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Old 09-15-2008, 11:30 AM   #1
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Am I wrong to feel hurt?

Let me start with yesterday was my BD & we had a party here. We invited friends & family, Mike manned the Bar-b-q and we had quite a spread for everyone.
I invited a very good friend, She & her DH said they would be here. Saturday she called and said "can't wait till tomorrow!, See you at 4PM"
Sunday afternoon she called & said "don't know if we will make it over, Sorry..Will call you later" She never called back, never showed up. This is the 4th time she has done this & I am hurt. We have been friends for about 15 years. I really don't understand their behaviour & am hurt over this. Should I stop inviting her to parties, etc?
am I out of line to be hurt?
Funny thing is another friend that I really didn't think would be here
(her son passed away last week) did come over...
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Old 09-15-2008, 11:39 AM   #2
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I have a friend just like that. I tell her I am coming to town, we should get together, we make plans and then something always comes up. I have gotten used to it actually. You are not wrong to feel hurt. All people set their priorities differently. I would let her know that it hurt you and maybe she will reconsider her priorities next time.
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Old 09-15-2008, 11:45 AM   #3
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Sorry, you feel that way. I would be upset also. But you could call and tell her you did miss her.
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You are not wrong to feel hurt.

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Ueah I would be hurt and have been hurt that way from friends. But hopefully nothing was wrong at her home that prevented her from coming over or calling, That has also happened to me. I was calling someone on their cell phone and was upset that thye did not answer as they were suppose to give me some last minute direction. It turns out when I was calling they had just found their eldery mom on the floor of her home. She had died. They were sitting with her on the floor when i was calling. talk about feeling bad for a different reason
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I would feel bummed out by it as well. I wonder if there was something wrong or they just decided not to show up? I would ask what they did that day and go from there. I wouldn't mind inviting them in the future, just as long as you know it's 50/50 if they even show up. Hope you had a nice birthday though!
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I would be feeling hurt to if that was me. I hope you were still able to have a good time at your party, belated :happybbirthday:
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No, you are not wrong for feeling hurt.


Sounds like this person has a lot going on in her life. Maybe too much...
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This is the 4th time she did this? I think I would stop inviting her!!!

See what she does.
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No - I don't think you are wrong to feel hurt! I would have felt the same way.
I hope you had a great party anyway!
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I am sorry she did that and you have the right to feel hurt, and no one should make you feel bad for well feeling bad! Your allowed to feel so!

I will say Happy Belated Birthday!
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We did have a wonderful day, Thanks!
Also I talked to her & everything in her world is fine..
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Belated Happy Birthday!

Does she know that it would mean a lot for her to come when you invite her? If you have been friends for a long time, it seems weird that she would try to wreck your friendship over something like this. I hope you had fun anyways!
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We did have a wonderful day, Thanks!
Also I talked to her & everything in her world is fine..
Did she give any kind of explanation for not showing up? Its too bad and I really understand feeling hurt. I would too.
Did you tell her that you were looking forward to seeing her?
I have had it happen to me. Worse though is when your Family does it. I do the Family gatherings now ( though i don't know why ) ok I do them because I was the boys to have some sort of idea of Family gathering and If I did not then they would miss out. But I have a sister who either shows up late or not at all you never know. Her reasons are always made up becasue the real reason why is she is trying to avoid something. My fathers wife is the same. though now her excuse will be that something came up with my Father that kept them from coming on time.
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