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How would you feel if an old flame found your spouse thru a mutal friend on facebook and said spouse accepted their friend request?
I got a little upset (to say the least) and started questioning her motives for seeking out an old flame. Not just a girlfriend, but someone he asked to marry him many, many years ago when they were very young.
I know, I have nothing to worry about and my DH loves me, but I feel there's a reason exes are in the past....leave them there!
What's your thoughts, I asked that he delete her from his friend list...
Would it bother you? Would you mind if they continued their friendship??
I'd probably be a bit upset too but it depends on what his motives are. You say that you know that he loves you then you have nothing to worry about. It could be innocent and all he wants to do is see what she's up to these days. Its not like he seeked her out. But you know the situation better than I. Hope everything goes ok. Take care.
A shorter-term, more casual relationship from high school or college days wouldn't bother at all......but something that was that serious would, if I'm being honest.
I think the bottom line is that if it truly bothers you, he should not accept the friend request. Your wife comes before your friends.
A shorter-term, more casual relationship from high school or college days wouldn't bother at all......but something that was that serious would, if I'm being honest.
I think the bottom line is that if it truly bothers you, he should not accept the friend request. Your wife comes before your friends.
I would be very upset also. I also think that past relationships need to stay in the past. I am not very trusting about things like that so I know I would definitly ask my DH to not keep the friend.
I wish I could say don't worry about it but I am a non-trusting sort of girl
Back in the day it might've, but not now, he's earned my trust. But if I made a stink about it, he'd let me delete her. I think he'd like it if I got a little jealous, and he's not the type to make an issue out of the whole thing, he knows we're a unit, not "individuals."
I do have old flames in my friend list...DH could give a care.
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We had pretty much this same situation come up...a woman that DH dated for 7 years and was practically engaged to found him on FB and sent a friend request. DH told me about it and asked me what I'd like him to do. I thought about it for a couple of days and they decided that it was okay for him to accept. I really appreciated his honesty. He also gave me the password to his FB account and told me that I could go into it and check his messages, etc., any time I wanted to, in case I was worried about it. I did log in to his account, but only to post my most favorite pictures of our family -- the ones that really show how happy we all are and demonstrate that we are clearly in this thing for LIFE! LOL Since then, I've never gone to see if she's sent him messages or something. I know I can trust him. He also has his settings set up so everyone sees anything that is posted to his wall, so I know what's going on there, too.
I think it goes back to how open you're all being about things and how much you trust him. I know that if I asked him to, DH would de-friend the ex in a flash. And, in my own twisted mind, I see it as an opportunity to demonstrate to the ex just how lucky he was to find ME and what a wonderful life we have together!
i guess i have a different take on it, but it wouldn't bother me in the least. i think it is great to keep in touch with those from ones past...guess it has to do with how secure you are. but i can understand your point, it just isn't how i would think about it to be honest with you....
Personally, if I really trusted the person, I wouldn't give a flying flip. I have old boyfriends as my "Facebook friends" and the thought that there was anything more than that there is ridiculous. So I would apply this same mentality to his Facebook-befriending his exes. The only situation that might make me uncomfortable is if this ex was harrassing or being inappropriate to my husband/boyfriend/whatever. But if it was just normal Facebook behavior, wouldn't bother me.
Yes, it would bother me. This does not pertain to you. But I know you are not alone here when it comes to Facebook, and my husband swears that divorce rates are going to rise just as a result of this website. I love this site, and am addicted to it, but I think it has the potential to cause lots of problems. I have some people that I dated casually in high school as friends on my FB--- I also have quite a few people my husband dated casually on my FB (we grew up in the same neighborhood, so while growing up, he had dated a few of my friends), that doesn't bother us at all, but the very serious relationships--- I could definitely see how that could become an issue.
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Hmmm - I do have an ex-boyfriend on FB but if DH asked me to delete him I absolutely would. He was just a high school boyfriend and there are no lingering feelings at all. He's just a nice guy I went to high school with now. But if DH asked me to delete him for any reason, I would. If DH had an ex-girlfriend as a friend, I don't think it would bother me unless they were really talking or communicating. I do not speak to my ex-bf on FB except to say, "Cute pic of your son!" or something along those lines.
You have found the downfall of facebook. As an avid user, I can tell you that this issue comes up with just about every couple. I can say from personal experience, that it does bother me to some degree that some old flame is trying to contact my DFia, or in your case DH. But - Dfia really puts me at ease by allowing me to see her information, I let him see my ex's info as well. Just having that openness between us takes away the stress and takes away the need to know what's going on. As long as he's open about their communication with one another I wouldn't worry about it Good luck with everything! I know it can be a sticky conversation...
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If DH had an ex-girlfriend as a friend, I don't think it would bother me unless they were really talking or communicating. I do not speak to my ex-bf on FB except to say, "Cute pic of your son!" or something along those lines. 
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