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I rarely ask for this type of advice but I'm really stumped here. I heard today from a friend that someone is spreading very vicious gossip about one of my other friends. (They don't know each other but know of each other.) This friend has had a very rough time recently and apparently shared her tale of woe with this person and this person has now warped the story and is telling everyone who will listen these horrible things! They aren't lies exactly as there is a small nugget of truth in some things, but they are very overblown exaggerations. This is very private stuff that is being blown out of proportion and could be very harmful to my friends reputation.
So, my question - do I tell her? I'm not sure what the point of telling her would be. I would hate for her and this person to get in a fight but on the other hand, I would want to know if someone was telling these lies (we'll call them lies becasue they basically are) about me. But I also don't want to get in the middle or even make something worse. And I don't want to hurt her feelings. What would you do?
Wow, that is a hard one! I'm not sure what I would do...but I know I would want to know I were the person the lies were being spread about.... for your decision. Can you tell her without naming the person spreading the lies? You could also correct the misinformation as you hear about it. I hope you solve your dilemma!
...or just firmly...let her know that she's twisting the truth, and that you know about it and to knock it off!!! I'm a big fan of the frank discussion...not threatenting, just truthful and resolute.....without stirring up a bunch of "in between" messes, I'd try and give your other friend a heads up about what a poor confidant person A is....to save her from going through this again.
Sorry ya'll, but you really WOULDN'T want to know - people will either believe or not the stories, but if YOU knew, you'd be hurt and upset and it would eat at you. If you don't know, no problem. Those that know both will see the (small) truth in the lies, and seperate the two. People who know the liar only will not care.
The most I'd do is talk to the liar and ask them to stop. Your friend talked about her problems with the expectation that they wouldn't be told to everyone or expanded upon.
Unfortunately, I don't actually know the person spreading the lies. But I'll meet her soon as it turns out our sons will be on the same Pre-K class in the fall!
Unfortunately, I don't actually know the person spreading the lies. But I'll meet her soon as it turns out our sons will be on the same Pre-K class in the fall!
Well, you will know she's not a trustworthy person! :
Unfortunately, I don't actually know the person spreading the lies. But I'll meet her soon as it turns out our sons will be on the same Pre-K class in the fall!
She sounds malicious! If you don't know the rumor-spreader, I'd stay out of the middle as much as possible (and then be very careful of what I said around Ms. Rumors once the kids are in pre-school). I'd tell the friend you know that you've heard some things (you don't have to tell her exactly what unless she wants to know and you're willing to tell her). You could even say that you don't know where the rumors started, but you wanted her to know its out there. If she wants to know where you heard it, let her know, but I'd let your friend decide how much information she wants by putting the ball in her corner as much as possible during the conversation. It's a tough decision, and I think you ought to go with whatever makes you feel most comfortable, but I'm just saying, if it were me... I'd try to stay away from the middleman role by giving the friend the basics of it, and then stepping back. For the general public who hears the rumor, it will probably be forgotten about in another year or two, but for the two women - the anger/bitterness could last much longer. I guess the question is: if that were to happen, would you want yourself to be associated with it?
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Unfortunately, I don't actually know the person spreading the lies. But I'll meet her soon as it turns out our sons will be on the same Pre-K class in the fall!
The only remedy to this is Mickey Bars.
Seriously, when I hear of this I will say, "really, well Friend1 told me herself what happened." I then talk to the person who has modified the truth a bit.
I changed my mind: What I tell my middle school kids when they tell my someone is spreading rumors or they tell me a rumor, I ask, "Did you hear this directly (or see the incendent) from the person, or did you hear about it from someone else? If you didn't see it with your own eyes or you didn't hear it with your own ears, it didn't happen the way you were told." If you are comfortable with the person who has just shared what the heard from someone who heard it from someone, who heard it from someone else, tell them directly what your friend has shared with you so the truth gets out there.
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I would take the friend who is having the troubles out to lunch and very gently break the news to her. Tell her in no way are you trying to upset her (even though we all know that's what happens) but feels she needs to know that someone she trusts and confided in is spreading her business. Then let her handle it however she chooses.
If the blabbermouth comes back to you (should the friend mention who told her) then tell her she has a big mouth that needs to be shut-she has no business spreading someone else's personal matters around and how would SHE feel if the shoes were on the other foot?
This drives me insane when so-called "friends" do this-how long ago did we leave the kindergarten playground anyway?
I would take the friend who is having the troubles out to lunch and very gently break the news to her. Tell her in no way are you trying to upset her (even though we all know that's what happens) but feels she needs to know that someone she trusts and confided in is spreading her business. Then let her handle it however she chooses.
That's what I would do, too, as long as you are confident that the rumor spreading is coming from this woman. (You wouldn't want to spread even more rumors).
Although I wouldn't want to hear any rumors that had been spread about me, I would want to know if someone I had trusted and confided in had violated that trust and had given out personal information.
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