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I'm not exactly certain, so you'll need to do a little research, but I do think she can have him involuntarily committed to a hospital other than VA.... ons which has no time restrictions. He needs to be evaluated. I would think that rather than a lawyer, she should be contacting a psychiatrist... or two or three... until she gets the answer she needs to hear; for her safety and the safety for the rest of the family. He may not be able to find Mom, but he probably can find sisters and brothers... and I would imagine they will be his next target for this kind of dangerous behavior. He is a physical threat to himself and others... and yeah, it seems to me that is more than PTSD. Personally, I would recommend they bypass the VA hospital and go directly to a larger institution that provide better services without restrictions for the young man.
What a horribly sad situation.
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She has been talking to drs etc. They can only give her general advice and his doctor won't talk to them at all. I get the impression that the time limit applies to every hospital. They can only hold him for so long unless he does something while in there. I know they have been running all over getting papers signed, talking to drs, lawyers, sheriff and all. He knows where to find mom, dad, littlest sis, and two brothers. The oldest 2 sisters he has phone numbers (unlisted) but no address. He stole his dad's cell phone to get those. I understand that this is the same problem that people have with stalkers etc. We have had two news stories in the last couple of days that scare us because we think it is him and family. How do people live any kind of normal life when they live in fear?
Update: They managed to get the legal work done and have had the police remove him from the home. The problem now is that even with all the locks changed and windows locked, he is managing to get back in somehow. Or they weren't able to get him out the first time and just thought they did. He must be hiding in the house somewhere. There is evidence that he eats while they aren't there. And for me a scarier note, their old dog passed away this week, not necessarily a surprise, but the younger, barkier dog has disappeared.
This sounds very, very scary. I'd be a wreck. I hope your friend is holding up.
I agree - no guns. A person using a gun to defend themselves has a large chance of having that gun turned to them.
Has your friend and her whole family taken self defense courses? I know the son is military trained, but self-defense will still work. Hopefully, they are building a case to get him some serious help/commitment.
Lots and lots of pixies for all of them, especially the son. How awful for them all.
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Has your friend and her whole family taken self defense courses? I know the son is military trained, but self-defense will still work. Hopefully, they are building a case to get him some serious help/commitment.
The two older sisters are also ex-military, the mom and I directed a self-defense program with an incredible martial artist for girls through our GS group. She and I have been through the program at least a dozen or more times. The little sister has been through it at least 5-6. There were parts to the program with an emphasis on a couple of skills to get away.
It is so frustrating for them and everyone as they work through the process that should protect them and also protect him. It seems like it should be easier to get him help and to protect them.
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The little sister is 12 and this is so hard for her. She loves her big brother and is afraid of him. When he calls it is so hard for her to hang up on him.
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