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Old 04-04-2011, 06:07 PM   #1
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I live in a community with a lot of retirement facilities. And, once again, I followed an elderly person on the street who was all over the road; up on snowbanks, left side of the road, right through Stop signs without stopping, going over curbs, driving very slowly (15 miles under the speed limit), and braking for no reason. Luckily I was BEHIND this car so I could watch out for them, but it made me wonder what the right thing to do would be? Would you report it to the police? Would they do anything if you did?

This isn't the first time I've come across this and I always wonder if the other driver's driving is any of my business. What to you guys think?
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I work for a police dept and I say DEFINITELY report it to the police. We can send information to the Ministry (Well Ministry in Canada) to have the driver tested. Several seniors hang on too long to the privilege of driving. They don't want to admit that they no longer have the reflexes needed to drive or the judgement. There are too many accidents involving seniors that are just tragic. You need to report them. That is my opinion.
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I would call the police from a cell phone and also get the plate number. I think it can be very hard for family members to get their elderly relatives to give up driving and they may actually appreciate the police intervening. I think it's better to say something before an accident happens.
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ALWAYS intervene when you see unsafe driving. Whether you think a driver is drunk or just incapable of controlling a car. I write down plate numbers, descriptions of the car and driver, and the direction they're heading/location they're at and phone it in.

One time, after I called about a guy I saw ROLL out of the driver's side of his car onto the paved parking lot of a grocery-deli in town, the cops showed up within a minute while the guy was buying cigarettes, did a roadside DUI check, and arrested him on the spot. They told us they were surprised he was still conscious because his BAL was so high.
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As a daughter of an eldery driver, you definitely need to report them. My dad is 85 and needs to go for his driving test every year now. He still drives ok, but we don't want him driving more than necessary and in traffic. He told us to take his license away if we find him not being able to drive. We already took away my moms key's as she is starting to have dementia and got into 2 fender benders within 3 months in 09. I'd rather have the police go see him and prevent him from driving than have them see me after an accident.
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You can anonymously report elderly drivers in your family who you feel need to be road tested again. They will just recieve a notice in the mail.
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You can anonymously report elderly drivers in your family who you feel need to be road tested again. They will just recieve a notice in the mail.
Really????? My DGM is 85 and shouldn't be driving anymore at all! If for some reason she has to take me somewhere I close my eyes and pray the whole way! She drives way under the spped limit, stops where there isn't a sign or light and doesn't stop where there is! It is her last bit of freedom and the whole family has been trying to figure out how we can break it to her we think she shouldn't be driving anymore. We don't want her to be mad at us. She just bought a new car the end of last yr and wouldn't test drive it, she told me too, well I can drive just about anything. Then taking it off the lot to go home she drove with me in the car with her and by the time we got to her house I was like the younge girl in the movie Pacifer. I jumped out and was like LAND!!! LOL
We are in PA so I wonder if it works the same here. Gonna look into it!
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It is her last bit of freedom and the whole family has been trying to figure out how we can break it to her we think she shouldn't be driving anymore.
Sorry - first thing I think is: yep, she has the freedom to go out and kill someone! I know it's seen as a freedom, but it's a privilege afforded to those who can actually do it. It is not a right.

Or, if you know her Doctor's name and number, call their office and suggest this is something that needs evaluated at her next appointment.
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Sorry - first thing I think is: yep, she has the freedom to go out and kill someone! I know it's seen as a freedom, but it's a privilege afforded to those who can actually do it. It is not a right.

Or, if you know her Doctor's name and number, call their office and suggest this is something that needs evaluated at her next appointment.
don't be sorry I agree! As far as freedom I didn't mean driving was a freedom but that because she can still do it legally she is able to drive herself to the grocery store and church, which are pretty much the only 2 places she does drive. She has her license taken away and then she becomes dependent on someone else she will just give up. I am going to discuss with the family tomorrow when I see everyone and see what they want to do. Because it can be done anomiously (sp) then we don't have to worry about her being mad at us and refusing to speak with us it will be ALOT easier.
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because she can still do it legally she is able to drive herself to the grocery store and church, which are pretty much the only 2 places she does drive. She has her license taken away and then she becomes dependent on someone else she will just give up.
I just found out about a service our county offers. They have a free transport service for seniors (they ask for a donation, but they don't actually charge). We've lived here for 16 years, and I never knew about it! Maybe there is a similar service in your area?

I also wanted to tell you that the adjustment period is sometimes difficult, but they don't give up! We had to take the keys from both of my grandparents, and at first they had a hard time being dependent on others, but then they saw it as a great way to spend time with a family member or friend!

Getting grandpa to give up his keys wasn't as hard as we thought it would be. Just telling him "Your response time and your eyesight just aren't what they used to be. We're afraid you're going to hurt yourself or worse someone else."
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I actually did that. When DH was still mobile (progressive MS), and driving....he attended Mass daily. It was in July and the heat bothers those with MS, after morning Mass, he collaspsed in the church parking lot. A fellow parishiner called 911 and they came to assist. Thank goodness I was home "on vacation" and was there when he was brought home. He already told them about his condition and that after resting he would "be better".....I got one of the officers aside (we had a firetruck, a fire transport and police cars there).. and asked if DHs license could be taken away....DH was only in his 50s and not ready to give it up, but I didn't want him driving anymore.....I said that I didn't want DH to know that I had anhything to do with it.....It was taken care of, DH got an official letter sent about the removal of his driving priveledges....he could have "fought" the removal, but he knew that he wouldn't win......It was difficult and he doesn't know that I had anything to do with it but it had to be done.
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I live in a community with a lot of retirement facilities. And, once again, I followed an elderly person on the street who was all over the road; up on snowbanks, left side of the road, right through Stop signs without stopping, going over curbs, driving very slowly (15 miles under the speed limit), and braking for no reason. Luckily I was BEHIND this car so I could watch out for them, but it made me wonder what the right thing to do would be? Would you report it to the police? Would they do anything if you did?

This isn't the first time I've come across this and I always wonder if the other driver's driving is any of my business. What to you guys think?
I would report them. While the elderly's feelings may be hurt, at least nobody will be physically injured (or worse) because of their driving. I think everybody else's driving is MY business because I am sharing the road with them. I don't want someone hurting me or my family, whether it be from an impaired driver or an elderly one.
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I would not have a problem reporting them. It could save their life or someone elses.
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having dealt with this issue with my parents, it is hard, but honestly, does it matter why someone is driving erratically? they need to be reported for everyone's safety. they could be too old, too blind, too medicated, too drunk, too distracted---what ever the reason, please call!
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does it matter why someone is driving erratically? they need to be reported for everyone's safety. they could be too old, too blind, too medicated, too drunk, too distracted---what ever the reason, please call!
Or too young! I've seen far more teenaged, young adult drivers operating like the OP said than elderly drivers.
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