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My ex left three years ago, just as our youngest was graduating from high school. He left not only me and our home, but has had very little contact with the children. He talks to our oldest about sports on occasion but really only sees them once a year for a day or two. He seldom talks to the younger two and may send a card at Christmas and birthdays.
Yesterday I emailed him and update and some details about what the kids are doing. The younger two are getting settled back to school (one undergrad and one graduate school) and our oldest had two great offers for when he finishes law school but is really having a hard time deciding which offer to accept. They are the same salary but one is a more prestigious firm, the other, although an excellent firm a more comfortable but not as ultra competitive. I was hoping he would reach out to the kids-even just an email to check in with them. They are young adults, but I still think they need both parents. He emailed me back two sentences thanking me for the update and commending me on my parenting skills.
I am debating if I should just say thanks and live with it or I should let him know my purpose wasn't to get a comment on my parenting, but for him to take a little more interest in his children maybe give them a call or send an email. I have tried to stay out of their relationships with him, but it makes me sad for the kids that he shows little interest in them.
my ex has little contact with the kids. right or wrong i've had to let him make his own path. you can't force him to be a good parent and at their ages the kids know him too well by now. my dd continues to reach out to him but its not working. my ds has stopped. you have done all you can, just continue to do what you are doing.
I agree - now that your kids are young adults, it's up to them to try and forge a relationship with him (or not.) It's hard to be the only parent with a vested interest in the acheivements and progress of your kids - and you just feel the need to share with someone who loves them the same - but sometimes that's just the way it is.
And sometimes it's that way in families where both parents are still together...
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I agree that since they are in/out of college it's up to them if they want to have
a relationship with their dad. It's nice of you to let him know what is going on in
their lives, but I would just let it go at that.
I would just let it go. Your kids are adults now, and they are the ones to control how much contact they want to have with your ex. It is what it is. You can't force someone to take more of an interest than they want.
My ex has always put himself first, and DD knows that. Now that she is an adult, she contacts him from time to time. However he doesn't share with her very much about what is going on in his life or with the rest of his family, so she prefers to keep him at arm's length as well since she knows she can't count on him.
If your kids want a relationship with your ex, they can negotiate that relationship themselves. The best thing for you to do is keep being there for your kids and showing them that they can count on you. It is your ex's loss if he can't take the initiative to be more involved in their lives. Good luck.
Thanks for the advice. I will not shoot back a email with slightly disguised snarkiness. I think it is even harder for me to understand his lack of involvement because they grew up with him in the house. It's very different from the family I was raised in.
I do take comfort in the fact I am not the only one whose ex lost interest and my kids really don't seem to express a loss.
I do take comfort in the fact I am not the only one whose ex lost interest and my kids really don't seem to express a loss.
The fact that your kids aren't expressing a loss says alot about how involved you are in their lives, you were there for them Speaking as an adult who's father wasn't involved much, you do have to let your kids make the decision to have further contact with their father...they may not want to, and that's ok given he doesn't seem too interested.
Divorce can create wierd situations where family is simply no longer family. If you reached out like that and got a short response back, it looks like a message is being sent. THe ball was pretty much in his court but he isn't playing right now.
Since your kids are young adults, I'd leave the door open in case there is something worthwhile to pursue in the future, and I'd love them twice as much for the moment.
I'd let it go. It's his loss, and in a few years when he's trying to figure out why he doesn't know his children/grandchildren, you can clue him in.
Plus, your kids are adults. I'm sure there's some anger still over him just walking out after a whole lifetime and they might not really want to have contact with him.
You might want to gently remind them them every now and then that they should keep their dad up to date on their accomplishments.
I'd let it go. It's his loss, and in a few years when he's trying to figure out why he doesn't know his children/grandchildren, you can clue him in.
Plus, your kids are adults. I'm sure there's some anger still over him just walking out after a whole lifetime and they might not really want to have contact with him.
You might want to gently remind them them every now and then that they should keep their dad up to date on their accomplishments.
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Speaking as an adult who's father wasn't involved much, you do have to let your kids make the decision to have further contact with their father...they may not want to, and that's ok given he doesn't seem too interested.
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