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Old 09-07-2011, 03:23 PM   #1
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I have a friend who drives me crazy when we invite her and her family to a get together. Everytime she is invited she always says "don't know if we will be around" "not sure what we have planned" There was one time that I invited her and her family on a Tuesday to come here on the Saturday coming up. Well she told me she in not sure they are going to be around that day. Sorry but I would think someone would know what they have planned that weekend coming up.
Well here is what happened a few minutes ago to make me vent; Michelle our DD who is turning 4 October 15 and having her birthday party that day. I went ahead and invited her and asked her to mark her calender for that day because her DD and Michelle are good friends. Well here was her responce: "
I will have to check our calendar. I am sure Raegan would love to go. We are very busy that month, we have already been invited to a b-day party in Oct. and then my b-day is that weekend too. And we are planning a trip in Oct. So, we will have to see. I am not to sure of the exact dates. "

UGH!!!!! I haven't responded to her yet becuase I am so fustrated and feeling hurt right now.
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I'd let her know that you need an answer by x date. Tell her you need to plan for food, etc. If on that date she can't give you a straight answer, just tell her, "oh, that's too bad, we'll miss you." There's no reason you should be left hanging. It sounds to me like she's weighing all her offers and hasn't decided which one is best. Unless of course she has some kind of medical condition and she doesn't know how she will feel from day to day. That's something different all together.
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Do you see her often or just keep inviting her and she is finding other excuses every time you ask? I would stop inviting her and let her make the next move.
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I'd let her know that you need an answer by x date. Tell her you need to plan for food, etc. If on that date she can't give you a straight answer, just tell her, "oh, that's too bad, we'll miss you." There's no reason you should be left hanging. It sounds to me like she's weighing all her offers and hasn't decided which one is best. Unless of course she has some kind of medical condition and she doesn't know how she will feel from day to day. That's something different all together.
I really don't know why she does this. I always give a date to let me know because of the food issue.

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Do you see her often or just keep inviting her and she is finding other excuses every time you ask? I would stop inviting her and let her make the next move.
She lives a street behind us and we see her about 3 nights a week when we do our evening walks.

I just don't know if I should let her know how she is making me feel. Today this really hurt my feelings. I usually just blow this stuff off but for some reason I just can't shake this feeling. Right now I am going to sleep on this and see how I feel about this tomorrow. I knew if I came here to vent you all would let me know what you thought and give me some advice.
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Either sha has commitment issues or as Joann said she wants to see if something better comes along. Does she usually show up when invited? if not I would stop inviting her to anything.
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When are you asking her these things? I seriously never know what's on my calendar, so I sound a lot like your friend when people try to set up dates with me. Unless I'm standing right in front of my calendar, I always tell people that I'll have to get back to them. Then I tell them to e-mail me the date so I don't forget it. I hope I'm not frustrating any of my friends, but I"ve never been able to keep track of dates.

I started using a great app call Cozi. The whole family can keep a centralized calendar on it. Now, it I could only find my cell phone.....
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sounds like my ex-SIL, for her it was a power issue., not sure why, but it made her feel better to make people wait
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Either sha has commitment issues or as Joann said she wants to see if something better comes along. Does she usually show up when invited? if not I would stop inviting her to anything.
She showed up at half of the stuff I invited her to. My DH and have decided if she doesn't show up to our Dd b-day party we are not going to invite her to anything else for awhile.

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When are you asking her these things? I seriously never know what's on my calendar, so I sound a lot like your friend when people try to set up dates with me. Unless I'm standing right in front of my calendar, I always tell people that I'll have to get back to them. Then I tell them to e-mail me the date so I don't forget it. I hope I'm not frustrating any of my friends, but I"ve never been able to keep track of dates.

I started using a great app call Cozi. The whole family can keep a centralized calendar on it. Now, it I could only find my cell phone.....
Most the time is when she is at work and then I give her at least 3 days to check her calender but she still comes back and say she still isn't sure. Like I comment on the last post me and my DH decided to stop inviting her for awhile if she says she can't make it.

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sounds like my ex-SIL, for her it was a power issue., not sure why, but it made her feel better to make people wait
well this is the last time she is going to make me wait. If she doesn't come to this event we are not going to invite her for awhile to anything.

Since me and this friend has a good friendship if she doesn't come to the b-day party I will have a talk to her and let her know that it really hurts my feelings when she says she doesn't know if she can make it to our events. I will let her know I rather her just come out and be honest if she doesn't want to come. I am not sure if she is just afraid to tell me no. If that is the case I rather someone tell me up front then just keep me hanging.
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I'm another who has to check the family calendar before committing to anything. I don't have a good "off the top of my head" memory for stuff like that, so I tend to answer in a similar fashion... or I ask the person to wait while I run downstairs to the fridge so I can check the calendar.
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I'm another who has to check the family calendar before committing to anything. I don't have a good "off the top of my head" memory for stuff like that, so I tend to answer in a similar fashion... or I ask the person to wait while I run downstairs to the fridge so I can check the calendar.
I just wish she was like that. She still doesn't give me a straight answer after even a week to let me know or not. I will just have to see how this one pans out at the end. Other than this issue she is a good friend.
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