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[goofy4goofy]

My Gram has been in the nursing home for almost a year now. She's very sick and probably won't last much longer. Now, we are very close and always have been. My family decided not to tell her we are moving to Florida until around April 1st. We didn't want her to be too upset about it and have been trying to think of a way to tell her.

We got home from Orlando yesterday from a job/apartment hunt. We just found out my Aunt told my Gram that we are leaving. We had asked all the relatives not to say anything until we were ready to tell her.

What do you think? Do you think my Aunt was out of line or should I just get over it? I think she really violated our trust and had no right to tell my Gram yet.

PS: My Gram never asked anything about it..my Aunt just blurted it out. My Gram, I guess, handled it well...which is positive.

Kelly

[karmic]

Yes I think she was wrong as you specifically told her not to tell. One wonders about her motivation.

[LindaR]

She was wrong, but you just need to let it go. Anytime you tell anyone anything you have put yourself at risk of it being repeated! Especially when you tell them NOT to tell anyone else!

Just make sure that you answer all her questions when she starts asking them. Sometimes it takes a while for the elderly to absorb info and come up with questions.

[statelady01]

Oh boy, IMHO, Aunt was totally out of line. That was something she should have heard coming from you, Mom, Dad and Bryan. Wow- how is everyone handling it? How is Gram? I sure do feel bad for you Kelly- not the greatest situation to come home to.

Keep us updated and a {HUG} for you!

[GoofyMom]

Gee, sorry to hear your Aunt was such a blabbermouth. I think it would have been nicer if you and your family could have told your grandmother together, rather than having her hear it from a third party. But what's done is done, so now it's deal-with-it time. Give your Gram a big hug and let her know you love her. Then let her know how much you are looking forward to your move and your new job. She probably knows there's nothing you can do to help her, and if you promise to send her pictures of her beautiful great-grandson I'm sure she'll be happy for you! And I hope you can forgive Auntie Big Mouth.

[chezp]

I think she was out of order, she should've left it down to you guys to tell her when you felt the time was right.

[lkmom]

I too think your aunt was wrong. I'm sorry she put you in the middle of a possible bad situation. Some people just like to cause trouble! ( I have some of those in my family!) Too bad she could not understand you were just trying to get all your ducks in a row before telling your Gram. I know with my Nana, if I don't have all the exact information at hand, she just does not understand. I'm glad your Gram is taking it well. Good luck with your new job, the move, and your Gram.

PS: Looks like one Aunt won't be visiting Mickey with your help!

[DreaminDisney]

I agree that your Aunt should have NOT said anything. I would feel like she violated our trust too had it happened to us.

BUT, it's over and done.....try and let it go. If anything at all, now you know NOT to say anything to her beforehand any more.

And good luck with all that is coming up for you!!

[BritDisFan]

Kelly, I agree that your Aunt shouldn't have told your Gram when you specifically told your family not to say anything. Thank goodness your Gram is taking it really well. I wonder why your Aunt told her? I wonder if she is jealous of you moving to Florida?

Karen

[loobyoxlip]

Ugh, I'm sorry to hear about this, Kelly. Let your gramma know how much you love her and that you will stay in contact. It sounds like she probably understands that this is what's best for you and Alex right now. And grandmas always want what's best for their grandkids. Best of luck!

[goofy4goofy]

The more I think about it, the more it angers me. My Aunt had no right to tell her. My Mom and I wanted to sit down with my Gram when we had all the answers and knew exactly where and when we were moving. My stupid blabbermouth Aunt can no longer be trusted, and that's pretty sad. Thankfully, my Gram only wants the best for us and will support us no matter what. But I also didn't want to upset her since she's so delicate as it is. I told my Gram I would be over this week to explain things even further. I hate situations like this!



Oh, and I never answered the question: My Aunt isn't really a "trouble maker" but rather the "martyr"..or so she thinks. Everything is always about her and about how much she does for everyone else (which of course, isn't true..she just does things for attention). I didn't think she'd tell my Gram, considering we asked her not to...but we were wrong. I just feel really bitter now.



Kelly

[DreaminDizney1002]

There's one in every family, isn't there! Your Aunt was definitely out of line - no question about that. I would be sure to tell your Gram that you and your family were waiting to say anything until you were sure it was going to happen. Explain to her that you had every intention of telling her the news yourselves and that you are sorry it didn't happen that way. That way she doesn't think you were trying to hide something from her.

I am so sorry you have to deal with this frustrating situation. Here's some pixie dust to help work things out...

[joyjoy]

Omg, that sucks. When I was getting a divorce I made everyone SWEAR not to tell my grandmother, and..... my blabbermouth sister did anyway. Grrrrrr. Some people just have to be the first with the news, it makes them feel special for one brief moment.

I'm sorry that happened. It's a good thing your gram is taking it well. Just apologize to her for having to hear it first from someone else. Are you going to confront your auntie dearest about it? I felt I should probably let it go, but I was so angry I couldn't and said something to my sister. She actually apologized, which was a miracle.

[Colexis Mom]

Wow, that was totally out of line of your aunt. Sounds like she's looking for some sort of attention, be it good or bad!