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Old 07-29-2009, 08:30 PM   #1
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I Knew This Was Coming....

Some of you may remember that I have zero-to-little relationship with my DH's two older children (they're 30 and 29.)

The oldest one at least pretends to be friends when we see each other; when she came to visit us last year however, she spoke all of three sentences to me that weren't responses to direct questions I asked her. But she does always remember her little sisters on their birthday and Christmas.

Dear step-son is another matter. He likes to operate as though I don't exist for the most part; he'll say "hi" if we meet, but that's about it. And he has never really acknowledged Kelley and Cory as his sisters - he's never, ever remembered them on their birthdays or any time, even when we lived in the same town.

He is getting married the last weekend in August. I have absolutely no desire to drive up to MI for the ceremony; neither do Kelley or Cory. And of course, DH happened to mention something about making reservations to go up for the wedding. (Get this - we haven't received an invitation or any information about this wedding except the date. No one has even contacted DH to tell him if he needs to get fitted for a tux or anything!)

SO....I told DH I would rather he go by himself to the wedding.

Is he angry at me? Yep. "But everyone would be just heartbroken if you didn't come." No, they wouldn't!!!

"Well, they would take it as a big insult if you didn't come to their wedding - it's a once-in-a-lifetime event." Hey - DH didn't accompany me out to see my son graduate from Marine Corps bootcamp, and Tyler didn't take it as an insult. (And DH and Tyler have a good relationship.)

I don't think I'm wrong for feeling this way - I'm just wondering what's the best thing to do. I had a very awkward and uncomfortable time three years ago during DH's daughter's wedding - and I think it was pretty obvious her side of the family would have been happier if the girls and I hadn't been there. I just don't see the point in spending the time or extra money going to a wedding of someone who's spent the last 13 years pretending I didn't exist.

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I can certainly understand why you would not want to go to the wedding, but if it really means alot to DH then maybe you should consider going. Sometimes one has to swallow hard and try to please even though it's really difficult, and if you do it would show that you are the mature one.

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I agree with OMD. I also think going would set a nice example for your DD's and they would show respect for their father.
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I would go. You're not going for your step-son, but for your DH. If at all possible, I might leave the girls home. It would be cheaper, and not be a stress for them.

Can your DH call someone involved in the planning of the wedding and ASK what he needs to do? It may be that who ever is in charge of sending out invites didn't think that the father of the groom needed an invite.
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If at all possible, I might leave the girls home. It would be cheaper, and not be a stress for them.

Can your DH call someone involved in the planning of the wedding and ASK what he needs to do? It may be that who ever is in charge of sending out invites didn't think that the father of the groom needed an invite.
I had actually thought about leaving the girls home - although I'm not sure if it could be arranged or not. I may think about that a bit more.

And yes - I'm having DH call tomorrow and find out what's going on about his wedding attire, if nothing else. For all we know, they may be having a backyard ceremony with shorts and flip flops!
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Coming from a blended family myself, I can understand where you're coming from. My mom and my step-fathers two children (41 and 38 - quite a bit older than me but around the same age of my older siblings) have a decent relationship but there have been strained moments. Weddings and funerals are especially interesting, aren't they?

If your hubby is really insistent on how important it is for him for you to be there, I suppose I would go in support. However, I totally think it would be okay to not go. You're not "not going" in a bad spirit - but it's a long drive, a lot of hassle and you and your daughters are not close with your step-son at all.

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I'm sorry your going through this with your step-kids and DH. My DH has 2 kids
from a previous marriage (not bio his) and I went with him to his DD wedding.
Boy that was interesting. Not only was I ignored but DH was treated horribly
by her mom and family. I'm glad I went for him.....but NEVER again. I also told
DH this and the reason was more for how they were treating him.

Good luck in your decision but I wouldn't take your girls and expose them to any
bad feelings or issues.
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with your decision. Since you haven't gotten an invitation yet, maybe no one is invited.
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