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Old 02-05-2003, 01:22 PM   #1
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LONG STORY......
It's been 2 years since I gave birth to my surrogate twin girls. They were NOT biologically mine. We used an egg donor and the father to create them.
What started out as an ideal situation quickly turned very nasty shortly after I got pregnant. By the time I delivered the twins (1 day before my 30th birthday) the parents and I could barely stand each other. In fact as I was being rolled into OR to deliver his children, the father refused to even look at me. He NEVER once came into my room to visit me. I found out he never signed our 40 page contract and that his wife forged his initals on each page and his signature at the end. They NEVER fulfilled any of the obligations in the contract and left me feeling empty and alone. I have had 2 of my own children and I have never had post-partem depression before. Well, shortly after delivery I had to see a DR and take pills to help me. I also had to hire another attorney at my own cost ($6,000) to ensure that I received my full compensation. That took me 4 months to get, it was supposed to be 10 days after delivery.
I don't know what brought all of this on this morning. My support, family and friends, have all heard the story. Over and over. But the hurt and pain I feel after trying to help a couple bring life into this world. Does that sound right? I should feel wonderful and fulfilled. But the warm fuzzy stories you hear about surrogacy, it doesn't always happen that way.
Thank you so much for listening to me and letting me get all of this off my chest.
(I would love to answer anyone's questions or concerns.)
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Old 02-05-2003, 01:44 PM   #2
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Allison, kudos to you for helping out a couple who otherwise would not been able to have children. I'm sending lots of pixie dust to help you through this. It sound to me like they may have had issues before they did this.

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Old 02-05-2003, 01:47 PM   #3
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Wow Allison! What an amazing gift you gave this couple and how rude of them not to see it that way. I admire people like you who can give so much of themselves for others. I'm so sorry for what you have gone through and are still going through because of the other couple's inability to appreciate what you did for them.

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Old 02-05-2003, 01:50 PM   #4
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Allison, I'm so sorry that your experience as a surrogate was so bad. You did a wonderful thing. It sounds to me like the couple had issues, and that maybe the wife forced her husband into the situation. None of which should have been taken out on you though!

As a woman who has battled infertility for years, it breaks my heart to hear that someone who has done so much to help someone like me was treated so badly. [img]images/icons/frown.gif[/img] Just know that you did a good thing, and that because of you there are 2 beautiful children in the world. [img]graemlins/love.gif[/img] Sending pixie dust your way!

P.S. Totally off topic, but I learned something today. A surrogate is a person that donates an egg and carries the child, a gestational carrier is what Allison did, carry a child that is in no way genetically hers. Surrogacy is actually illegal in a few states including mine! Either way, it's a gift and should be treated as such.

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How awful that these people took a wonderful thing you did and turned it into something that you look back on with pain. Hang in there, sending you pixie dust!
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Old 02-05-2003, 03:01 PM   #6
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Amazing! I dont know if I could do that for someone, what a gift! I am so sorry that it has caused you such pain. I am sure this couple will never have any idea what you have gone though, and I wonder if it is in part because they were too wraped up in what they were going through. Had to be a terribly emotional experience for everyone.
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