthday!! I can promise you, I would never tell a friend I was coming to something and then not show up (unless there was a dire emergency)! If she has a history of doing this I would stop considering her a "good friend". I have an old friend who was like that. I finally had to own up to the truth - "She's just not that into me." But life is simpler and less stressful without people that continually disappoint us. You should focus on your other friends and let that one go. JMHO.
Unless.....her DH is antisocial and she doesn't know how to admit that to people. That's about the only thing I can think of that would potentially excuse four instances of not showing up.
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Did this start happening after she married her DH? Maybe he doesn't like parties or get-togethers and she thinks she'll be able to get him to come so RSVPs that they'll be there...and then he won't go, and she won't go without him....and you are left wondering what's up!?
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You are not wrong to feel hurt. I have a friend who does the same thing. I'm always calling her and making plans and she is the one who never calls back or changes plans. It sucks. Sometimes I don't think people understand what they are doing and consider it no big deal. Hopefully you were able to enjoy your day regardless.
I have friends like that too.....say one thing and do another.... i eventually just stop dealing with them all together.....
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But life is simpler and less stressful without people that continually disappoint us. You should focus on your other friends and let that one go. JMHO.
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