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Sorry for the length but this is seriously the abridged version: my FiL passed in January from prostate cancer, DH & I were his primary caregivers even though there is a MiL AND BiL AND SiL. MiL is morbidly obese and controlling and passive aggressive, she's a gem. DH stops by multiple times a week to bring her food since she is too lazy to walk downstairs to the kitchen. She literally called the other night because "I need you to come open a window, I'm hot". DH is a wonderfully kind & caring man and she plays him like a fiddle but he says "What can I do? if I don't do it, nobody will". He was very devoted to FiL (a good man) and feels its his obligation to care for MiL like he did. That's part of the problem, I keep saying "She realizes that your NOT her DH, right?" To cut to the chase: she is selling the house and moving into (believe it when I see it) an apt. next week. We leave on June 24th for a road trip that will have us gone 1-2 weeks. I have a WWYD: I was thinking of texting MiL, BiL and SiL and telling them to NOT contact DH while we're gone unless someone ends up in the hospital. I can't say "emergency" because in the middle of Tropical Storm Andrea and the 5+" of rain we got, MiL needed DH to go to the store and buy a mini-blind to replace one that Dniece broke. It was "an emergency". DH really wouldn't care if they told him I texted them (after the fact) but I'm not sure he'd agree to it beforehand. Our last vacation was in Oct. 2011 at WDW and they managed to ruin it with their incessant calls/texts. FiL was in the hospital when we left and since they are all incompetent asses they called/texted DH multiple times a day. DH has been through the ringer the last 2 years: between caring for his father and being in charge of his medical care, FiL's subsequent death and the debacle of his mother I really want him to relax this vacay. WWYD??? Also, some pixies that she sells the house and actually moves into the apt. would be great too.
Thanks for listening, I don't vent to DH since he's going through enough
I don't know what I'd do. It does sound like it's time for serious family meeting with the BIL & SIL & then another one that includes MIL as well as the BIL & SIL. That everything works out & that you & dh are able to have a relaxing vacation.
First of all, bless your heart, and that of your DH, for having to deal with all of this. It sounds to me like he has a family full of parasites, and that's tough to handle.
Now, to get to your WWYD, from your explanation it sounds like it might not make any difference what you do. You could ask them to give DH a much-needed rest, but someone who would call a broken window covering an emergency probably isn't going to honor your request. She's selfish, and it sounds like she's been coddled by her own DH. In fact, it seems your DH got his giving nature from his dad. MIL knows this, and she's moved on from taking advantage of her husband to taking advantage of her son.
Personally, I don't see anything inherently wrong in your asking for some privacy during your vacation. I just think you should be prepared that it might not happen.
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Mmm... what if you turned off DH's phone and they could only contact you during this vacation. I am guessing they wouldn't contact you as frequently as they would DH so it really would have to be an emergency. Plus if you were getting texts you could filter their importance and if its from MIL with a "window emergency" or such you could forward that on to BIL/SIL to take care of instead of getting your DH involved.
I would share this plan with your whole family in advance - like "DH needs a real vacation, so you if you absolutely must get ahold of us, please contact my phone, but unless it is a real emergency don't expect an answer"
What would I do? Well, when we were on vacation and DH would not stop answering his work calls, I took his phone from him. I told him I would check his voicemail/ texts and if anything was important I'd give it to him. Yes, he missed the email about "what color paper should I print this on?" and "there's a big bug in my office, who can come kill it?" but somehow the world kept turning.
Mmm... what if you turned off DH's phone and they could only contact you during this vacation.
I was going to say something similar. Is there anyone else that would be trying to contact him where he needs to have it on him (work for example)? If not, can you take the phone away - pack it somewhere, turn it off, anything - and somehow monitor which calls he gets and which he doesn't? If you text them, you're going to be the big bad meanie and unless that's a role you're ready to assume (and be stuck with forever), now may not be the time to do that. Especially if you're hubby doesn't know about it.
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Take away the phone or turn it off. Tell them that you will be in some "black out areas" which often happens to my phone, and that they won't be able to get in touch with you, and ask them who will be taking over the MIL responsibilities while you are gone-make them answer that question. Give him a much needed break.
You have heard my drama with my inlaws. I have total sympathy for you. I do hope that she moves into an apt soon. Pixies....for a quick solution.
What I've done in the past is have DH agree to answer e-mails and return calls
at night when we were back in the room. If they are work related then he can
return them during our "nap/relax time" then it came out of his time.
Your MIL sounds like my Aunt. To a TEE, less the married part...my gran codles her (she's never moved out and is 51)....gran runs herself ragged cooking, cleaning...I want so badly for gran to move to assisted living, or Sr. apts....where she doesn't have to do a flight of stairs for laundry.
I can appreciate respecting your elders and all - but sometimes people just need to be told ENOUGH.
I agree with the other poster's that perhaps naming yourself as point person for the trip would be best....not to mention, what can you really do from Florida??
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Totally sucky (pardon my French) situation. I agree with the posters who said have them call your phone, or let him return calls at night.
However, that being said, I firmly believe that it is up to the person who's family member it is to put their foot down and deal with the family. Your DH needs to put his foot down, it can't happen if he doesn't let it. Because of this, I think you need to discuss this with him and come up with a plan (whether it's your phone they call and you run interference or agree that you say something to them or he returns calls at agreed time) but I think it needs to come from him and be discussed with him.
I also think work is completely different. I agree with the posters who put their foot down with that, but with family it's slightly more complicated than that.
Lastly for moving into that apt. that sounds like it would be a good idea!
Pretend to lose DH's phone and secretly check it once a day yourself. Reminding DH's family not to call/text is just asking for trouble - don't waste your time. Only reply to family via text, something along the lines of "poor reception, still alive, see you when we get back".
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DH really wouldn't care if they told him I texted them (after the fact) but I'm not sure he'd agree to it beforehand. Our last vacation was in Oct. 2011 at WDW and they managed to ruin it with their incessant calls/texts. FiL was in the hospital when we left and since they are all incompetent asses they called/texted DH multiple times a day. DH has been through the ringer the last 2 years: between caring for his father and being in charge of his medical care, FiL's subsequent death and the debacle of his mother I really want him to relax this vacay. WWYD??? Also, some pixies that she sells the house and actually moves into the apt. would be great too. 
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