Attention class! Your first dicussion/pole is here! About This Page:

[disneyprincess]

Morning everyone! Here is your/my first discussion/pole to take. It's a little lengthy, but I know you will enjoy!

Gina

The Parent Test
(observe yourself as a parent)


Yes No
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___ 1. How do I act toward my child(ren)? Is my attitude friendly, courteous, and encouraging?
Or is it critical, nagging and impatient?



___ ___ 2. Do I use bribes (promises of rewards) as incentives?


___ ___ 3. Do I continually issue orders, directives, and commands?


___ ___ 4. Do I accompany instructions and demands by threats of punishments?


___ ___ 5. Do I use physical punishment (slaps, spankings, etc.) to control?


___ ___ 6. Do I berate or put the child down when I disapprove of his/her actions?


___ ___ 7. Is my attitude that of trying in a friendly and kindly manner to educate my child?


___ ___ 8. Is (are) my child(ren) "disciplined" (punished, that is) as I think other adults expect me to, rather than treated in ways that actually benefit him/her?


___ ___ 9. Do I humiliate my child by publicly scolding him/her when he/she "lets me down" by failing to say "please," "thank you," or failing to shake hands?


___ ___ 10. Do I insist on adult standards and manners from my child (such as forcing a two-year-old to share, or sit still too long with nothing interesting to do, or to exhibit perfect table manners)?


___ ___ 11. Do I jump on my child for faults that I accept or ignore in myself?


___ ___ 12. Do I talk so much (lecture, moralize, correct, nag, "bitch," scold, complain, criticize) that the child becomes "deaf" to my words?


___ ___ 13. As a parent, do I regard respect, consideration, and friendly cooperation as something to be earned rather than demanded?


___ ___ 14. Do I show more approval than disapproval of my child(ren)?


___ ___ 15. Do I find things to like about my child/children?


___ ___ 16. Do I build my child(ren) up, encourage, and boost his/her (their) confidence?


___ ___ 17. Am I more interested in helping the child be right than proving to him/her how wrong he/she is?


___ ___ 18. Do I show partiality or favoritism and negatively compare my child(ren) with other children - wither in or out of the family?